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5 Qs with Leomarlis
Name: Leomarlis Bojos Neighborhood: Inwood, Manhattan Baby’s Gender: Boy How would you describe your pregnant style? I would describe my pregnant style as very casual yet polished. I love wearing a crisp button up and a cool pair of sneakers, patterned dresses and jean jackets. I also enjoy accessorizing with a nice pair of Warby Parker glasses. They're my favorite! Have you had any challenges learning to dress your body during pregnancy? It is a challenge every day. Some days I simply feel much lighter and get dressed with ease. Other days, I have learned that I need to be comfortable with looking much larger and dress myself in clothing that drapes over my belly. I also have embraced wearing maternity pants. My first trimester I pretty much rejected the idea of wearing them while trying to slip into my stretchy Zara jeans. But during this third trimester, my maternity jeans have kept me so comfortable while running errands and at work. So far, what has surprised you most during your pregnancy? What has surprised me the most during my pregnancy has been my complete focus on making my home comfortable and getting things in order before the baby gets here. I think I have been "nesting" since my fifth month! Figuring out how to keep the energy right in my home for my new little family has brought me both stress and pleasure. What are you most looking forward to sharing with your baby? I am looking forward to the days where I can create art with my son and hang them up around our apartment. I also can’t wait to document his milestones. My boyfriend and I discussed starting a blog for him. He's a great photographer, so I am looking forward to seeing what we can create together. What’s your 5 registry essentials? 1. Bebe Confort Glider. I love the idea of being able to breastfeed and rock my baby to sleep at the same time. The glider is super comfortable and essential for keeping peace on those sleepless nights. 2. Baby Bjorn Baby Carrier. My boyfriend has been so excited to wear one.It was actually his only request for our registry. We live in Inwood, NYC and there are tons of local parks. So the Baby Bjorn will be exactly what we need for those long summer walks once the baby is born. 3. Babymoov Nutribaby Food Processor. I never thought I'd need one, but after doing my research I feel that this is an easy way to make and store food for the baby once he can have solids. Also, I think I'll enjoy searching for recipes on Pinterest so that the whole process doesn't have to be boring for me or the baby. 4. Oh Joy!'s City Nursery Collection. These sheets are so perfect for the baby's nursery and definitely my style. I love patterns and illustrations and this is simply a perfect collection! 5. Storksak Noa Diaper Bag. I was so elated when someone got this bag off my registry for me! All compartments and the mini-organizer bag are perfect for a city mom like me. Leomarlis is wearing: Bamboobies Nursing Shawl (worn as a scarf) A Kaftan dress from Marimekko’s collaboration with Target this Spring Clogs from Coclico Photography by Stylish & Hip Kids. Shot on location at Maman Tribeca. *We are so grateful when brands support our content and community. This post was sponsored by Bamboobies. Take $7 off any two Bamboobies products including Nursing Pads or boob-ease Organic Nipple Balm!

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Rarely is a woman more concerned with what her body needs than when she's pregnant. We start to question and research everything, right? From swearing off turkey sandwiches to diving down the rabbit hole of prenatal supplements that make up what we lack, the stress of overthinking is real, mama.

One of the main reasons we launched the Motherly Shop is to help take some of that stress away. We've tracked down the best brands and products developed by people (and in many cases, women!) that truly work to serve the needs of real mamas, especially throughout the overwhelming transition into motherhood.

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.


And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

I Am Enough bracelet 

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May this Oath Bracelet be your reminder that you are perfect just the way you are. That you are enough for your children, you are enough for your friends & family, you are enough for everything that you do. You are enough, mama <3

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