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20 reasons why being a mom of 3 totally rocks

3. You can actually enjoy what’s precious about each stage.

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Congrats—you have three kids! Or maybe you're a mom of two who just popped positive on a home pregnancy test (?) and are wondering what exactly you've gotten yourself into.

As moms of three, we're here to spill some secrets: It. Is. Amazing.

Don't let scary articles on the Internet or strangers' unsolicited comments worry you: having a trio of tiny people is totally awesome.

As moms of three, here are 20 reasons why this life rocks:


1. Newborns don't scare you

Remember when your firstborn came along and you had no clue what you were doing? But now, late night feedings feel like old hat and you've got a lactation consultant's number already saved in your phone. You've already built up incredible muscles in this momlife, so you have the confidence to deal with newborns like a pro.

2. You learn to accept your amazing body

With three kids, there's little time to fret about love handles or silvery stretch marks. You want to model self-empowerment for your (many!) kids and decide that the three humans you made are proof enough that you = amazing hotness.

3. You can actually enjoy what's precious about each stage

By the time you have three kids, you realize just how fast it all goes. Your third baby brings so much pure joy—unlike the first time around when that joy was mixed with nervousness and worry about if you were doing it right. (You were, you just didn't realize it, mama.) By the third baby, it's all joy.

4. You get the most out of your hand-me-downs

Kids products and clothes can get expensive, but the budget goes a LOT further if you pass those items down to multiple children. Plus you don't mind investing in a nicer version of an outfit or piece of gear because you know you'll get real use out of it—making more room in the budget for mom + baby items you adore.

5. You become a master of efficiency

Give a mom-of-three 30 minutes and she'll vacuum the house, answer 4 work emails, pinch her husband's butt and squeeze in a power shower. And take several very deep, long breaths while alone in her closet.

6. Your children become more independent—by necessity

Ever try to breastfeed your baby while getting your older kids out the door for school? You quickly learn that tots need to dress themselves and take some responsibility around here for once! ? Because a mama-of-three's attention is (understandably) divided and she can't possibly do everything for everyone, kids learn to care for their basic needs sooner. And they can actually do it! Even preschoolers can do things like pour themselves water, put their shoes on and brush their teeth with some coaching. (Psst, this is really good for them, too!)

7. You become open-hearted

By the time you have three kids, your sense of control is gone—in a good way. Your heart opens to the stray cat who needs a home, the friend who needs a place to crash for a few days, and the little old lady who needs visitors. You know you can't do everything, but realize that this season of your life is full of people and service and sacrifice. Your heart opens up to it.

8. You learn how to simplify

With three kids, the “stuff" can really pile up. Moms-of-three learn that life is better with less, and we choose to let it GOOOOO (sing it Elsa.) And P.S., learn how we do it with The Simplified Home, Motherly's 48 hour decluttering class. Seriously, life-changing.

9. You cook in bulk like a pro

Give a mom of three two hours on Sunday night and she'll make oatmeal for the week, Instapot enough frozen chicken to last until Super Bowl Sunday, and pack lunch for three. She's got this.

10. You know where to get the best deal on everything

Bulk coffee? Amazon. Bulk diapers? Walmart. Bulk. . . vacations (can that be a thing?). . . Airbnb?

11. But you only spend money on what really matters

Like OMG bonnets. Yes, three kids can get pricey. But with a budget to stretch, moms-of-three say “bye bye!" to wasting money on needless activities, cheap junk, or overpriced clothes. You learn to spend money on what really matters: simple, high quality toys—and a babysitter for date night out.

12. Your negotiation skills are on point

Used car salesmen know better than to try to out-negotiate a mom of three. You just dealt with your oldest's Peppa-pig related meltdown, while convincing your toddler to eat her broccoli, while shushing a baby back to sleep over the video monitor. Hostage negotiators have nothing on these mamas.

13. Your friends see you as their motherhood guru

“Share your sleeping-through-the-night secrets with me, oh wise one." You are the all-knowing one of your mom squad, and your friends have nothing but respect. (Smart ladies.)

14. You get really creative about sex

“Hey, the baby's asleep, our preschooler is at a playdate and I think our oldest is working on a coloring book. We've got 9 minutes. . . meet me upstairs?"

15. Sitting 3 across car seats (it can be done)

Yes, it can be done. By squeezing your three into the back seat, you're a one-woman HOV lane. You don't need to upgrade to a bigger car (yet!) if you don't want to. You make energy efficiency look so good.

16. You rock babywearing

You know those amazingly-cool-looking, Boho-chic Instagram mamas wearing their babies all wrapped up while sipping Tumeric tea as a Spring breeze floats by? THIS IS YOU. With two other kids to keep track of, babywearing becomes a way of life. (Ahem: free hands, FTW!) You trendy thang, you.

17. You've got the whole birth order thing down

Wth a trio of kids, birth order becomes super real to you. Your oldest aims to please, your middle is adaptive, and your baby is, well—he's your baby. Many of the insights around birth order apply—and help you understand what each of your children needs.

18. No child left behind

When you have three kids you've entered constant-child-counting land, making sure nobody gets left behind at Chuck E. Cheese. One-two-three, one-two-three might sound like a dance move, but it's the rhythm of counting that moms do to make sure everyone is A-OKAY.

19. Your littles love on each other

There's nothing cuter than your older kids fawning over the “widdle bay-bee." Watching your kids develop a bond with each other is one of the most life-affirming things to witness—knowing they're going to get to be buds for the rest of their lives.

20. You actually make time for self care

With 3 kids, self-care is not optional—in fact, it becomes a way to make sure you are up to the daily challenge. Whether it's rising up early to drink coffee in silence, finding a gym with built-in childcare (score!) or handing off the Saturday morning shift to dad, moms-of-three know that self-care is essential. If only we could have known that as first-time-mamas!

Managing life with three is easier when you have the right things on hand. Here are some of our favorites.

Stylish diaper bag

Mina Baie vegan kinney

As the carrier of all the things, you deserve a good looking bag. This chic and versatile style from Mina Baie can be carried as a tote, backpack or crossbody bag and looks so good no one would suspect it's a diaper bag.

$151

An easy-to-wear baby carrier

BABYBJ\u00d6RN Baby Carrier One

​You're a real superhero, mama. With your little one strapped to you, you're free to wrangle, play and manage everybody else like a pro. We love this structured, supportive carrier from BABYBJÖRN for its ease of use and longevity. Why stop at three kids? 😉

$200

A dash of self care

Maude bath soak

Sneak away and lock the bathroom door, mama. This gentle soothing soak from Maude contains coconut milk and dead sea salts to create the 20 minute getaway you've been looking for.

$18

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14 Toys that will keep your kids entertained inside *and* outside

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

$30

Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!

$75

Detective set

Plan Toys detective setDetective Set

This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

$40

Wooden doll stroller

Janod wooden doll strollerWooden Doll Stroller

Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.

$120

Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

$30

Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

$100

Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

$40

Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

$121

Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.

$100

Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.

$45

Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.

$179

Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.

$100

Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.

$33

Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.

$88

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Tips parents need to know about poor air quality and caring for kids with asthma

There are steps parents can take to keep their children as healthy as possible.

When wildfires struck the West Coast in September 2020, there was a lot for parents to worry about. For parents of children with asthma, though, the danger could be even greater. "There are more than 400 toxins that are present in wildfire smoke. That can activate the immune system in ways that aren't helpful by both causing an inflammatory response and distracting the immune system from fighting infection," says Amy Oro, MD, a pediatrician at Stanford Children's Health. "When smoke enters into the lungs, it causes irritation and muscle spasms of the smooth muscle that is around the small breathing tubes in the lungs. This can lead to difficulty with breathing and wheezing. It's really difficult on the lungs."

With the added concern of COVID-19 and the effect it can have on breathing, many parents feel unsure about how to keep their children protected. The good news is that there are steps parents can take to keep their children as healthy as possible.

Here are tips parents need to know about how to deal with poor air quality when your child has asthma.

Minimize smoke exposure.

Especially when the air quality index reaches dangerous levels, it's best to stay indoors as much as possible. You can find out your area's AQI at AirNow.gov. An under 50 rating is the safest, but between 100-150 is considered unhealthy for sensitive groups, such as children with asthma. "If you're being told to stay indoors, listen. If you can, keep the windows and doors closed," Oro says.

Do your best to filter the air.

According to Oro, a HEPA filter is your best bet to effectively clean pollutants from the air. Many homes are equipped with a built-in HEPA filter in their air conditioning systems, but you can also get a canister filter. Oro says her family (her husband and children all suffer from asthma) also made use of a hack from the New York Times and built their own filter by duct taping a HEPA furnace filter to the front of a box fan. "It was pretty disgusting what we accumulated in the first 20 hours in our fan," she says.

Avoid letting your child play outside or overly exert themselves in open air.

"Unfortunately, cloth masks don't do very much [to protect you from the smoke pollution]," Oro says. "You really need an N95 mask, and most of those have been allocated toward essential workers." To keep at-risk children safer, Oro recommends avoiding brisk exercise outdoors. Instead, set up an indoor obstacle course or challenge your family to jumping jacks periodically to keep everyone moving safely.

Know the difference between smoke exposure and COVID-19.

"COVID-19 can have a lot of the same symptoms—dry cough, sore throat, shortness of breath and chest pain could overlap. But what COVID and other viruses generally cause are fever, chills, vomiting, diarrhea and body aches. Those would tell you it's not just smoke exposure," Oro says. When a child has been exposed to smoke, they often complain of a "scrape" in their throat, burning eyes, cough, shortness of breath, chest pain or wheezing. If the child has asthma, parents should watch for a flare of symptoms, such as coughing, wheezing or a tight sensation in their chest.

Unfortunately, not much is known about long-term exposure to wildfire smoke on a healthy or compromised immune system, but elevated levels of air pollution have been associated with increased COVID-19 rates. That's because whenever there's an issue with your immune system, it distracts your immune system from fighting infections and you have a harder time fighting off viruses. Limiting your exposure to wildfire smoke is your best bet to keep immune systems strong.

Have a plan in place if you think your child is suffering from smoke exposure.

Whatever type of medication your child takes for asthma, make sure you have it on-hand and that your child is keeping up with regular doses. Contact your child's pediatrician, especially if your area has a hazardous air quality—they may want to adjust your child's medication schedule or dosage to prevent an attack. Oro also recommends that, if your child has asthma, it might be helpful to have a stethoscope or even a pulse oximeter at home to help diagnose issues with your pediatrician through telehealth.

Most importantly, don't panic.

In some cases, social distancing and distance learning due to COVID may be helping to keep sensitive groups like children with asthma safer. Oro says wildfires in past years have generally resulted in more ER visits for children, but the most recent fires haven't seen the same results. "A lot of what we've seen is that the smoke really adversely affects adults, especially older adults over 65," Oro says. "Children tend to be really resilient."

This article was sponsored by Stanford Children's Health. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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