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5 Qs with Becca
Name: Becca Durday Neighborhood: Park Slope Occupation: Director of Physician Relations, The Brooklyn Hospital Center Baby’s Sex: Boy How would you describe your pregnant style? I have to dress conservatively during the week and I make up for it on the weekends by sticking to t-shirts and distressed jeans for a casual/chic vibe. Now that the weather has warmed up I am loving cotton T-shirt dresses that really show off my bump. Have you had any challenges learning to dress your body during this pregnancy? I struggled with the what to wear towards the end of the first trimester when I was in between maternity and regular sizes. I followed friends' advice and rocked a belly band to put off the transition to maternity jeans during that phase. So far, what has surprised you most during your pregnancy? I have found it very freeing to watch my body change during pregnancy. There is no reason to over think each stage so I have been really entertained and fascinated by it. What’s been your favorite pregnancy piece or brand to show off your bump? For work, I have been loving a maternity pencil skirt from Asos that I can wear with a ton of different blouses for the office. For jeans, I have been happiest with the maternity options at the Gap. What NYC experience are you most looking forward to sharing with your baby? Weekend strolls through Park Slope and Prospect Park. Becca is wearing: J. Crew Downtown Field Jacket J. Crew Suede d'Orsay Flats Anthropologie necklace (similar style) Dress from Bump Brooklyn (similar style)

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