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Lesson 6: Owning your birth preferences + dealing with fear

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Lesson 6: Owning your birth preferences + dealing with fear

This is YOUR birth. YOU get to call the shots.

But thinking about it all can be a little stressful.

So in this lesson I'll help you work through the different aspects of birth so you can come up with your birth preference list (AKA your birth plan).

Be sure to use the course workbook when thinking through your birth preferences.

And just do a topic every day or two so you don't get too overwhelmed. We'll also talk about the role of fear in birth, and how you help alleviate any tensions you may be feeling.

Lesson 6: Owning your birth preferences + dealing with fear


Additional reading for this lesson—

  1. OBGYN or midwife, hospital or home? Your guide to decide how + where to labor
  2. 5 things to know before banking your baby's cord blood
  3. Why choosing home birth was right for us
  4. Write a letter to your baby


Meditations for relaxation/meditation before + during birth

'Dear Baby' guided relaxation + meditation mp3

Read our book!

The Motherly Guide to Becoming Mama is the pregnancy book women have been asking for. Inspired by our community and written by Diana Spalding (our midwife, who teaches this birth class), this book will guide you through every aspect of this journey with warmth and love.

The Motherly Guide to Becoming Mama

You can order The Motherly Guide to Becoming Mama at your favorite retailer:

Your birth class lessons—

Lesson 1: How your body in labor + the birth process works

Lesson 2: What happens when labor begins?

Lesson 3: What you need to know about active labor + pushing

Lesson 4: Your coping skills for labor + delivery (you've got this)

Lesson 5: How to handle interventions with ease

Lesson 6: Owning your birth preferences + dealing with fear

Lesson 7: How to rock your postpartum

Pregnancy + birth podcast:

Listen to Becoming Mama™: A Pregnancy and Birth Podcast by Motherly

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    Plus a fall family bucket list to keep everyone moving all season long.

    While it's hard to name anything that the pandemic hasn't affected, one thing that is constantly on my mind is how to keep my family active despite spending more time indoors. Normally, this time of year would be spent at dance and gymnastics lessons, meeting up with friends for games and field trips, and long afternoon playdates where we can all let off a little steam. Instead, we find ourselves inside more often than ever before—and facing down a long winter of a lot more of the same.

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    My daughter loves the simple Shake Ups at the beginning of the episode and is usually hopping off the couch to jump, dance and play within seconds. One of her favorites is this Sock Flinger Shake Up activity from the Nike PLAYlist that's easy for me to get in on too. Even after we've put away the tablet, the show inspires her to create her own challenges throughout the day.

    The best part? The episodes are all under 5 minutes, so they're easy to sprinkle throughout the day whenever we need to work out some wiggles (without adding a lot of screen time to our schedule).

    Whether you're looking for simple alternatives to P.E. and sports or simply need fun ways to help your child burn off energy after a day of socially distanced school, Nike's PLAYlist is a fun, kid-friendly way to get everyone moving.

    Need more movement inspiration for fall? Here are 5 ways my family is getting up and getting active this season:

    1. Go apple picking.

    Truly, it doesn't really feel like fall until we've picked our first apple. (Or had our first bite of apple cider donut!) Need to burn off that extra cinnamon-sugar energy? Declare a quick relay race up the orchard aisle—winner gets first to pick of apples at home.

    To wear: These Printed Training Tights are perfect for when even a casual walk turns into a race (and they help my daughter scurry up a branch for the big apples).

    2. Visit a pumpkin patch.

    We love to pick up a few locally grown pumpkins to decorate or cook with each year. Challenge your child to a "strongman" contest and see who can lift the heaviest pumpkin while you're there.

    To wear: Suit up your little one in comfort with this Baby Full Zip Coverall so you're ready for whatever adventures the day brings.

    3. Have a nature scavenger hunt.

    Scavenger hunts are one of my favorite ways to keep my daughter preoccupied all year long. We love to get outside and search for acorns, leaves and pinecones as part of our homeschool, but it's also just a great way to get her exercising those gross motor skills whenever the wiggles start to build up.

    To wear: It's not truly fall until you break out a hoodie. This cozy Therma Elite Kids Hoodie features a mesh overlay to release heat while your child plays.

    4. Have a touch-football game.

    Tip for parents with very little kids: It doesn't have to last as long as a real football game. 😂 In fact, staging our own mini-games is one of our favorite ways to get everyone up and moving in between quarters during Sunday football, and I promise we all sleep better that night.

    To wear: From impromptu games of tag to running through our favorite trails, these kids' Nike Air Zoom Speed running shoes are made to cover ground all season long.

    5. Create an indoor obstacle course.

    Pretending the floor is lava was just the beginning. See how elaborate your personal course can get, from jumping on the couch to rolling under the coffee table to hopping down the hallway on one foot.

    To wear: These ready-for-any-activity Dri-FIT Tempo Shorts are perfect for crawling, hopping and racing—and cuddling up when it's time to rest.

    This article was sponsored by Nike. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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