You’re pregnant! Now what? A to-do list for your first trimester

Eek! We are crazy excited for you. Here’s what’s next. 

You’re pregnant!  Now what? A to-do list for your first trimester

? Celebrate!

Most women find out they’re pregnant before morning sickness strikes, so we hope you take time to toast (a nonalcoholic beverage) to the amazing miracle you just created.

There’s nothing more incredible than going from just the two of you to a family. We’re so excited for you, and we hope you take the time to enjoy your partner and write down your feelings, memories and experiences. Think about capturing as many of your pregnancy reveals as you can—on video, if possible. Trust us: You’ll cherish them later.


It’s going down for real.

Tell your partner—in style.

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Maybe you both watched as the pregnancy test revealed two little lines (AHH!), but if you need a fun way to reveal the news to your partner, we’re all. About. It.

What could possibly be cuter than a woman telling her man they’re going to have a baby?

We’re crushing all over these adorable viral videos and hope you find an inspired way to let your husband know he’s going to be a daddy. ?

Try not to worry.

The risk of miscarriage decreases with each week of pregnancy. Most miscarriages occur within the first 13 weeks of pregnancy.

Most miscarriages are believed to be caused by non-preventible genetic abnormalities in the fetus.

We know it can be so hard not to worry, so make sure you chat with your doctor about any specific concerns.

This is the beginning of the journey to motherhood. It’s not an easy road to walk, but it’s so worth it.

Brush up on those dietary rules.

Nix the alcohol for now (you can start chilling the champagne for your trip home from the hospital) and cut down on caffeine. Experts recommend consuming a max of 200 mg of caffeine (one 12-ounce cup of coffee) a day during pregnancy to play it safe.

Since pregnant women are at increased risks for foodborne illness, OB-GYNs say that we should cut out blue cheese for nine months, too. (You’re lucky we already love you, little one.)

Here’s what else they say pregnant women should avoid:

  • Unpasteurized milk and foods made with unpasteurized milk
  • Hot dogs, lunch meats and cold cuts unless they are heated until steaming hot just before serving
  • Refrigerated paté and meat spreads
  • Refrigerated smoked seafood
  • Raw and undercooked seafood, eggs and meat

Get yourself to an OB.

Visit your doctor as soon as you can in your early pregnancy.

Not only might you get an early sneak peek of your little one inside your womb, but seeing your doctor early in the trimester can help detect issues with hormone levels, underlying health issues or even nutritional deficiencies.

You’ll be visiting the doctor every month for the next two trimesters (and much more frequently after that), so make sure you’re heading to a doctor you trust.

You two are going to become verrrrry intimate very soon.

Keep up your fitness routine. ?‍♀️

Even light exercise during pregnancy can do wonders for your baby’s development, your weight gain, and even your labor and delivery.

Whatever physical activity feels right for you, go for it. Continuing to exercise at your usual activity level is okay. (As always, talk to your doctor.)

But after that...

Get R&R on repeat.

No, seriously. Rest as hard as you can right now.

Many women experience serious fatigue in the first trimester, and even if you’re not there yet, you have a big, incredible journey ahead of you.

Before you know it you might be coping with morning sickness or jumping up at night 50 times to pee—and just wait until rolling over in bed becomes an Olympic sport. ?

You have our blessing to enjoy all the fluffy pillows and celebrity magazines and reality TV shows you can possibly handle.

Try watching our list of amazing movies for new mamas, or invoking the “But I’m pregnant!” line at home (even better if it gets you out of doing the dishes).

You’re growing a human now, and that’s something worth being pampered over.

I felt lost as a new mother, but babywearing helped me find myself again

I wish someone had told me before how special wearing your baby can be, even when you have no idea how to do it.

My first baby and I were alone in our Brooklyn apartment during a particularly cold spring with yet another day of no plans. My husband was back at work after a mere three weeks of parental leave (what a joke!) and all my friends were busy with their childless lives—which kept them too busy to stop by or check in (making me, at times, feel jealous).

It was another day in which I would wait for baby to fall asleep for nap number one so I could shower and get ready to attempt to get out of the house together to do something, anything really, so I wouldn't feel the walls of the apartment close in on me by the time the second nap rolled around. I would pack all the diapers and toys and pacifiers and pump and bottles into a ginormous stroller that was already too heavy to push without a baby in it .

Then I would spend so much time figuring out where we could go with said stroller, because I wanted to avoid places with steps or narrow doors (I couldn't lift the stroller by myself and I was too embarrassed to ask strangers for help—also hi, New Yorkers, please help new moms when you see them huffing and puffing up the subway stairs, okay?). Then I would obsess about the weather, was it too cold to bring the baby out? And by the time I thought I had our adventure planned, the baby would wake up, I would still be in my PJs and it was time to pump yet again.

Slowly, but surely, and mostly thanks to sleep deprivation and isolation, I began to detest this whole new mom life. I've always been a social butterfly. I moved to New York because I craved that non-stop energy the city has and in the years before having my baby I amassed new friends I made through my daily adventures. I would never stop. I would walk everywhere just to take in the scenery and was always on the move.

Now I had this ball and chain attached to me, I thought, that didn't even allow me to make it out of the door to walk the dog. This sucks, I would think regularly, followed by maybe I'm not meant to be a mom after all.

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.

And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

I Am Enough bracelet 

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May this Oath Bracelet be your reminder that you are perfect just the way you are. That you are enough for your children, you are enough for your friends & family, you are enough for everything that you do. You are enough, mama <3


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