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Have 3 kids? Here’s why I think you’re lucky

As soon as our third was born, I felt the freedom let go and be satisfied with just doing my best.

Have 3 kids? Here’s why I think you’re lucky

As a mom of three, I frequently get a question from moms and dads of two children: “Ok, so the jump to three...how bad is it?"

Personally, I found the transition to having even one kid to be the most jarring. Who is this little person who cries nonstop (mine had colic) and has no regard for when I feel like sitting/eating/resting/sleeping?

What. On. earth.

But once you're used to two kids, three is pretty much a variation on the theme. You've already experienced simultaneously juggling the demands of more than one kid, and you know that you can't be in more than one place at a time.

Here's what I love and appreciate about having three kids:

1. Your kids learn to be more independent.

There are two (or one) of you and three of them. An adult simply cannot be there at all times to attend to their individual needs. So they have to learn to be more independent.

2. The kids learn to help each other.

This is not a situation where they are *raising* each other, but they do learn how to help each other, because… refer to #1. The oldest and middle children learn responsibility and leadership, and the youngest and middle children (the middle child gets the bonus of both) grow into leadership as they watch it modeled right before them.

3. You have more helpers at home.

Once they're old enough, you can have them mow the lawn, do the laundry, and mop the floors all at the same time while you sit and bury your nose in a good book. Ok, just kidding. Kind of.

4. You have more built-in playmates.

For all those days when you're stuck inside due to weather, have no desire to leave the house, or just don't want to bother planning a playdate, you have one already at your house. Done and done.

5. The kids have the opportunity to develop multiple relationships with others.

A and B, B and C, A and C, and A, B, and C! These combinations help your kids learn to be with kids with different personalities and get along. When one needs space from another, there are other options for them to interact.

6. Having three kids pretty much destroys the illusion that you as a parent are in control.

This is a good thing. You were never in control of everything, and being outnumbered by small people reminds you of this. I found this to be a gift, both at the birth of my third and since then. As soon as our third was born, I felt the freedom let go and be satisfied with just doing my best.

7. It's fun.

Three's a crowd, and this is ever-so true with three kids. Plus, you have a built-in basketball team. Ok, I hate basketball, but maybe you like it. But really, the love grows with each member added to the family, and getting to know and enjoy each of your three kids is really a treasure (no, this is not a Hallmark card).

Is life crazy? Sure thing. It never slows down. But being a parent of any number of little ones is likely the craziest thing you've ever done. Do I regret having three? Never. Really. I love our family of five.


Without camps and back-to-school plans still TBD, the cries of "I'm bored!" seem to be ringing louder than ever this summer. And if you're anything like me, by August, I'm fresh out of boxes to check on my "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys.

With that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite wooden toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

$30

Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!

$75

Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

$30

Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

$100

Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.

$45

Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

$40

Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

$121

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