Your children need to be BORED

If we don’t allow children to be bored, they’ll always expect to be entertained.

Your children need to be BORED
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With summer fast approaching, a chief complaint among many parents is worrying about boredom.


“My children are always complaining about how bored they are! We have millions of toys and activities, but if our children have 15 minutes free minutes, they are lost. I am dreading summer!”

As a parent coach with young kids myself, I know it can be tough to allow your children to be bored. And I also know that the answer is as simple as it is difficult.

You have to allow your child to be bored.

But how? “How do I allow my child to be bored?” you ask. Well, you just do. You have to not get sucked into the whining and complaining. You have to not get sucked into, “All of my toys are stupid” or “I have plaaaaayed that game a hundred times, mooooom.”

To begin, start small with allowing boredom!

“You have time between 1-3 PM to find something to do. I can give you one or two ideas. Let me know.”

Then you have to hold on for dear life. Your child is going to follow you around, whining, crying and muttering about his or her extreme boredom. As the parent, you will have thoughts like, “This child has everything, how can he possibly be bored?” Or, “I work and work and work and still, these children are sucking me dry. I NEED A BREAK.” Or “I never bothered my parents like this when I was younger.”

As these thoughts cycle in and out, you must simply breathe. Rest-assured that as you weather this storm, the child will eventually tire and find something to do. The more you have interfered in the past, the longer this process may take, but it is worth it. Why?

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When children are bored, their creative juices start to flow again. The BBC in fact published an article citing the importance of the boredom-creativity link.

“The academic, who has previously studied the impact of television and videos on children’s writing, said: “When children have nothing to do now, they immediately switch on the TV, the computer, the phone or some kind of screen. The time they spend on these things has increased.”

“But children need to have stand-and-stare time, time imagining and pursuing their own thinking processes or assimilating their experiences through play or just observing the world around them.”

“It is this sort of thing that stimulates the imagination,” she said, while the screen “tends to short circuit that process and the development of creative capacity’.”

The irony is that the more we don’t allow our children to be bored, the more accustomed they become to being entertained. The more entertained the children are, the deeper the brain habits are ingrained. Their young brains are literally conditioned to constant entertainment, whether it is from a parent or caregiver or technology.

Look at this summer as an opportunity to break your children from this cycle! Go on technology fasts and, while I love enrichment activities, think of holding a firm boundary on only one or two.

Stay strong, don’t give into the whining, and watch what happens. Creativity will bloom before you know it.

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