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I’m raising a funny daughter—and wouldn’t want it any other way

We were rushing around to get out the door on time this morning (...again) and I was trying to encourage my daughter to eat her breakfast while I finished getting ready.


As I was brushing my teeth, my three and a half-year-old ran into the bathroom with a huge smile on, peanut butter smeared all over her face, and socks on her hands.

I was exhausted and it wasn't even 10:00 a.m. yet. Plus, we weren't even close to leaving.

“Come on, honey! Why are you covered in peanut butter? We're trying to get ready so we can get in the car.”

I was annoyed and was quickly losing my patience.

She looked up at me with major disappointment in her eyes and said, “I was just trying to be funny, Mom.”

She looked so sad.

She tried to make me laugh, and in her eyes, she failed. I could tell she was embarrassed. I could tell her ego was bruised because her joke fell flat. Because she didn't get the laugh she was hoping for—especially when she usually does.

I know she felt this way because I see how her ability to make others laugh is one of my daughter's strongest qualities. It’s something she relies on to make connections with other people. It gives her a sense of empowerment, a sense of self.

She often says, “Mom, I'm funny, right?!” Then I say yes (because honestly, she really is!) then she says, “Watch this!” and does something hilarious. She is proud to be funny.

Her sense of humor is a huge reason why she's a confident, self-assured little girl.

Her sense of humor gives her courage.

I often watch her go right up to other kids and introduce herself. I see my baby tell a funny story to a big group of people without batting an eye. She does great impressions, the funniest faces and the silliest dances—in front of other girls, boys, adults, etc—and she doesn't hold back. She will make you laugh no matter who you are or how old you are.

She jumps right into everything she does—unafraid of falling.

Her sense of humor gives her power.

Trying to make someone laugh requires vulnerability. But with the openness and honesty of vulnerability comes power.

She's asking to be seen, she's demanding to be heard. She's putting herself out there—unsure of whether she'll succeed or not—but taking the risk anyway.

Her sense of humor gives her confidence.

My daughter started preschool this year and so I just had my first ever parent teacher conference last week. And you know what they said about my baby girl? That she's confident and comfortable and has jumped right in with all the children since day one.

Now I'd love for my husband and I to be able to take most of the credit for the confidence our daughter has, but honestly it has a lot to do with her ability to make people laugh. Trying to make someone laugh requires you to believe in yourself. It requires you to know that you're worthy of people listening to you.

Her sense of humor gives her a zest for life.

She is one enthusiastic, positive, happy little lady. She goes hard. She smiles with her whole body. She laughs with her whole heart. She truly makes the most out of every second of every day.

She spends a lot of her day “cracking up” as she says, and she keeps us cracking up all day too.

I am one proud mama.

So, my funny girl, I want you to remember a few things—

Never be afraid to be the one who laughs the loudest.

Never be afraid to take up space. Let your presence be known. Let people hear your voice. You have a lot to say. And it's definitely worth hearing.

Never be afraid to speak up and crack that joke. Making people laugh is good for the soul. And sure, it may not always work—but when it does, it'll make any of the failed attempts worth it.

Never be afraid to laugh at yourself. Don't take yourself too seriously. Life is supposed to be fun.

Never be afraid to be who you truly are—without fear or doubt or hesitation.

Because you're really funny.

Like peanut butter all over your face, socks on your hands really funny.

Mom life demands efficiency. Because while the amount of hours in the day are the same as before kids, now a sizable chunk of that time is spent caring for and loving on those little people. Compromises happen—and let's just be honest, the old beauty routine is one of the first things to get cut.

But, wait! You don't have to sacrifice putting on mascara or, worse, skipping the SPF. Instead, why not flip it, reverse it, and look at the bright side? Here's your opportunity to streamline your morning makeup routine. With some savvy skin care and beauty hacks, you can get your radiant glow on in record time.

Here are our tried-and-true hacks passed down from Motherly mamas:

1. Embrace multipurpose items

If the most pressing issue is limited time, consolidate multiple steps of your beauty routine with a multipurpose item. For example, instead of starting with a SPF moisturizer, followed by spot concealer and a blendable foundation, you can take care of all of that in one go with one of our favorites: Earth Mama's 3-in-one Lady Face™ Tinted Mineral Sunscreen. The beauty stick also allows you to easily fold SPF 40 into your routine, because Lady Face doubles as super-safe, clean sun protection. Even better? The sunscreen blocks blue light from those ever-present digital screens with a ray-scattering, non-nano formula.

2. Revive dried mascara

Especially after a sleepless night (#motherhood), mascara can make a major difference in how well rested you appear to be. If you realize your tube of mascara is dried out, don't write it off as a lost cause. Simply soak the sealed tube in warm water to loosen up the mascara — or add a drop of a multi-purpose saline solution into the tube. That should do the trick until you have time to buy a replacement. (But let's face it: You're a mom. It's okay if you're tired.)

3. Keep coconut oil handy

Coconut oil isn't just for the kitchen. From a DIY hair mask to an in-a-pinch lip balm or naturally removing makeup at the end of the day, coconut oil's cosmetic hack-list is long. For summer, we especially like adding a thin swipe of organic extra virgin coconut oil to the cheekbones at the end of the makeup routine for a bit of an extra glow.

4. Multitask while deep conditioning

If your hair needs a bit of TLC, consider applying a natural, paraben-free deep conditioner before doing chores around the house or even a short workout. By working up a bit of a sweat, the conditioner will set even better before you rinse off in the shower.

5. Start your hair care routine the night before

As you work to find your new normal morning routine, it can help to simply reschedule a task or two—like hair. If you shower the night before, get a jumpstart on your look by blowdrying, straightening or even braiding it for loose waves in the morning.

6. Even out your skin tone

Between multiple wake-ups during the night and wavering hormones, complexion issues can become a thing for most mamas. Thankfully, the hack for managing that is as simple as finding a great foundation that goes on smoothly and doesn't cake or crack through a morning of momming. Scope out the ingredient list for naturally nourishing components like coconut oil, shea butter or beeswax — and skip the stress (and the return process if the shade doesn't match) by going for something that easily blends with most skin tones.

7. Find brands your feel great about

As a mom, you might find yourself considering bigger life questions: Are my cosmetics safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding? Are they helping the world my children will grow up in? Can I trust the ingredients and mission? Pro tip: read the ingredients on all your personal care products, memorize the ones you want to avoid, and look for third-party certification to ensure the product is actually what it says it is. When you find a brand that walks the talk, you're going to want to be loyal.

8. When in doubt, go for a bold lip

With happy hours swapped for play dates, your daily routine may look a bit different than it used to. But who says you have to leave your personal style behind? If you've always been a fan of makeup and going a bit glam, keep going for it, mama! The extra 60 seconds it takes to apply lipstick or whatever else gives you a bit of pep in your step is well worth it.


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