Male doctor says female colleagues earn less because they 'don't work as hard'

This kind of prejudice against women holds us *all* back.

Male doctor says female colleagues earn less because they 'don't work as hard'

A Texas physician is getting heat this week after saying the gender wage gap persists in medicine because women doctors "do not work as hard" since "most of the time their priority is something else... family, social, whatever."

Walking back his statement, Dr. Gary Tigges says that although it was taken out of context, it has still provided a growth opportunity for him. "I now understand more clearly how intricate this issue is and that there are ways we can work together to resolve these disparities," he told Dallas News. "I have worked closely with numerous female physicians for nearly three decades and have witnessed nothing but compassion, diligence and professionalism."

The episode makes an important point, however: Prejudices against working women, especially those with families, persist across the board.

According to a 2016 report from the Center for American Progress, approximately 64% of women were breadwinners or co-breadwinners in their families in 2015—way up from the 1960s when about 10% of American women identified as breadwinners.

Despite us occupying larger roles in the workforce, however, striking a "work-life balance" is mostly still framed as a women's issue. When we're on the job, that can give way to the misconception that we're distracted when, in fact, data shows most mothers aspire to leadership positions at the same rate as female peers without children. And that's not to mention a study that found mothers are more efficient at work than any other demographic group, including working men without children.

Also detrimental is framing career versus family as an either/or decision. 

As Avani Ramnani, CFP, Director of Financial Planning and Wealth Management for Francis Financial, tells Motherly, women who reluctantly leave their careers with hopes to later return miss out on both earnings and advancements within their careers that may earn them more flexibility down the line.

Ramnani explains she's speaking both as a certified financial planner and mother who has grappled with these questions—but it helped to have a partner who valued her career ambitions. "Because I stayed in the workforce, given my experience and seniority, I am in a position to have the flexibility I need with my children, while not compromising on the work that I need to do," she says. "Financially, our family is in a much more secure place and living a life we love."

The trouble is that the burden is on us working moms to make the case for ourselves—as if the ways we're navigating career and family aren't proof enough of our abilities.

As Lauren McGoodwin, founder and CEO of Career Contessa previously told Motherly, she believes change can and will come as women find their voices. "I think 2018 is going to be the year of us holding each other (and our companies) accountable in a certain way," she said. "More women's marches, more speaking out, less impostor syndrome, more asking for what we deserve..."

In this case, that doesn't just mean calling out Dr. Tigges on social media, but also standing confidently in our roles whether they are at home or work. After all, making space for working moms isn't just the charitable thing to do—it's how we help businesses, families and society in general advance.

Anyone who thinks otherwise must be worried about getting shown up by a mom. 😉

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Kristen Bell and Jackie Tohn on how they’re ‘sneak teaching’ kids with their new show "Do, Re & Mi"

The best friends created a musical animated show that's just as educational as it is entertaining

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Kristen Bell and Jackie Tohn have been best friends since they met as young singers and actors more than 15 years ago, and now they're collaborating on a new Amazon Original animated kids series called Do, Re & Mi. The show, which follows best birds Do, Re and Mi as they navigate the world around them while also belting out catchy tunes, is just as educational as it is entertaining.

On the latest episode of The Motherly Podcast, Bell and Tohn talk to Motherly co-founder Liz Tenety about how they're "sneak teaching" kids with their new show and why music is such an important focal point.

"It was basically our mission from the very beginning to 'sneak music education' into kids' lives, hands, brains, all of it," Tohn admits.

"There's so much science and data to support that [music] helps kids, their brains grow with math, with social skills. It literally can change your neuroplasticity. You can put music of their favorite genre or timeframe on, in an Alzheimer's ward, and they will come back online for a couple minutes. I mean, it's crazy," Bell, who has two daughters of her own, adds. "You know, music can bind a lot of families together. It can bind friendships together. And it's just a show that you can feel really good about. We want to get it in front of as many kids as possible, because I don't like the fact that some kids won't have exposure to music. Their brains deserve to grow just as much as everyone else's."

The first season of Do, Re & Mi premiered on September 17th and its creators recorded 52 different songs for the show that range from reggae and pop to country, blues and jazz.

"That's what's so exciting about this show," Tohn gushes. "Not only are the lessons we're teaching for everyone, but every episode has a musical genre, a musical lesson and an emotional lesson. And so there really is so much to learn."

Elsewhere in the episode, Bell tells Tenety about how she made literal toolboxes that carry different regulation tools to help her kids calm down (one is "find a song you love and sing out loud") and why having a village is crucial to surviving motherhood, especially in a pandemic, while Tohn details her special friendship not only with Bell, but with her daughters, too.

To hear more about the show, Bell's experiences in motherhood, and her enduring friendship with Tohn, listen to The Motherly Podcast for the full interview.

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23 kid-approved lunch ideas you'll want to steal

Looking for some tried-and-true lunch time suggestions? We've got you covered, mama.

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Whether your little one will eat anything you put in front of them or prefers to stick to their favorite foods, coming up with healthy lunch ideas for your kids every day can be stressful. We're here to help. That's why we're rounding up some fun, healthy meals for you to try. Many of these feature leftovers or options you can make without cooking anything new.

We hope you'll find some great ways to help make lunchtime fun in your house. Whether it's a new idea for a wrap or simply a snack that your child has yet to try, read on for 20+ great lunch ideas for kids.


A version of this story was published in July 2021. It has been updated.

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12 baby registry essentials for family adventures

Eager to get out and go? Start here

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Parenthood: It's the greatest adventure of all. From those first few outings around the block to family trips at international destinations, there are new experiences to discover around every corner. As you begin the journey, an adventurous spirit can take you far—and the best baby travel gear can help you go even farther.

With car seats, strollers and travel systems designed to help you confidently get out and go on family adventures, Maxi-Cosi gives you the support you need to make the memories you want.

As a mom of two, Ashley Robertson says she appreciates how Maxi-Cosi products can grow with her growing family. "For baby gear, safety and ease are always at the top of our list, but I also love how aesthetically pleasing the Maxi Cosi products are," she says. "The Pria Car Seat was our first purchase and it's been so nice to have a car seat that 'grows' with your child. It's also easy to clean—major bonus!"

If you have big dreams for family adventures, start by exploring these 12 baby registry essentials.

Tayla™️ XP Travel System

Flexibility is key for successful family adventures. This reversible, adjustable, all-terrain travel system delivers great versatility. With the included Coral XP Infant Car Seat that fits securely in the nesting system, you can use this stroller from birth.


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$849.99

Iora Bedside Bassinet

Great for use at home or for adventures that involve a night away, the collapsible Iora Bedside Bassinet gives your baby a comfortable, safe place to snooze. With five different height positions and three slide positions, this bassinet can fit right by your bedside. The travel bag also makes it easy to take on the go.


Add to Babylist

$249.99

Kori 2-in-1 Rocker

Made with high-quality, soft materials, the foldable Kori Rocker offers 2-in-1 action by being a rocker or stationary seat. It's easy to move around the home, so you can keep your baby comfortable wherever you go. With a slim folded profile, it's also easy to take along on adventures so your baby always has a seat of their own.


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$119.99

Minla 6-in-1 High Chair

A high chair may not come to mind when you're planning ahead for family adventures. But, as the safest spot for your growing baby to eat meals, it's worth bringing along for the ride. With compact folding ability and multiple modes of use that will grow with your little one, it makes for easy cargo.


Add to Babylist

$219.99

Coral XP Infant Car Seat

With the inner carrier weighing in at just 5 lbs., this incredibly lightweight infant car seat means every outing isn't also an arm workout for you. Another feature you won't find with other infant car seats? In addition to the standard carry bar, the Coral XP can be carried with a flexible handle or cross-body strap.


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$399.99

Pria™️ All-in-One Convertible Car Seat

From birth through 10 years, this is the one and only car seat you need. It works in rear-facing, forward-facing and, finally, booster mode. Comfortable and secure for every mile of the journey ahead, you can feel good about hitting the road for family fun.


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$289.99

Pria™️ Max All-in-One Convertible Car Seat

Want to skip the wrestling match with car seat buckles? The brilliant Out-of-the-Way harness system and magnetic chest clip make getting your child in and out of their buckles as cinch. This fully convertible car seat is suitable for babies from 4 lbs. through big kids up to 100 lbs. With washer-and-dryer safe cushions and dishwasher safe cup holders, you don't need to stress the mess either.


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$329.99

Tayla Modular Lightweight Stroller

With four reclining positions, your little ones can stay content—whether they want to lay back for a little shut-eye or sit up and take in the view. Also reversible, the seat can be turned outward or inward if you want to keep an eye on your adventure buddy. Need to pop it in the trunk or take it on the plane? The stroller easily and compactly folds shut.


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$499.99

Tayla Travel System

This car seat and stroller combo is the baby travel system that will help make your travel dreams possible from Day 1. The Mico XP infant seat is quick and easy to install into the stroller or car. Skipping the car seat? The reversible stroller seat is a comfortable way to take in the scenery.


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$699.99

Modern Diaper Bag

When you need to change a diaper during an outing, the last thing you'll want to do is scramble to find one. The Modern Diaper Bag will help you stay organized for brief outings or week-long family vacations. In addition to the pockets and easy-carry strap, we love the wipeable diaper changing pad, insulated diaper bag and hanging toiletry bag.


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$129.99

Mico XP Max Infant Car Seat

Designed for maximum safety and comfort from the very first day, this infant car seat securely locks into the car seat base or compatible strollers. With a comfy infant pillow and luxe materials, it also feels as good for your baby as it looks to you. Not to mention the cushions are all machine washable and dryable, which is a major win for you.


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$299.99

Adorra™️ 5-in-1 Modular Travel System

From carriage mode for newborn through world-view seated mode for bigger kids, this 5-in-1 children's travel system truly will help make travel possible. We appreciate the adjustable handlebar, extended canopy with UV protection and locking abilities when it's folded. Your child will appreciate the plush cushions, reclining seat and smooth ride.


Add to Babylist
$599.99

Ready for some family adventures? Start by exploring Maxi-Cosi.

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This incredibly soft comforter from Sunday Citizen is like sleeping on a cloud

My only complaint? I've slept through my alarm twice.

When it comes to getting a good night's sleep, there are many factors that, as a mama, are hard to control. Who's going to wet the bed at 3 am, how many times a small person is going to need a sip of water, or the volume of your partner's snoring are total wildcards.

One thing you can control? Tricking out your bed to make it as downright cozy as possible. (And in these times, is there anywhere you want to be than your bed like 75% of the time?)

I've always been a down comforter sort of girl, but after a week of testing the ridiculously plush and aptly named Snug Comforter from Sunday Citizen, a brand that's run by "curators of soft, seekers of chill" who "believe in comfort over everything," it's safe to say I've been converted.


Honestly, it's no wonder. Originally designed as a better blanket for luxury hotels and engineered with textile experts to create this uniquely soft fabric, it has made my bed into the vacation I so desperately want these days.

The comforter is made up of two layers. On one side is their signature knit "snug" fabric which out-cozies even my most beloved (bought on sale) cashmere sweater. The other, a soft quilted microfiber. Together, it creates a weighty blanket that's as soothing to be under as it is to flop face-first into at the end of an exhausting day. Or at lunch. No judgement.

Miraculously, given the weight and construction, it stays totally breathable and hasn't left me feeling overheated even on these warm summer nights with just a fan in the window.

Beyond being the absolute most comfortable comforter I've found, it's also answered my minimalist bed making desires. Whether you opt to use it knit or quilted side up, it cleanly pulls the room together and doesn't wrinkle or look unkempt even if you steal a quick nap on top of it.

Also worth noting, while all that sounds super luxe and totally indulgent, the best part is, it's equally durable. It's made to be easily machine washed and come out the other side as radically soft as ever, forever, which totally helps take the sting out of the price tag.

My only complaint? I've slept through my alarm twice.

Here is my top pick from Sunday Citizen, along with the super-soft goods I'm coveting for future purchases.

Woodland Snug comforter

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The bedroom anchor I've been looking for— the Snug Comforter.

$249

Braided Pom Pom Throw

Because this degree of coziness needs portability, I'm totally putting the throw version on my list. It's washable, which is a must-have given my shedding dog and two spill-prone kiddos who are bound to fight over it during family movie night.

$145

Lumbar pillow

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What's a cozy bed without a pile of pillows?

$65

Crystal infused sleep mask

sunday citizen sleep mask

Promoting sleep by creating total darkness and relaxation, I've bookmarked as my go-to gift for fellow mamas.

$40

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Prince Harry and Meghan make first public appearance since Lilibet's birth

The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are in New York City to visit One World Observatory.

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Now that Prince Harry and Meghan Markle are no longer active members of the royal family, we don't get to see them make public appearances regularly. It's great to see the Duke and Duchess of Sussex looking fabulous as ever during their first joint public outing since the birth of their daughter, Lilibet Diana, back in June.

Earlier this week, the couple stated they were heading to New York for the Global Citizen Live from Central Park event to "continue their urgent work with world leaders in the pursuit of global vaccine equity to end the COVID-19 pandemic for everyone, everywhere," according to a statement from Global Citizen.


They arrived in New York City Thursday to visit One World Observatory at the World Trade Center with Mayor Bill de Blasio, his family, and Governor Kathy Hochel.

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Earlier this year, Prince Harry and Meghan served as Campaign Chairs for Global Citizen's VAX Live: The Concert to Reunite the World, where Prince Harry gave a speech about vaccine equity—something the couple feels very passionately about. The two are dedicated to using their platform to work toward achieving accessible vaccines for everyone.

"Over the past year, our world has experienced pain, loss and struggle — together. Now we need to recover and heal — together," they both said in a statement for the concert, per PEOPLE. "We can't leave anybody behind. We will all benefit, we will all be safer, when everyone, everywhere has equal access to the vaccine."

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The couple were dressed in matching black for the September 11 memorial they were attending. When asked by a reporter how she felt about being in New York, Meghan said it was "wonderful to be back."

Both Prince Harry and Meghan were recently named two of TIME magazine's 100 Most Influential People of 2021. We can't wait to see what work they have left in store for the rest of the year!

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Becoming a mother has been life-changing. It's been hard, tiring, gratifying, beautiful, challenging, scary and a thousand other things that only a parent would ever understand.

It is these life-changing experiences that have inspired me to draw my everyday life as a stay at home mom. Whether it's the mundane tasks like doing laundry or the exciting moments of James', my baby boy's, first steps, I want to put it down on paper so that I can better cherish these fleeting moments that are often overlooked.

Being a stay-at-home-mom can be incredibly lonely. I like to think that by drawing life's simple moments, I can connect with other mothers and help them feel less alone. By doing this, I feel less alone, too. It's a win-win situation and I have been able to connect with many lovely parents and fellow parent-illustrators through my Instagram account.


Newborns are so tiny snuggled up in your arms, then one year later they get so long and big. And yet, they still manage to fit perfectly in your arms.

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James is my constant reminder to stay present. I have a bad habit of getting caught up on my phone, wasting my time instead of doing something fulfilling. When I'm in my haze, he comes up to me with a toy, eagerly calling me to play with him.

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What our weekend normally looks like (just kidding, James can't settle for longer than five seconds when we're all together in the bed).

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I can't be the only 'bad' parent that doesn't watch age appropriate things with their kid. I mean he's only 18 months, he can't possibly understand what that dragon's doing, right?!

Kara Western

Our last visit to the pediatrician looked something like this. Actually, all of our visits to the pediatrician looks like this.

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Coloring with a 2-year-old like, "Please don't touch me with that marker."

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Always "helping."

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James and I are learning Italian, and normally we do it during breakfast.

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Peacefully sleeping with baby when suddenly... bam, rudely awakened.

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When your toddler is having a really hard time sleeping due to teething, but you don't want to undo months of sleep training.

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Originally posted on Kara's Instagram.

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