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The sartorial mom missteps that will one day embarrass our children.

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Ask any young woman out there her number one fear about being a mother, and we’re pretty sure she’ll respond: Mom Jeans. Oh sure, there are worries of responsibilities and commitments and major life changes; but let’s just admit that, at a youthful time in our lives, we were all very concerned that becoming a mother meant donning those high-waisted, stonewashed Levis that make your butt look like a smashed paper heart. I know you’ve seen the SNL sketch. Now that you’re a mom, you think you’re awesome because you don’t wear mom jeans. You wear regular jeans, among other cool-mom things. But even if you managed to bypass that one sartorial misstep, I’m pretty sure your kids will look back at you and roll their eyes at the silly little things that make you an embarrassing parent. And yes, I’m right there with you.
  1. Joke’s on you—mom jeans are cool again. You’re so proud of yourself for squeezing into those ankle skinnies three-months postpartum. But I’m sorry to report that all the fashionable hipsters of Williamsburg are clad in exactly what you call “mom jeans.” Which begs the question: are skinny jeans the new mom jeans?
  1. Jogger pants are just pajamas in the wild. Don’t get me wrong. I applaud whoever decided that cropped, cuffed sweatpants can officially pass as daily wear. (And by daily wear, I mean daily public wear, because you better believe if I’m at home, I’m only wearing sweatpants. Embarrassing, ugly sweatpants. Just ask my husband.) But when your 16-year-old daughter sees a photo of you sporting joggers, it won’t matter what you insist-- she’s just going to want to know why you couldn’t bother to get dressed in the morning.
  1. Even your chic black Nikes are still sneakers. When I was a teenager, my parents wore tennis shoes everywhere. I made a conscious effort to find comfortable shoes that were specifically not trainers, thinking that it was ridiculous to lace-up for anything other than a sporting event (in which I was participating). While I see the sneaker craze as another genius move in the world of fashion, I’m convinced that it was instigated by a mother. God bless my feet during daily errands and chasing toddlers on the playground, they being dressed in comfortable bits of rubber and leather meant for quick movements. But as the trend calendar goes, I’m betting my new commitment to tennis shoes will be uncool in a few years—just in time for my Nikes to embarrass my kids.
  1. “Nerd chic” might not be a thing. I have several pairs of glasses: big, thick frames in bright colors and tortoise shells patterns. What they have in common is that they all take up half my face. I probaby picked this up from the pre-mom version of Zooey Deschanel)--me and all the other moms who realized glasses are the perfect mom-wear. Not only do I not have to bother with contacts in the morning, but the extra large frames seem to magically cover my under eyes, and the light reflecting off the lenses absolutely distracts from the bluish bags I’ve been sporting since my first baby arrived in 2011. When I was in high school, it wasn’t at all cool to wear glasses. If you had to, you were wise to reach for the frames that were barely there. I’m sure in the future my daughters will inform me that “nerd chic” was a mom farse, and that my big glasses are wholly nerd and not at all chic.
  1. They’ll want to know why you didn’t free the nipple. Do you have a pretty nursing cover? Did you search and search to find the one that wasn’t too showy and that wouldn’t clash with any outfit you might choose? Does it have a subtle, elegant pattern to it in a perfectly neutral color? But enough style to it that it’s “you”? Did you spring for the one with the bendy wire up top to be sure to gaze at nursing baby? Well, when today’s hashtags for causes become actual reality, that pretty nursing cover of yours is going to be a moot point. Your daughters will be astounded that you didn’t just “free the nipple” and possibly even question your feminism.
  1. And why did you have to post it all on Instagram, Mom? You know how it’s so embarrassing to have your own mother on Facebook right now, posting her favorite recipes and political memes? I’m betting that when our babies are teenagers, they’ll be way too cool for Instagram. Sure, she’ll be mortified you’re even considering making her pose for this square shot but worse? The fact that YOU pose for them. In your mom clothes. “Don’t even TRY for the vacation selfie, Mom,” she’ll say. And what’s worse? All the embarrassing things mentioned above? They’ll be at your children’s fingertips via this overused little app. They won’t have to dig out old photo albums or grandma’s shoebox of pictures for material. Oh no. They’ll just whip out their phones and rub all of your “mom jeans” moments right in your face.
Of course, these are all one mom’s opinionated predictions. Maybe we’re raising such self-actualized children, they’ve no need to judge us or be embarrassed of their parents. And even if my predictions run true, I figure it pays to live in the present. Obviously they look ridiculous now, but I was super-fly in my butterfly clips and acrylic nails for senior prom, amirite? So let’s go on living our mom lives, comfortable in our joggers and trainers and nerd glasses, blissfully oblivious of future implications. If there’s anything this list proves, it’s that trends and fashions cycle in and out and back around again. So keep a tally of what ends up coming back to haunt you. Odds are, you can hold it over your kids’ heads eventually too. Image source.

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14 outdoor toys your kids will want to play with beyond summer

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

$30

Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!

$75

Detective set

Plan Toys detective setDetective Set

This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

$40

Wooden doll stroller

Janod wooden doll strollerWooden Doll Stroller

Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.

$120

Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

$30

Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

$100

Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

$40

Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

$121

Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.

$100

Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.

$45

Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.

$179

Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.

$100

Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.

$33

Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.

$88

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.


And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

I Am Enough bracelet 

SONTAKEY  I Am Enough Bracelet

May this Oath Bracelet be your reminder that you are perfect just the way you are. That you are enough for your children, you are enough for your friends & family, you are enough for everything that you do. You are enough, mama <3

$35

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