It would be so great if we could be in two places at once because as mothers, we're often trying to do that.
We want to be there for every moment and milestone, but the fact is, we can't. Sometimes we're in the other room when baby takes their first steps and sometimes we have to be at work during our kid's big ballet recital.
That's exactly what happened to Busy Tonight host Busy Philipps on Friday. Her 5-year-old, Cricket, had a ballet recital, but Busy had to work. Luckily, FaceTime came to the rescue.
"Being a working parent sometimes is unbelievably heartbreaking and hard but thank god for FaceTime (even if it's blurry),' she captioned an Instagram post showing her screenshot.
Busy is so right. It is hard to have to make choices and admit that we can't be everywhere at once. Motherly's 2018 State of Motherhood Survey found 78% of mothers surveyed have mixed feelings about combining a career and motherhood, and that "there are real tradeoffs".
Having to FaceTime into your kid's dance recital so that you can smash glass ceilings in a television genre dominated by men—yeah, that's a tradeoff.
But it is also okay.
It's okay for Busy to love her job and not be physically present for this one recital, because (if you follow her on Instagram, you know) she's present and engaged in so many other moments of Cricket's little life.
Our kids know that we are there, that we love them, and that we would be there for every moment if we could. But the reality is that (even if you are a stay at home parent) there are times when you will miss something.
Obviously, someone was at Cricket's recital, holding up their iPhone, and Cricket will know that she had people in the audience and that Busy saw her in action.
Being a working parent can be unbelievably heartbreaking, but she's making it work, and so are you, mama.
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