Miscarriage is a scary word. A word nobody wants to hear. But a word that millions of women each year experience.
During Pregnancy and Infant Loss and Awareness week, we’re listening to the stories of women who have experienced miscarriage, and sharing their heartbreak, wisdom, and experience. “Too many families grieve in silence,” the organization behind the awareness campaign notes. We’re honored to help tell some of those stories. You are not alone.
Thousands of women have shared their own miscarriage stories over social media in recent years, finally giving voice to an experience too often hushed and hidden behind closed doors. We’ve collected insights and reflection from women who have experienced miscarriage.
Here’s seven things they want you to know:
2. There are no words that can make it better—but women who have experienced miscarriage or infant loss still cherish your compassionate support, presence and love.
We cried and rejoiced at our first sonogram. Our lives changed as we dreamed of a crazy life with 3 kids. Then we cried again at our last sonogram when we heard the words you pray you’ll never hear, “No heartbeat.” Again, our lives forever changed. We are broken hearted to share the loss of our littlest one…but we grieve with hope. â¢â¢â¢ Thankful for all our friends and family who have loved us so well through this â¢â¢â¢ #miscarriage #miscarriageawareness #grievewithhope #loss
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3. Many miscarriages may be hidden, but mothers feel forever changed.
October is Pregnancy and Infant loss awareness month. I am 1 of 4 women who have experienced a miscarriage and I am sharing our story. While it is said that miscarriage is very common, knowing about it and experiencing it for your self are two entirely different things. It’s often a topic that is not discussed. So I am sharing our story in hopes that maybe it can help someone else going through a similar situation. On this day five years ago we found out our baby no longer had a heart beat as we were about to transition into the second trimester. I had already been blessed to experience a full term pregnancy prior to this with my oldest child so I had no idea what loss really felt like until this day. While we never met our baby I will always remember our baby. I will always be sad for our loss but grateful for what it taught me about the true nature of pregnancy and the miracle it is to bring a life into this world. We were blessed with two babies since then and I know that this was how our journey was supposed to go but while time has passed I will always honor the little life we lost and what could have been. To all the families who have experienced infant and pregnancy loss I send you hugs and prayers for a peaceful heart. #craftingcrossfitmom#miscarriage#miscarriageawareness
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4. Faith, hope, or trust in a higher power can help some women heal.
With our baby’s due date a few days away, these weeks have been a little hard. It’s hard to see pregnancy announcements and ultrasounds and baby bumps. It’s hard to see newborns and strollers and cribs. It’s hard not to think about how things “should” be. It’s hard. But instead of thinking about what should be, I’m trying to hope in what will be and thank God for his faithfulness through it all. “Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” Isaiah 43:19
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5. They want their little ones to be remembered.
Feeling so grateful that we were able to celebrate our sweet baby Farnsworth today. #infantandpregnancyloss #babyfarnsworth #miscarriageawareness
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December 21, 2011: I met and said goodbye to my first baby, Hazel. I didn’t know she was a girl until later, but when we met her, the name just fit. We held her and cried over her that day. We even got her tiny little prints and took photos of her. **she was perfect in every way, how could something so beautiful leave this world?** I found out she passed on a week before and I was inconsolable. I felt empty, alone, out of my mind. I was heartbroken in the simplest terms. â¢Would I ever have a healthy baby?â¢ It took me a very long time to emotionally recover, but the ability to meet her gave me closure and for that I’m so thankful. â¢ I had anxiety during my following pregnancies. I felt unattached, guarded, paranoid. It only came full circle when Violet was born, and she was healthy, beautiful. It broke my heart again to think that Hazel might have been a little like her. Today, it’s been 4 years since I was pregnant with Hazel. Pregnancy loss is unexplainable. Once you go through it, you’re never the same. I am thankful for my two beautiful children I have, not a day goes by without being reminded how lucky I am. â¢ October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Pregnancy loss affects 1 in 4 women. I wanted to share my story to help others experiencing a loss to know you’re not alone, and you will get through this and grow from it.
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7. There are many supportive communities and programs that want to help, including October 15th’s wave of light.
Received our two beautiful hearts in memory of our angel babies from Hope’s Healing Hearts. Org We love them! #miscarriageawareness #miscarriage #babiesInHeaven
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The Love Elijah Project: A post office box set up for mothers and fathers who have lost their babies or children to miscarriages, abortion, still birth, sids, or any other tragic event. Here you can send any memories, regrets, artwork, postcards, letters, birthday cards, ANYTHING to honor your babies and children. love,elijah 14900 e. Orange lake blvd Kissimmee fl 34747 #209 (this is a locked p.o. box that only one person has access to) You can mail in complete confidence that your mail will be kept confidential unless you would like to share. If you chose to share, please include the hash tag #loveelijah somewhere on your package and it will be shared on instagram on our love, Elijah page to help encourage mothers and fathers to talk about the loss of their children. #loveelijah #imissyouelijah #iloveyou #infantloss #infantlossawareness #infantlossawarenessmonth #abortion #sids #miscarriages #sidsawareness #sidsawarenessmonth #miscarriageawareness #stillbirth #stillborn #eptopicpregnancy #childless #sunflowersmakemethinkofyou #captureyourgrief #whathealsyou
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