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We’ve partnered with SoCozy on this post to help lessen the spread of TTDs. You know the feeling. You wake up in the middle of the night to the sound of uncharacteristically loud crying coming from your child's room. You get up to inspect further, but as you do, yesterday's email from school flashes across your eyelids like ticker tape -- the one that warned you that "A child in your son or daughter's class has been diagnosed with [insert highly contagious disease that harkens back to the time of the plague].” Suddenly it dawns on you that this might be it: the moment when you find out that your child has been infected by a TTD – or, for the uninitiated – a Toddler Transmitted Disease. Think lice, pinkeye, or that disgusting stomach bug that brings on projectile vomiting and diarrhea at the SAME TIME. You know, the kinds of things your friend's kids have had that have prompted you to pass judgment about her handwashing practices. BUT NOW IT’S HAPPENED TO YOU. Here are the top 5 TTD's that you basically can't escape and what to do about them. 1. LICE What it is: Head lice are tiny wingless insects (the size of sesame seeds) that live in human hair and feed on tiny amounts of blood drawn from the scalp. Yes. This is real life. Wheeeee!!!! How you know your kid has it: Your child is itching her head a lot, especially around the back of the head or ears, or has scabs on her scalp. What to do about it: Allow yourself some involuntarily shuddering and a moment to wrap your own hair in a large scarf. The best way to deal with lice is to scare those suckers away before they can even become a problem by using a product like SoCozy Boo! Lice Prevention. Don’t shampoo too often (natural oils -- aka dirt -- help prevent lice) and when you do, use SoCozy Boo! Lice Scaring Shampoo, which contains a blend of natural ingredients. If your child does get lice, don’t despair. With the patience of Mother Theresa, remove each nit and lice manually using a special lice comb. Consult your pediatrician if other treatments or prescriptions are necessary. Also, drink a lot of wine when it is all over, but not during, or you may not be able to see the lice so clearly. 2. PINKEYE What it is: Also known as conjunctivitis, it is inflammation of the clear membrane that covers the white part of the eye and the inner surface of the eyelid. It also makes your formerly cute kid look pretty terrifying. Don’t leave the house. How you know your kid has it: It usually begins with your kid not being able to open his eye in the morning because it is glued shut or oozing. Fun start to the day! Or, it looks swollen and pink. Another clue: You also have it. Twinsies! What to do about it: If it is viral pinkeye, the best you can do is to help your child be more comfortable. A compress could help, but make sure that he keeps it on the infected eye ONLY lest he spread the infection the other eye and make your life that much more of a holy hell. If it is bacterial, the pediatrician might prescribe drops. (Tip: Enlist reinforcements to help you hold your child down and prep “treats” for post-dropping.) Encourage lots of hand washing and do not let your child touch his eye! Also: Clorox the hell out of every surface in your house. 3. COXSACKIE DISEASE What it is: Fun to say but not to have! Coxsackievirus is part of a family of viruses that live in the digestive tract. It can spread via unwashed hands and surfaces contaminated by feces (ew!) and can cause mild flu-like symptoms or can lead to more serious infections. Its other equally fun to say but not to have “street” name is “Hand, foot, and mouth disease.” How you know your kid has it: Half of those afflicted develop a weekend-ruining high fever, headache, and muscle aches, as well as a possible sore throat, abdominal discomfort or nausea. Unless, that is, your dream weekend includes waiting hand and foot (haha!) on your 3-year-old while he binge watches Team Umizoomi. What to do about it: Run for the hills! Start a new family! Kidding. No treatment necessary. It usually runs its course in 2 to 3 days. Phew! 4. RINGWORM What it is: Stop dry heaving -- no actual worms are involved in ringworm. It's just the medical name for a group of related skin infections (see also jock itch and athlete's foot). Sure, it can be itchy and less than pleasant, but luckily ringworm is not dangerous or painful. How you know your kid has it: Ringworm starts as red, scaly patches or bumps and over time may begin to look like a ring or a series of rings with raised, bumpy, scaly borders (hence its name). It can also affect the toes, scalp or nails, with varying degrees of disgustingness. What to do about it: This is really gnarly. High tail it to the pediatrician if you see any of this shit happening. She will likely recommend a topical antifungal medication if it is ringworm of the skin, and an oral one of the scalp or nails. 5. POTTYMOUTH What it is: Typically, your kid will catch this from you on a bad day -- specifically at the exact moment when you're not yet caffeinated and your kid is acting like a shit and you realize that you just dropped the F bomb and her preschool director is standing right behind you in line at Starbucks. How you know your kid has it: You thought it would be cute to record your kid saying a bad word on Snapchat. Psychologists would call this Positive Reinforcement. Now she is greeting everyone from the UPS man to the security guard at the bank with her new favorite word. Woot woot social media! What to do about it: Slap a huge grin on your face and wear a T-shirt emblazoned with the words "I'M SORRY", then simply say, "Kids. They say the most fucked up things. I don't know where the hell she gets it from!" Original illustration by Liz Martone of EFM Studio for Well Rounded NY. Shop SoCozy's boo! line here:

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Parents in New Jersey will soon get more money and more time for parental leave after welcoming a baby.

This week New Jersey Governor Phil Murphy signed off on legislation that extends New Jersey's paid family leave from six weeks to 12.

It also increases the benefit cap from 53% of the average weekly wage to 70%, meaning the maximum benefit for a parent on family leave will be $860 a week, up from $650.

It might not seem like a huge difference, but by raising the benefit from two-thirds of a parent's pay to 85%, lawmakers in New Jersey are hoping to encourage more parents to actually take leave, which is good for the parents, their baby and their family. "Especially for that new mom and dad, we know that more time spent bonding with a child can lead to a better long-term outcome for that child," Murphy said at a press conference this week.

The law will also make it easier for people to take time off when a family member is sick.

Because NJ's paid leave is funded through payroll deductions, workers could see an increase in those deductions, but Murphy is betting that workers and businesses will see the benefits in increasing paid leave benefits. "Morale goes up, productivity goes up, and more money goes into the system," Murphy said. "And increasingly, companies big and small realize that a happy workforce and a secure workforce is a key ingredient to their success."

The new benefits will go into effect in July 2020 (making next Halloween a good time to get pregnant in the Garden State).

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Whether you just need to stock up on diapers or you've had your eye on a specific piece of baby gear, you might want to swing by your local Walmart this Saturday, February 23rd.

Walmart's big "Baby Savings Day" is happening from 10:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. at participating Walmarts (but more deals can be found online at Walmart.com already and the website deals are happening for the rest of the month).

About 3,000 of the 3,570 Supercenter locations are participating in the sale (check here to see if your local Walmart is).

The deals vary, but in general you can expect up to 30% off on items like cribs, strollers, car seats, wipes, diapers and formula.

Some items, like this Graco Modes 3 Lite Travel System have been marked down by more than $100. Other hot items include this Lille Baby Complete Carrier (It's usually $119, going for $99 during the sale) and the Graco 4Ever 4-in-1 Convertible Car Seat (for as low as $199).

So if you're in need of baby gear, you should check out this sale. Travel gear isn't the only category that's been marked down, there are some steep discounts on breast pumps, too.

Many of the Walmart locations will also be offering samples and expert demos of certain products on Saturday so it's worth checking out!

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Any Schumer has not had an easy pregnancy. She intended to keep working, but if you follow her on social media you know she's been very sick through each trimester.

And now in her final trimester she's had to cancel her tour due to hyperemesis gravidarum, also known as HG. It's a rare but very serious form of extreme morning sickness, and on Friday evening Schumer announced she is canceling the rest of her tour because of it.

“I vomit every time [I] ride in a car even for 5 minutes," Schumer explained in an Instagram post.

Due to the constant vomiting she's not cleared to fly and just can't continue to the tour.

This is not the first time Schumer has had to make an announcement about HG. Back in November, just weeks after announcing her pregnancy, she had to cancel shows and again broke the news via Instagram.

She posted a photo of herself in a hospital bed with her little dog Tati, and spelled out the details of her health issues in the caption. "I have hyperemesis and it blows," Schumer wrote.

Poor Amy. Hyperemesis gravidarum is really tough.

Kate Middleton, Ayesha Curry and Motherly co-founder Elizabeth Tenety are among those who, like Schumer, have suffered from this form of severe morning sickness that can be totally debilitating.

As she previously wrote for Motherly, Tenety remembers becoming desperately ill, being confined to her apartment (mostly her bed) and never being far from a trash can, "I lost 10% of my body weight. I became severely dehydrated. I couldn't work. I couldn't even get out of bed. I could barely talk on the phone to tell my doctor how sick I was—begging them to please give me something, anything—to help."

Thankfully, she found relief through a prescription for Zofran, an anti-nausea drug.


Schumer probably knows all about that drug. It looks she is getting the medical help she obviously needs, and she was totally right to cancel the tour in order to stay as healthy as possible.

We're glad to see Schumer is getting help, and totally understand why she would have to cancel her shows. Any mama who has been through HG will tell you, that wouldn't be a show you'd want front row seats for anyway.

Get well soon, Amy!

[A version of this post was published November 15, 2018. It has been updated.]

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As a military spouse, Cydney Cooper is used to doing things alone. But when she delivered her twin daughters early after complications due to Influenza A, she was missing her husband Skylar more than ever.

Recovering from the flu and an emergency C-section, and trying to parent the couple's two older boys and be with her new infant daughters in the NICU, Cydney was exhausted and scared and just wanted her husband who was deployed in Kuwait with the Army and wasn't expected home for weeks.

Alone in the NICU 12 days after giving birth, Cydney was texting an update on the twins to her husband when he walked through the door to shoulder some of the massive burden this mama was carrying.

"I was typing up their summary as best I could and trying to remember every detail to tell him when I looked up and saw him standing there. Shock, relief, and the feeling that everything was just alright hit me at once. I just finally let go," she explains in a statement to Motherly.

The moment was captured on video thanks to a family member who was in on Skylar's surprise and the reunion has now gone viral, having been viewed millions of times. It's an incredible moment for the couple who hadn't seen each other since Skylar had a three-day pass in seven months earlier.

Cydney had been caring for the couple's two boys and progressing in her pregnancy when, just over a week before the viral video was taken, she tested positive for Influenza A and went into preterm labor. "My husband was gone, my babies were early, I had the flu, and I was terrified," she tells Motherly.

"Over the next 48 hours they were able to stop my labor and I was discharged from the hospital. It only lasted two days and I went right back up and was in full on labor that was too far to stop."

Cydney needed an emergency C-section due to the babies' positioning, and her medical team could not allow anyone who had previously been around her into the operating room because anyone close to Cydney had been exposed to the flu.

"So I went in alone. The nurses and doctors were wonderful and held my hand through the entire thing but at the same time, I felt very very alone and scared. [Skylar] had been present for our first two and he was my rock and I didn't have him when I wanted him the most. But I did it! He was messaging me the second they wheeled me to recovery. Little did I know he was already working on being on his way."

When he found out his baby girls were coming early Skylar did everything he could to get home, and seeing him walk into the NICU is a moment Cydney will hold in her heart and her memory forever. "I had been having to hop back and forth from our sons to our daughters and felt guilty constantly because I couldn't be with all of them especially with their dad gone. It was one of the most amazing moments of my life and I won't be forgetting it."

It's so hard for a military spouse to do everything alone after a baby comes, and the military does recognize this. Just last month the Army doubled the amount of leave qualifying secondary caregivers (most often dads) can take after a birth or adoption, from 10 days to 21 so that moms like Cydney don't have to do it all alone.

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