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It's that time of year again -- time to shower dads with love... and gifts! Still scrambling for ideas for your main man? Don't you worry -- the perfect gift for the father figures in your life, be it your dad or your baby daddy, is just ahead. We asked our Well Rounded team to share their gift picks for the occasion. So without further ado, here are 11 Father's Day gifts, brought to you by our editors.

1. Hockey Addict's Guide to NYC, $14.99. My husband is hockey-obsessed, but I can only get him so many jerseys, game tickets and signed pucks. Evan Gubernick's new book uncovers all of NYC's hidden hockey life: it's got every place to eat, shop and talk hockey, which should keep him sufficiently busy during the off-season. I'll probably buy the Toronto version too, just in case he needs a road trip before the puck hits the ice next fall. ~ Jessica Pallay, co-founder and Chief Content Officer.


2. Matching baby-and-me Adidas Stan Smiths sneakers, $75 for the men's pair and $30 for the crib shoes. My partner has wanted white sneakers for a while. Adidas Originals Stan Smiths seem like the obvious choice -- a classic that will up his cool factor all summer long. And while I'm at it, I'll up the cute factor and get a matching pair for my little one. I mean... How cute would it be for him to twin with dad as he takes his very first steps?? ~ Kaity Velez, co-founder and Chief Creative Officer.

3. Childcare so we can have a night out. My husband and I rarely -- and I mean, really rarely -- go on dates. It's not that we can't; it's just that we are too busy with work and the kids and life to even start thinking about going out. Sad, I know... Which is why for Father's Day, I'm going to ditch all the gadgets and the watch I was thinking of getting him. Instead, I will book a babysitter so that I can take him out to a dinner and movie night, à la pre-kid style! With Urban Sitter, finding someone whom we can trust to watch our kids is easy. So all I really have to worry about is choosing a restaurant. Tempted? Until June 20th, you can get a $45 credit from UrbanSitter with the code SUMMERFUN. ~ Charlene Petitjean-Barkulis, managing editor.

4. Chillbo Baggin lounger, $54,90. We do a lot of picnicking, summer concerting, BBQing, beaching and, now that we live in the suburbs, backyard entertaining. I thought it would be a good gift to take all of that up a notch in a funny way but it's also super convenient because you don't need a pump to blow it up. You just wave it in the air a couple of times to fill it up. And I mean isn't Father's Day the ultimate day for chillin'. ~ Jill Wang, sales and partnerships director.

5. Daddy's Little Dress Shirts, prices range $8 (head band) to $95 (bloomers and dress). It really doesn't get more personal than this! The owner of this small shop takes one of dad's shirts and sews it into a dress (or bloomers, romper, bow tie) for your little one. When I saw this site I fell in love. It's the perfect gift and keepsake for the whole family. I'm also getting one of my grandpa's shirts turned into something for Kennedy, which will be so so special because she never got to meet him. ~ Jacqueline Solivan, sales and partnerships associate.

6. Herschel Supply Co. little america backpack, in light khaki crosshatch, $99.99. Because my husband has been carrying the same North Face backpack he got in middle school (more than twenty years ago!!!), it’s time for a major upgrade. He likes this Herschel bag because it doubles as a work bag and manly diaper bag. I like it because it’s a major adult upgrade from that old, ripped-up bag he’s been carrying. ~ Hanna Nakano, news editor.

7. Grady’s Cold Brew Kit, $30.00. I’m giving my husband the gift of drinking Cold Brew in his pajamas! The Grady’s Cold Brew Kit makes it possible to brew this caffeinated deliciousness at home and is perfect for my hardworking, coffee-loving husband. ~ Natalie Gentile, gear editor.

8. Taste Trunk subscription box. My husband is half South African and Australian raised, so any time I can up his braai (bbq) game, I think it's a good investment. So for this Father’s Day, I am planning to get him an upgrade to his bbq skills with a 3-month subscription to Taste Trunk. I have no doubt that he will pass on his love for grilling to our tiny happy eater, as much as he got it from his Papa! ~ Roma van der Walt, fitness editor.

9. AncestryDNA Kit, $78. Teaching and connecting his kids and grandchildren to their history and lineage has been one of my dad's passions for the longest because he believes that knowing each branch of your family tree is the truest foundation of knowing who we truly are individually. That's why I decided to get him the AncestryDNA Kit. This kit not only breaks down your ethnic origin, it can also connect the dots and introduce you to living relatives whom you may have never met. My dad even connected with a half brother he had never met before! ~ Danielle Wilson, event coordinator.

10. Amazon Echo Show, Smart Speaker with Alexa, $229 (On Sale for $149). My dad is not tech-friendly, but recently he's gotten a taste of the Amazon world and has talked about the Amazon Show for months. He loves to cook and try new recipes, and the Amazon show has a screen to pull up any recipes, cooking shows, and tutorials easily and all hands free. It can display the weather, security cameras, play music, and he can video chat! It secretly might be a gift for the whole family to use, so it's worth every penny! ~ Larissa Woss, community editor.

11. Hot Yoga class pack, $145 (mats and towels included). My husband loves hot yoga, but hasn’t been able to go in a while. I’m pretty sure he’d be into a class pack at the high end hot yoga place in our ‘hood, HeatWise (in Brooklyn Heights). HeatWise offers a spacious yoga experience and infrared heat, plus the atmosphere is super chill and pristine. (Pack of 5 classes, $145. Mats and towels included). ~ Alexis Barad-Cutler, associate editor.

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There are few kids television shows as successful as PAW Patrol. The Spin Masters series has spawned countless toys and clothing deals, a live show and now, a movie.

That's right mama, PAW Patrol is coming to the big screen in 2021.

The big-screen version of PAW Patrol will be made with Nickelodeon Movies and will be distributed by Paramount Pictures.

"We are thrilled to partner with Paramount and Nickelodeon to bring the PAW Patrol franchise, and the characters that children love, to the big screen," Spin Master Entertainment's Executive Vice President, Jennifer Dodge, announced Friday.


"This first foray into the arena of feature film marks a significant strategic expansion for Spin Master Entertainment and our properties. This demonstrates our commitment to harnessing our own internal entertainment production teams to develop and deliver IP in a motion picture format and allows us to connect our characters to fans through shared theatrical experiences," Dodge says.

No word on the plot yet, but we're gonna bet there's a problem, 'round Aventure Bay, and Ryder and his team of pups will come and save the day.

We cannot even imagine how excited little PAW Patrol fans will be when this hits theatres in 2021. It's still too early to buy advance tickets but we would if we could!


In the middle of that postpartum daze, the sleepless nights, the recovery, the adjustment to a new schedule and learning the cues of a new baby, there are those moments when a new mom might think, I don't know how long I can do this.

Fortunately, right around that time, newborns smile their first real smile.

For many mothers, the experience is heart-melting and soul-lifting. It's a crumb of sustenance to help make it through the next challenges, whether that's sleep training, baby's first cold, or teething. Each time that baby smiles, the mother remembers, I can do this, and it's worth it.


Dayna M. Kurtz, LMSW, CPT a NYC-based psychotherapist and author of Mother Matters: A Holistic Guide to Being a Happy, Healthy Mom, says she sees this in her clinical practice.

"One mother I worked with recounted her experience of her baby's first smile. At eight weeks postpartum, exhausted and overwhelmed, she remembered her baby smiling broadly at her just before a nighttime feeding," Kurtz says. "In that moment, she was overcome by tremendous joy and relief, and felt, for the first time, a real connection to her son."

So what is it about a baby's smile that can affect a mother so deeply? Can it all be attributed to those new-mom hormones? Perhaps it stems from the survival instincts that connect an infant with its mother, or the infant learning social cues. Or is there something more going on inside our brains?

In 2008, scientists in Houston, TX published their research on the topic. Their study, "What's in a Smile? Maternal Brain Responses to Infant Facial Cues", takes data from the MRI images of 26 women as they observed images of infants smiling, crying, or with a neutral expression.

The images included the mother's own infant alternated with an unknown infant of similar ethnicity and in similar clothing and position. In each image, the baby displayed a different emotion through one of three facial expressions; happy, neutral, or sad. Researchers monitored the change in the mothers' brain activity through the transitions in images from own-infant to unknown-infant, and from happy to neutral to sad and vice versa.

The results?

"When first-time mothers see their own baby's face, an extensive brain network appears to be activated, wherein affective and cognitive information may be integrated and directed toward motor/behavioral outputs," wrote the study's authors. Seeing her infant smile or cry prompts the areas of the brain that would instigate a mother to act, whether it be to comfort, care for, or caress and play with the baby.

In addition, the authors found that reward-related brain regions are activated specifically in response to happy, but not sad, baby faces. The areas of the brain that lit up in their study are the same areas that release dopamine, the "pleasure chemical." For context, other activities that elicit dopamine surges include eating chocolate, having sex, or doing drugs. So in other words, a baby's smile may be as powerful as those other feel-good experiences.

And this gooey feeling moms may get from seeing their babies smile isn't just a recreational high—it serves a purpose.

This reward system (aka dopaminergic and oxytocinergic neuroendocrine system) exists to motivate the mother to forge a positive connection with the baby, according to Aurélie Athan, PhD, director of the Reproductive & Maternal Psychology Laboratory (a laboratory that created the first graduate courses of their kind in these subjects).

These networks also promote a mother's ability to share her emotional state with her child, which is the root of empathy. "A mother cries when baby cries, smiles when baby smiles," Athan says.

While there's a physiological explanation underlying that warm-and-fuzzy sensation elicited by a smile, there may be other factors at play too, Kurtz says.

"In my clinical practice, I often observe a stunning exchange between a mother and her baby when the latter smiles at her. A mother who is otherwise engaged in conversation with me may be, for that moment, entirely redirected to focus on her little one," Kurtz says. "This kind of attention-capturing on the part of the baby can enable and cultivate maternal attunement—a mother's ability to more deeply connect with her infant. The quality of attunement in early childhood often sets the stage for one's relationship patterns in the future."

Whether a physiological response, a neural activation, simple instinct, or the tightening of emotional connection, the feeling generated by babies' smiles is a buoy in the choppy ocean of new parenthood.

And while the first smile may be the most magical by virtue of its surprise and the necessity of that emotional lift, the fuzzy feeling can continue well into that baby's childhood and beyond. It keeps telling parents, you've got this!

[This was originally published on Apparently]


Chrissy Teigen is one of the most famous moms in the world and definitely one of the most famous moms on social media.

She's the Queen of Twitter and at least the Duchess of Instagram but with a massive following comes a massive dose of mom-shame, and Teigen admits the online comments criticizing her parenting affects her.

"It's pretty much everything," Teigen told Today, noting that the bulk of the criticism falls into three categories: How she feeds her kids, how she uses her car seats and screen time.

"Any time I post a picture of them holding ribs or eating sausage, I get a lot of criticism," she explained. "Vegans and vegetarians are mad and feel that we're forcing meat upon them at a young age. They freak out."


Teigen continues: "If they get a glimpse of the car seat there is a lot of buckle talk. Maybe for one half of a second, the strap slipped down. And TV is another big one. We have TV on a lot in my house. John and I work on television; we love watching television."

Teigen wants the shame to stop, not just for herself but for all the other moms who feel it. (And we agree.)

"Hearing that nine out of 10 moms don't feel like they're doing a good enough job is terrible," she said. "We're all so worried that we're not doing all that we can, when we really are."

The inspiration for Teigen talking publicly about mom-shame may be in part because of her participation in Pampers' "Share the Love" campaign. But even though Teigen's discussion coincides with this campaign, the message remains equally important. Advertising can be a powerful tool for shifting the way society thinks about what's "normal" and we would much rather see companies speaking out against mom-shame than inducing it to sell more stuff.

Calling out mom-shame in our culture is worth doing in our lives, our communities and yes, our diaper commercials. Thank you Chrissy (and thank you, Pampers).


Dear fellow mama,

I was thinking about the past the other day. About the time I had three small boys—a newborn, his 2-year-old brother and his 5-year-old brother.

How I was always drowning.

How I could never catch my breath between the constant requests.

How I always felt guilty no matter how hard I tried.

How hard it was—the constant exhaustion, struggling to keep my home any kind of clean or tidy, how I struggled to feed my kids nutritious meals, to bathe them and clean them and keep them warmly dressed in clean clothing, to love them well or enough or well enough.


Those years were some of the toughest years I have ever encountered.

But mama, I am here to tell you that it doesn't last forever. Slowly, incrementally, without you even noticing, it gets easier. First, one child is toilet trained, then the bigger one can tie his own shoelaces, then finally they are all sleeping through the night.

It's hard to imagine; I really really get it.

It is going to get easier. I swear it. I'm not saying that there won't be new parenting challenges, that it won't be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life. It will be. But it will get easier.

These days, all of my kids get the bus to school and back. Most of them dress themselves. They can all eat independently and use the toilet. Sometimes they play with each other for hours leaving me time to do whatever I need to do that day.

I sleep through the night. I am not constantly in a haze of exhaustion. I am not overwhelmed by three tiny little people needing me to help them with their basic needs, all at the same time.

I can drink a hot cup of coffee. I do not wish with every fiber of my being that I was an octopus, able to help each tiny person at the same time.

I am not tugged in opposite directions. I don't have to disappoint my 3-year-old who desperately wants to play with me while I am helping his first grade bother with his first grade reading homework.

And one day, you will be here too.

It's going to get easier. I promise. And while it may not happen today or even next week or even next month, it will happen. And you will look around in wonder at the magnificent people you helped to create and nurture and sustain.

Until then, you are stronger and more resilient than you can even imagine.

You've got this. Today and always.


A fellow mama

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