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4 Ways Your Body Works With You During Birth

Your body works in magical ways to help you meet your new bundle.

4 Ways Your Body Works With You During Birth

Everyone has their own associations and images attached to birth, but we can likely all relate to the notion that the process is incredible... and we mean that in all uses of the word: mind blowing, awesome, magical, scary, and seemingly impossible. It’s one of the most real reminders that we too are animals (granted, with smartphones that track our contractions), and how it all works is still one great mystery.

And while we don’t know exactly how it all works, there is much we do know. Here are four magical ways your body adapts during the birth process to help you meet your baby.

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1. A Pelvis Like Elvis. Maybe you have started to feel a bit off balance lately, or like you are bumping into more things? Meet your hormone relaxin, which increases dramatically in pregnancy and is what you have to thank for that loosy-goosy feeling. Relaxin helps to, well, relax your muscles, joints and ligaments. And while this can be offputting at first, it’ll be your best friend when the time for pushing comes. Elevated levels of relaxin allow your pelvis and pelvic floor to be extra bendy and flex so that there is more space for baby to fit through! Your tailbone can scootch back, the joint in your pubic bone can stretch, and when pressure is applied to the ilium, it opens the pelvic outlet.

2. Drugs Au Natural. Ever wonder how you can possibly handle the sensations attached to labor, or how you can just let it all go? During labor you will produce a very high level of beta-endorphins, which have a similar effect to opiates like Demerol (sometimes used as part of the Epidural) and Morphine. Beta-endorphins promote a feeling of relaxation and euphoria and helps you get “in the zone.” For more tips on coping through labor sensations, check out this article.

3. Press that "Eject" Button! Okay, not exactly (wouldn't that be AWESOME) but there is a fetal ejection reflex that can be activated if the birthing person is left undisturbed in a dim and warm environment and feels totally relaxed and safe. Caused by a surge of adrenaline, this reflex triggers strong and rapid contractions allowing baby to be born quite rapidly. Typically before it happens, there is a great surge of energy and a sudden need to be more upright, or bend forward. While this reflex is more rare and requires certain conditions, the good news is that the “urge to push” happens to just about everyone (though if you have an epidural it can be difficult to feel). This “urge to push” is your body’s way of helping you to birth your baby and a good reminder that while you will certainly have to help, you do have a little extra umph behind ya! Score!

4. Your newborn can crawl! Sort of. Ever watch any of those "breast crawl" videos. Shortly after they are born, babies can "crawl" up to your breasts and start feeding. The ability to crawl comes from a reflex created as a result of your contracting uterus. As long as your baby isn’t breech, during contractions, the fundus (top of the uterus) will be pressing down on baby's butt and feet. And, when they are born, this will allow them to crawl or kick their way up to the breasts to find the good stuff. All thanks to all those contractions. Go baby go!

Photo courtesy of Abbie Martinsen.

I felt lost as a new mother, but babywearing helped me find myself again

I wish someone had told me before how special wearing your baby can be, even when you have no idea how to do it.

My first baby and I were alone in our Brooklyn apartment during a particularly cold spring with yet another day of no plans. My husband was back at work after a mere three weeks of parental leave (what a joke!) and all my friends were busy with their childless lives—which kept them too busy to stop by or check in (making me, at times, feel jealous).

It was another day in which I would wait for baby to fall asleep for nap number one so I could shower and get ready to attempt to get out of the house together to do something, anything really, so I wouldn't feel the walls of the apartment close in on me by the time the second nap rolled around. I would pack all the diapers and toys and pacifiers and pump and bottles into a ginormous stroller that was already too heavy to push without a baby in it .

Then I would spend so much time figuring out where we could go with said stroller, because I wanted to avoid places with steps or narrow doors (I couldn't lift the stroller by myself and I was too embarrassed to ask strangers for help—also hi, New Yorkers, please help new moms when you see them huffing and puffing up the subway stairs, okay?). Then I would obsess about the weather, was it too cold to bring the baby out? And by the time I thought I had our adventure planned, the baby would wake up, I would still be in my PJs and it was time to pump yet again.

Slowly, but surely, and mostly thanks to sleep deprivation and isolation, I began to detest this whole new mom life. I've always been a social butterfly. I moved to New York because I craved that non-stop energy the city has and in the years before having my baby I amassed new friends I made through my daily adventures. I would never stop. I would walk everywhere just to take in the scenery and was always on the move.

Now I had this ball and chain attached to me, I thought, that didn't even allow me to make it out of the door to walk the dog. This sucks, I would think regularly, followed by maybe I'm not meant to be a mom after all.


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Now don't get me wrong. I adore my trips to Target (and based on the fullness of my cart when I leave, I am pretty sure Target adores my trips there, too).

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