Along with your bundle of joy come myriad body changes—some expected, some totally not. With long days and many sleepless nights, the last thing a new mom needs is the added stress of dressing a body that now feels like a foreign object.
It’s likely that you will fall into one of these 3 categories. Let’s tackle the 3 most common changes after pregnancy.
1. Hello, Dolly!
I think one of the most common and challenging changes for a brand-new mom is the phenomenon I like to call “Nursing Boobs.”
Not only are they big, they are perky, hard and in your face! Going from an average B cup to a silicone-like DD with grace is no easy feat.
If boobs are new for you, then it’s only a matter of time until you discover that many of your “go-to” silhouettes aren’t going to work.
Take the classic wrap dress. It’s a wardrobe staple. Appropriate for almost any occasion. Dress it up with heels and a blazer for the office, with strappy sandals for date night or with loafers and a cardi for a day of errands with the kiddos. Enter nursing boobs and the look can go from polished to porn star.
Good news! There is a very easy solution. Though I do NOT recommend a traditional camisole (no one needs extra rolls of fabric bulging through her dress), I do recommend a “cropped camisole” to be worn over your bra for cleavage cover. Avoid the strapless “tube” style option. You will have enough tugging and pulling going on without the pains that a strapless bra can bring. I suggest a seamless style with simple straps. This will give you the stretch you need to pull it down along with your nursing bra for easy access, and it will accommodate your changing bust.
2. The soft center.
Even if you shed the baby weight in record time, your middle section will still not be the same—maybe ever.
It will be a softer version of you with a side portion of stretched-out skin. And your belly button will most likely have a “belly lid.” Sort of like an eyelid, but unfortunately it can’t wink at you. If the tummy was never where you “carried” weight, then this can present an entirely new challenge when getting dressed. But no worries, mama, there are a lot of options that can help.
One quick-fix option is support wear. Layering a waist-cinching garment under your clothing will give you a smoother and more svelte silhouette. It helps camouflage bulges and might make you feel more put-together. For some woman, tights can be a doozy too and cause unnecessary muffin topping. Avoid this with a brand like Commando’s Dig Free Styles.
If wrapping yourself in less-than-comfortable shapewear is not your thing, then perhaps you can focus on shapes that skim the tummy, like A-lines, relaxed-fit tunics and drop-waist shirt dresses.
Steer clear of thin, clingy fabrics and any style with that will cut into your body.
3. Check the rear view.
I wish I knew the reason that many a mama seems to lose the junk in her trunk post-birth. It would clearly be fairer if residual baby weight settled in the derriere than the love handles. But alas, pancake bottom happens and dealing with it is a reality for many of us. The easiest thing to do is take note from celebs who like to show off their tail feathers.
Prime example: Kim K. You don’t see her wearing boyfriend jeans or loose-fitting bottoms. And though it may sound odd or the opposite of what you think you should do, it’s actually better to go tighter and more structured. Think pencil skirts, skinny pants with back pockets and leather (or vegan leather) leggings.
Having a baby is one of the greatest gifts we are given as women.
Does it challenge and change our bodies? Yes, of course.
But there is so much beauty in the journey. The above tips will help, but the best thing you can do is love the skin you’re in. Own the changes. They are the physical signs that you are one incredible lady.
Don’t forget: You literally made a human. ?