Cara Dolin's Pregnancy Style
Name: Cara Dolin
Neighborhood: Murray Hill
Occupation: High-risk obstetrician at NYU
Baby’s Sex: It's a girl!

How would you describe your pregnant style?
With my first pregnancy, I was still in residency and was wearing scrubs 99% of the time, so I’ve had a lot more fun dressing my bump this pregnancy. I look for what I call "non-maternity-maternity" clothes, regular clothes that can fit the bump. I invested in a few pairs of maternity jeans and leggings, which I pair with tunic-type tops, oversized sweaters or dresses. I also love showing off the bump with fitted tops. I try to stay away from anything that screams maternity, like clothes with ruching.

Have you had any challenges learning to dress your body during this pregnancy?
I'm on my feet all day at work, so finding shoes that are comfortable and look good with swollen pregnancy feet has been a challenge. Compression stockings are key for minimizing swelling and maximizing comfort in the third trimester.

So far, what has surprised you most during your pregnancy?
I've been surprised at how different it is from my first pregnancy. With my son, I had a super easy pregnancy but this time, I'm experiencing a lot more of the pregnancy-related symptoms I hear about from my patients. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love being pregnant, but this pregnancy is definitely making me a more empathetic Ob/Gyn!

What are you most looking forward to sharing with your baby?
My mother passed away unexpectedly just two months before my due date. I miss her every day, but I know that her spirit will live on within this little girl. She was an extraordinary woman who taught me not only the importance of hard work and resilience, but also to find joy and laughter in each and every day. I am looking forward to raising my daughter to be a strong, independent, generous and creative woman, just like her grandmother.

What’s your top 5 registry essentials?
1. Ergo 360 Baby Carrier. Babywearing makes navigating NYC with a baby a million times easier.
2. Medela Freestyle Breastpump. As a working mama, pumping becomes a huge part of the daily routine. This pump is efficient and has a rechargeable battery in so you can pump anywhere, even on the go. 3. Keekaroo Peanut Baby Changer. Looks chic on the dresser and is a breeze to wipe down, no need to constantly wash the changing pad. 4. Puj Baby Tub. Stores flat which is key for small-space living in NYC apartments. 5. Mom's One Line a Day: A Five-Year Memory Book. I was given this by my sister when my son was born, and it was the best gift! Even in your most busy, hectic day, you can find the time to journal one sentence to capture precious memories. I give this to all my pregnant friends now.

Cara is wearing: Madewell Tunic Dress ASOS Maternity Legging

Photography by Laurence Brett Wiener.

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A very important letter for new mamas

Listen, mom-guilt is a dirty liar. Yes, it's your job to fill your little human's needs, but you matter too. Don't forget to take care of yourself. Hang out with friends, take a drive blaring 90's hip hop or shower without interruptions—trust me, you'll be a better person (and mom) because of it.

Dear new mom,

You will shave again someday. Today is not that day.

Set expectations low, my friend, and set your partner's lower—at least where body hair and overall hygiene are concerned.

That conversation could go something like this: “From now on let's not consider shaving a “standard," but more like a gift that happens on birthdays and the first day of summer."

Voila, you are a gift-giving genius. You know what else is a gift? Shaving the inch and a half of skin that is between your skinny jeans and your boots. You're welcome world.

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