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Whether you're planning on visiting your far-flung relatives or closing the year with a tropical getaway, if baby's coming along, this post is for you. Infants and toddlers can travel well – that is, as long as their travel buddies (we’re looking at you, mom and dad) are well prepared. And even if they have a meltdown on the plane or develop a fever in a far-away country, fear not: chances are, you will make it back safe, and your holiday travels can still be merry for everyone.

To help get you on your way, we’ve reached out to the pros to give you the lowdown on traveling with baby. Bookmark their recommendations, then pack up, and make your time away with baby count!

On navigating the airport with baby:

Lisa B., former flight attendant at United and mom of 2

"Check your bags. If you want to avoid the check-in line, you can check in with the skycap at the curbside. Carry on only what you need for you and your little one. Stressing about getting your bags through the security screening and finding overhead bin space, while carrying a baby, is overwhelming. This allows you to go through security with limited items. I like to wear clogs that I can slip off and on without needing to untie and retie them. Limit the items you need to take off like belts. If you are carrying a baby in a soft baby carrier, you can usually go through the screening without needing to take the baby out of the carrier."

On making the flight with baby as smooth as possible:

Beth Ann Quinn, flight attendant at United

“Parents need to come on the plane with the same baby gears as they would for any outing: change of clothes, diapers, their favorite doll or stuffed animal, and food. Don’t assume that airlines have diapers or food for your baby. And while we don’t have microwaves on the plane, we can almost always put your bottle in hot water to warm it up. I have doubled up those airplane sick bags and put hot water in them for parents to warm up the milk. I’ve noticed a lot of parents keep their babies entertained with books and toys. More and more, I’m seeing them use iPads and tablets. But you have to remember to turn off the sound or use those cute baby headphones, since no one — adults or babies — can listen to anything without headphones. Overall, I think that if the parents are relaxed and not frazzled, the baby picks up on it and is usually pretty calm too. So relax and don’t forget that, no matter what, the flight will end soon.”

On dealing with a possibly sick baby just before you leave:

Mona Amin, DO, pediatrician at Tribeca Pediatrics

“If your baby is sick prior to embarking on your holiday getaway, there is no need to immediately cancel your trip. If your child has been running fevers, especially for more than three days, it would be good for a doctor to take a look at him or her prior to your trip. If your child is having fevers, it would be nice to let those you are visiting know the situation. If there are a lot of small children and your child is febrile (temperature over 100.4 degrees Fahrenheit), it would be best to not have them in close proximity. Most fevers in children are related to viruses, and as long as your infant remains hydrated (making wet diapers) and fevers come down with tylenol or motrin, this is something that can be managed at home.”

On "gearing up" for your destination:

Henley Vasquez, CEO/Co-Founder at Passported

“For small babies, the Doona is a more high-style version of the old snap n' go strollers. It goes from car to street and limits the amount of stuff you'll need to schlep. Note: it doesn't have a big basket underneath for carrying so be certain you've got a good diaper bag. For toddlers or older children in the bigger convertible seats, rent one rather than shipping yours. They're big and unwieldy, and you can have one provided on the other side either by your car rental company or by the hotel if you've used them to book an airport transfer. They'll know the car services that have good car seats. Of course you need one [stroller], but go with an umbrella rather than bringing the Cadillac-sized version from home. We love the lightweight Maclarens, the UppaBaby G-Luxe (more robust and reclines for younger babes) or the Babyzen Yoyo, which folds into the overhead compartment of the airplane. No more waiting for slow gate check attendants.”

On making your hotel stay not suck:

Sam Jagger — general manager at Mr. C Beverly Hills

“Think of all the things that make your baby comfortable at nighttime, since you really want the baby to sleep. If it's a bumper pad and noise maker, either make sure to bring it or call and ask the hotel if they have one. In my case, it's a bulky music maker that attaches to our daughter’s crib but it's a must to have it! Also, don't be scared to ask the hotel for anything and everything that would make your stay easier. My wife and I ask for a fridge, microwave for bottles, diaper pail, baby bathtub, baby proofing the room, even a humidifier. You never know what a hotel has or may even be willing to go buy if you have requested it. Many hotels will even clean and sterilize your bottles for you. Lastly, at check in, it never hurts to ask if there's an upgrade available, because having a suite so that the baby has his/her separate sleep space is a life saver.”

On dealing with health emergencies while traveling:

Mona Amin, DO — pediatrician at Tribeca Pediatrics

"Whether you are flying or driving for the holidays, the most important thing is: take a deep breath and enjoy the experience. Traveling with infants can be nerve-wracking, especially in terms of protecting your baby's health. Wherever you will be going, it's nice to know a nearby children's hospital or pediatric urgent care for any emergencies. This is something you can look up before or simply ask family members you may be visiting. Always travel with your and your baby's health insurance card, especially if traveling within the United States. These emergencies are rare, but it is great to be prepared. If you are traveling internationally, it is good to let you pediatrician know to see if there are any other special precautions or vaccines that are recommended. The CDC website also provides a nice recommendation based on where you will be traveling."

On traveling with baby AND toddler(s):

Brianne Manz, Mom and Blogger behind Stroller in the City

“Traveling with three small children is no easy task. I remember my first trip alone with all three of my children last year. We decided to go to California for spring break, and because my husband was already there for work, I flew solo from New York to meet him there. It was their longest flight ever, and I was panicked for weeks at just the thought of flying with all three alone, but I have to say it wasn't as bad as I thought. A few tips for a smooth traveling experience would be to pack each child a bag of snacks and toys. Pick up snacks and even toys that they do not necessarily have all the time. A great resource for it, if you are too busy to purchase stuff, is Tropic Of Candycorn. They sell a pre-packed backpack, filled with games and treats for your little ones. What I did while in flight was to reward them after each hour completed with a new toy, that way they were constantly entertained. Another tip would be to load up your iPads with new movies and games, as this definitely helps pass along the time. And finally, a lightweight stroller is always a must while hustling through a crowded airport with tons of bags and three little ones. I make sure to put my little one in the stroller, while I had my two older ones holding onto each end. And my biggest tip would be not to stress, children will sense it, believe me. Happy travels!”

Photo courtesy of Passported.

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While breastfeeding might seem like a simple task, there are so many pieces to the puzzle aside from your breasts and baby. From securing a good latch, boosting your milk supply and navigating pumping at work or feeding throughout the night, there's a lot that mama has to go through—and a number of products she needs.

No matter how long your nursing journey may be, it can be hard to figure out what items you really need to add to your cart. So we asked our team at Motherly to share items they simply couldn't live without while breastfeeding. You know, those ones that are a total game-changer.

Here are the best 13 products that they recommend—and you can get them all from Walmart.com:

1. Medela Nursing Sleep Bra

"This fuss-free nursing bra was perfect for all the times that I was too tired to fumble with a clasp. It's also so comfy that, I have to admit, I still keep it in rotation despite the fact that my nursing days are behind me (shh!)." —Mary S.

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"My daughter easily transitioned back and forth between breastfeeding and these bottles." —Elizabeth

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3. Multi-Use Nursing Cover

"When I was breastfeeding, it was important to me to feel like a part of things, to be around people, entertain guests, etc. Especially since so much of being a new mom can feel isolating. So having the ability to cover up but still breastfeed out in the open, instead of disappearing into a room somewhere for long stretches alone to feed, made me feel better."—Renata

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4. Lansinoh TheraPearl Breast Therapy Pack

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5. Medela Quick Clean Breast Pump Wipes

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6. Earth Mama Organic Nipple Butter

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9. Haakaa Silicone Manual Breast Pump

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For most breastfeeding mothers, being away from your baby means lugging a breast pump with you to work or through airport security and painstakingly packing up your milk to bring or send back to your baby. But a mother who made headlines this week can't take her milk to her baby because she doesn't know when she will see her again.

Maria Domingo-Garcia is among the hundreds of workers picked up by ICE at food processing plants in Mississippi on August 7. When she left for work that day she said goodbye to her husband and three children, including the 4-month-old daughter she was nursing. All three children are U.S. citizens, CNN reports.

Mom's lawyers say she was not able to nurse or pump since being detained 

Earlier this week, when Domingo-Garcia had been separated from her daughter for 12 days, her lawyers told media that she was in a lot of pain as she had not been able to breastfeed or pump for nearly two weeks.

Not being able to drain one's breasts can lead to engorgement, which can lead to mastitis. Both engorgement and mastitis are painful, and mastitis can even be deadly if mothers cannot get medical help.

On Tuesday, a spokesperson for US Immigration and Customs Enforcement stated that a nurse has examined Domingo-Garcia and that she's not producing milk. Her lawyers say they were not present for or aware of this examination, and one of them, Ybarra Maldonado, suggests that the stress Domingo-Garcia is under may have impacted her ability to lactate.

"If during a test she didn't produce milk, perhaps it's because she's been detained for 12 days and going through a horrible situation," Maldonado told CNN.

Indeed, it is possible for a mother to stop lactating if she is separated from her baby for as long as Domingo-Garcia has been. Diana Spalding, midwife and Motherly's Digital Education Editor, says that "the process by which lactation ceases varies so much. It depends on many variables including how long and how frequently a woman was breastfeeding or pumping, how slow or fast she stopped, her emotional state, and simply her individual anatomy. It is 100% possible that Domingo-Garcia had been lactating prior to being taken by ICE."

While attorneys and ICE officials continue to debate whether or not this mother was lactating, her husband continues to try to bottle feed their daughter, an American citizen who is now going without her mother and without breastmilk.

The children are being hurt

One in four children in America has immigrant parents, according to a recent report by the Urban Institute. What's more, 75% of those children (including Domingo-Garcia's) have parents who have been in the US for more than 10 years. Like Domingo-Garcia's kids, 91% of the children of immigrants are citizens. But only 61% of the parents in these families can say the same.

That means there are more than 7 million kids in the US (most of whom are American) who have non-citizen parents and are extremely vulnerable to the same kind of trauma Domingo-Garcia's children are going through. And to call it trauma isn't speculation—it's science. We know that separating children from their parents does long term damage to kids.

"The effect is catastrophic," Charles Nelson, a pediatrics professor at Harvard Medical School told the Washington Post last year. "There's so much research on this that if people paid attention at all to the science, they would never do this."

That is why the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) stands against the detention of immigrant children, who may soon be detained indefinitely if a plan announced Wednesday proceeds. The AAP also warns against separating children from their parents or primary caregiver unless that person is abusing the child.

"It is the position of the AAP that children in the custody of their parents should never be detained, nor should they be separated from a parent, unless a competent family court makes that determination. In every decision about children, government decision-makers should prioritize the best interests of the child," the APP noted in its 2017 policy statement Detention of Immigrant Children.

Domingo-Garcia's children are not being detained, but they are being hurt by their mother's detention and child advocates say far too many children know their pain.

​When mom or dad is taken

Domingo-Garcia was far from the only immigrant parents working in Mississippi food processing plants the day of the ICE raid that changed her family's life. There were so many more parents who didn't come home that day. The day that also happened to be the first day of school in Scott County.

School superintendent Tony McGee told The Clarion Ledger his staff were working hard to help the children who were displaced or impacted by the ICE raids, and he acknowledged that the situation will impact students' academic abilities. "We'll worry about the school part of it after we get all this sorted out," he said. "You can't expect a child to stay focused on the schoolwork when he's trying to focus on where Mom and Dad are."

Indeed, research links parental incarceration with children developing attention deficit disorders, developmental and speech delays, learning disabilities and behavior problems.

And yet, in some ways, parental incarceration may be better for children than parental detention, which is what Domingo-Garcia's experience is defined as. Incarceration is something that follows a conviction and is a long-term thing. Kids whose parents are convicted of a crime and sent to prison often know where mom or dad is and may even get to maintain a relationship with them.

Detention, on the other hand, is a temporary, more slippery state. The children of those in ICE facilities don't know when or if they are coming home or if they will be deported.

There are other ways in which having a parent incarcerated in prison is different than having one detained in an ICE facility. In some American prisons, moms are permitted to nurse their babies. If Domingo-Garcia had gone to prison in New Mexico she would have the right to breastfeed and the right to pump milk for her baby. But she went to work in Mississippi instead.

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If you're about to be a parent, whether it's for the first time or not, then you've probably thought about all the changes in your life that are coming—especially in the area of finances. Having a baby alters your financial picture. If you take maternity or paternity leave, those changes can be even more pronounced.

If you have student loans in repayment, you may find it difficult to make monthly loan payment with a new baby, and you might be wondering how to make it work.

So how do you handle student loan payments while on maternity leave?

Here are the options available to student loan borrowers:

Family leave deferment

If you have a federal student loan, you can ask for a parental leave/working mother deferment, which offers you time without payments. Becoming a new mother isn't cause for an automatic deferment, like a job loss or serious illness, and so you'll have to work with your servicer directly to request this type of deferment. Navient, one of the largest federal loan servicers, offers information about this deferment on their website.

To be eligible, you'll need to either be pregnant or have a baby less than six months old. You must prove this via a birth certificate or doctor's statement confirming your pregnancy.

In addition, you cannot be working full-time or attending school during the deferment period. If you're hoping to ask for a deferment without taking the time off work, you'll find your request denied. The maximum length of a deferment is six months.

Forbearance

A forbearance allows you to either make a smaller payment or postpone payments completely. Like the deferment, you'll need to contact your servicer and request it. If it's approved, you can take some time off of your student loans while you're off work. Just be aware that even during forbearance, interest continues to accrue, which means your total balance will increase during that time.

Income-based repayment plan

If you'd prefer to keep making payments but just need the amount reduced, you can apply for a new income-based repayment plan. The Income-Based Repayment (IBR) plan caps your monthly payment at 10% to 15% of your discretionary income. And since it's also based upon the size of your family, it will account for the fact that your family size has changed, and your discretionary income has decreased. To apply, contact your loan servicer.

Pay as you earn (PAYE) plan

Another option is the Pay As You Earn (PAYE) plan, which allows you to pay 10% of your income, but only up to the payment amount you would have paid on the standard plan. Because the income and family size are reassessed each year, this plan is great for growing families. It allows you to get a temporary reprieve with lower payments. Then, as you further your career and increase your income, your payment gets back on schedule. Your servicer can help get you set up with the PAYE plan. Your spouse's income is only counted if you file taxes as married jointly.

Revised pay as you earn (REPAYE) plan

Under the Revised Pay As You Earn (REPAYE) plan, you'll pay the same 10% of your income, with annual reassessment of your situation. You won't, however, get a break from counting your spouse's income. With REPAYE, all income counts regardless of how you file your taxes. The good news is that anything left on your balance will be forgiven after 20 years. Talk to your servicer to see if it's a good fit.

Income contingent-repayment (ICR) plan

The Income Contingent-Repayment (ICR) plan is either 20% of your discretionary income, or what you'd pay on a fixed repayment for 12 years, whichever is less. Just as in the other options, you must update your income and family size each year even if nothing changed. In addition, you may have to pay taxes on any amount that is forgiven because the government considers it income. It does, however, work on subsidized, unsubsidized, PLUS, and even consolidation loans, and can be applied for with your servicer.

Budgeting for a baby

There's no way around it—having a baby brings a lot of new expenses. From the things you'll need to buy before the baby comes, to the amount of diapers, bottles and other things your child will need in their first year, you'll need to figure out how much that will cost and how to correctly budget for it. Babycenter.com has a calculator that can help you break down what your child will cost in a given year. You can divide that number by 12 to understand the monthly costs.

Then, you'll want to identify where you can cut back, if possible, to continue meeting your monthly student loan obligations. For some, that might mean eating out less and bypassing the afternoon latte. For others, it'll require a full restructuring of the budget, especially if you plan to take maternity leave that's not fully paid. Since most maternity leaves are unpaid, you'll need to consider expenses, monthly bills, or other obligations that normally comes out of your paycheck and add those to the budget for the time that you're home.

After you get a handle on what your finances will look like and you have a functional budget, don't wait for your child to arrive before trying to live on that budget. In fact, the sooner you start cutting back, the better. That way, you can get a head start on saving, and you'll also be able to adjust any facets of your budget that prove unworkable.

The bottom line

Having a baby is a joyful experience. But caring for a newborn brings enough stress without the anxiety of how you'll pay student loans while you're on maternity or paternity leave. The best time to plan for your new family member is long before you bring them home. Take the time to talk to your servicer, make a budget and prepare your finances for your baby.

Originally posted on lendedu.

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Michael Bublé knows how to make music that makes us feel all the feels, and his viral lyric video for his song "Forever Now" proves it.

If you've got kids heading back to school, watch this at your own risk and with some tissues handy, mama.

Michael Bublé - Forever Now [Official Lyric Video] youtu.be

The video is a simple animation of a child's room as it transforms over time from a nursery to the packed-up bedroom of a young adult leaving the nest. We held it together until it got to this part: "It wasn't so long ago, we walked together and you held my hand. and now you're getting too big to want to."

The video reminds us of the classic children's book Love You Forever, and that the babies in our arms today will one day be in someone else's arms.

Right now, when our days are filled with bottle washing and shoe getting and making sure that no one falls asleep in their car seat the days sometimes feel so long, but Bublé's telling us something that we sometimes forget: One day we will be looking back and wondering why these long days went by so fast.

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It would be easy to look at one of Tori Roloff's (of Little People, Big World) stunning maternity photos and think everything is going perfectly for the soon-to-be mother of two, who is expecting a baby girl with her husband Zach. But Tori is keeping it real: Though the photos may show her in a pretty dress, cradling her baby bump against a stunning backdrop, Tori isn't loving every second of her pregnancy. And you know what? That's okay.

The pregnancy is so rough, Tori initially didn't even want to commemorate it with photos (though we bet she's glad she did upon seeing the finished product!).

"I'm not one of those women who loves being pregnant," Tori writes alongside one maternity photo, which she posted to Instagram. "In fact there's not a lot of times I do love being pregnant. Don't get me wrong. I thank God for this amazing gift every single day and I know how blessed I am but it definitely hasn't made me feel my best."

But let's make one thing clear: Just because Tori is clearly finding parts of pregnancy unpleasant, that doesn't mean she isn't immensely grateful for the chance to carry her baby.

"This photo truly embodies what I LOVE about pregnancy. My growing bump is a symbol of a healthy girlsie [sic]. It's a reminder that I'm in a position that many women dream of and trust me—I do not take it for granted," she adds.

One Instagram user sums up our feelings on this post pretty perfectly. "Pregnancy is so hard and I think some people assume that if you don't love it, you're ungrateful. I think you can recognize the difficulties of pregnancy and still be grateful for it — they're not mutually exclusive. This photograph is stunning and you are glowing. Embrace your feelings, no matter what they are. You're valid in them! Sending you big love," she writes in the post's comments.

Our take? Pregnancy is not easy...at all! Morning sickness, exhaustion, back pain, hip pain, belly pain...let's just say expectant mamas can be in a lot of discomfort and voicing that discomfort is totally acceptable.

Yes, pregnancy is an amazing blessing (and one that not every woman gets to or wants to experience), but not enjoying every single second of it doesn't take away from the gratitude an expectant mom feels. So to Tori (and all the other uncomfortable preggos out there), here's what we'll say: Don't beat yourself up for not loving pregnancy. It doesn't mean you love your baby — or the privilege of carrying them—any less.

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