There’s a really special club you join when you become pregnant. You’ll know you’re in the club when you sneeze, and the mama next to you doesn’t hand you a tissue -- she hands you a panty liner. And you think: there goes another pair of undies. But not if you've discovered Dear Kate leak-resistant underwear. Every sweet pair has a built-in breathable lining that protects like a panty liner. Meaning you can have more laugh till you pee moments during pregnancy. Because goodness knows, we can use them. Still, we know that peeing your pants every 10 minutes doesn’t really make you feel sexy. That’s why we’re doubly glad that Dear Kates are so beautiful, with flattering fits and enchanting details. And while they’re not technically maternity underwear, many pregos we know swear by Dear Kate's silky, soft, breathable fabric, and super-comfy under-belly fit. Oh, and guess what (wink, wink) -- the leaking doesn’t stop after the baby comes. So you’ll be glad you stocked up on Dear Kates now. Below, Dear Kate’s genius founder Julie Sygiel talks bladder, baby and beautiful underthings. And read on for an exclusive discount for Well Rounded NY readers and info on our Dear Kate giveaway! Why did you launch Dear Kate? What makes them different than other undies out there? I took an entrepreneurship class in college and my business plan team realized that every woman has a horror story from “that time of the month,” not to mention the monthly stress our period adds to daily life while we’re busy working, exercising, and doing all the intense activities that ambitious women pursue. We decided to engineer a new fabric that would be stain-releasing (no more time spent hand washing your favorite pair after it gets hit by Aunt Flo) and leak-resistant (no worries if you have post-baby bladder). Every pair has our patent-pending fabric combination that includes a built-in breathable lining that protects like a pantiliner, while also being super soft and beautiful. Ditch panty liners? For real? Tell us about it! Once we launched, we realized it's not only during our period that women are at a disadvantage in the underwear region. Turns out, 1 in 3 new moms experience light bladder leaks after giving birth for 5 years or more. This number increases to 40% by the time women reach menopause, yet it's a topic that is even more taboo than menstruation. The media seems to glorify getting your 'pre-baby body back' in a few weeks without recognizing the incredible changes that have taken place during pregnancy and childbirth. Many women don't know that bladder issues are common and thus embarrassment prevents discussing the issue with friends or doctors. Given the large number of women affected who tend to resort to wearing pantiliners every day, the current solution leads to environmental waste. Plus let's be real--pantiliners do not make me feel sexy and certainly aren't comfortable to wear every day. The reality is that there are many options including pelvic floor exercises, diet, and in extreme cases, surgery, to make a bladder behave. At Dear Kate, we aim to educate and support women every day of the month, before and after childbirth, to do anything by equipping them with underwear that’s up for the challenge. In what other ways is the construction so great for a pregnant gal or new mom? The fit? The feel? We are obsessive about fit and I personally try on every new style to make sure the fabric feels like a second skin. When you first feel our fabric, it's a tad thicker than normal undies, however, we've designed the fit be invisible so you forget you're even wearing underwear throughout the day. Many pregnant gals have told us they love wearing our hipsters and thongs since they hit below the belly. Once baby appears many new moms love wearing the underwear as they are out and about showing off their little one and starting to exercise again. How are Dear Kate thongs comfy for pregnancy? The interesting thing about underwear is that each woman tends to have a favorite cut and once you find the one that works for you, it makes up the majority of your underwear drawer. We've heard that women who love wearing thongs pre-pregnancy often want to wear what's familiar during as their body changes so we love that we're able to give them an option to wear their favorite cut with extra function. Tell us about the combination of fashion and function. When I first started designing the underwear I polled everyone I knew (I think I drove my friends crazy talking about undies 24/7). Turns out the most important thing to women about our underwear is comfort. It makes sense that we feel cute and sexy when we are comfortable so I take comfort seriously in every design. That means no digging in and no wedgies. Once we have comfort covered, I think about what type of styles we can offer so there's something that appeals to everyone. Some pairs are sporty, some lacy, some have bows, some have ruching in the back... And what's the difference between a full and mini lining? The mini (and the thong) holds up to 1 tsp of liquid so they're great for light days when you're not sure if you need backup but want it just in case. The fully lined pairs can hold up to 3 tsp of liquid in a worst-case scenario so they're great for times when you suspect you'll need backup. What are your latest collections and where do all your cute style names come from? Our newest collections are the Margot and our Queen sized collection. The Margot is inspired by famous ballerina Margot Fonteyn (we like to name each collection after an awesome woman in history) and features navy fabric with black lace detail. We are thrilled to expand our size range with the Queen Collection featuring sizes 1x-3x. Can you give us your Dear Kates picks for pregnancy? a) Comfy: The Amelia Hipster Mini b) Sexy: The Amelia Thong c) Sporty: The Hazel Set of 3 Fully Lined Sport Hipsters d) Supportive: The Ella Fully Lined Brief e) New mama: The Rosa Fully Lined Black Brief To help you transition your underwear drawer, Dear Kate is offering Well Rounded NY readers an exclusive discount through Feb. 2. Use the code "wellrounded" at checkout at dearkates.com for 25% off (valid for first time customers only). We’re also giving away a gorgeous Dear Kate Ella set (a fully lined hipster, thong and bralet) to one lucky reader this week. Enter here!
Jessica Pallay is the director of event programming & operations at Motherly and the co-founder of the pregnancy community Well Rounded, which was acquired by Motherly in 2019. She's an experienced writer, editor and content marketer, and has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Vogue.com, Cheddar and more. She lives in Brooklyn with her two daughters, Libby & Elsie, and her husband Andrew. You can follow her here.
Creating your baby registry is one of the most exciting getting-ready-for-baby tasks a mama takes part in (other than, you know, growing a life). But even though sorting through adorably teeny this and itsy bitsy that can be loads of fun, that doesn't change the fact that there are SO many products from which to choose—not to mention slight variations in version for each. And how do parents know if you even need that *very specific* item to begin with, since each baby's likes are so different? It helps to have an expert guiding you through the what's-actually-worth-it process, whether it's veteran parents in your life who will likely offer up suggestions, or stores like buybuy BABY that handpick the must-have options and make registry building super easy for you.
From strollers to car seats and swings (because you'll definitely be needing a swing at some point), here are our top picks for first-time parents of the items you'll be glad you put on your baby registry, trust us.
UPPAbaby VISTA stroller
The best recommendation is the one from someone you trust and if you ask around, it won't take long for you to learn that UPPAbaby® is one of the most beloved stroller brands by new and seasoned moms alike. The VISTA is their crème de la crème, and it comes with all sorts of high quality features (think an ultra-sturdy frame and all-wheel suspension to help absorb all those bumps on the road) that will keep your babe comfortable no matter where your walk takes you. Plus, it comes in a bunch of great colors and transitions to a double as your family grows.
Chicco KeyFit 30 infant car seat
When it comes to keeping your little one safe, a car seat is probably the most important piece of gear you'll buy. While you'll hopefully never need to test it out, the KeyFit® seat keeps your little peanut extra secure with things like side impact protection—plus, thanks to handy bubble indicators, installing it correctly doesn't require a rocket scientist[JS9] . It's all about making your life easier while helping you breathe easier, too!
4moms mamaRoo classic infant seat
All hail the infant swing 🙌. Whether your cute new bundle is generally calm or has more of a defiant streak, chances are there'll be a time when you need some hands-free soothing. Enter the mamaRoo, a beyond useful swing that looks as cozy as it is. Strap the nugget in, choose one of five distinct motion patterns, and let yourself enjoy that moment of solitude on the couch (without leaving baby unsupervised, of course).
HALO Bassinest premier series swivel sleeper
Being a new mom is all about snuggles and, if we're being honest, surviving those sleepless nights. And since the American Association of Pediatrics' current recommendation is to have your baby sleep in your room for at least the first 6 months of life anyway, why not have your little one spend his or her early nights snoozing in a bedside bassinet to save some time in the middle of the night? The HALO Bassinest is designed to nuzzle right up next to your bed, too, so you won't even have to get out from under the comforter during those 3am feedings.
Graco Table2Table premier fold 7-in1 convertible high chair
Spoiler alert: Your little babe is going to grow up fast. While it may seem like they'll be in that just-learning-how-to-eat phase forever, they'll outgrow the full-fledged high chair in a blink. While you can definitely buy a variety of different seating apparatuses for them, you can also buy one that'll last with your growing baby. With seven different configurations ranging from an infant reclining high chair to a toddler table and little chair, this is the only one you'll ever need.
Fisher-Price 4-in-1 sling 'n seat bath tub
Bath time is arguably one of the cutest elements of parenthood. So rather than concentrating on holding your slippery little baby safely in the sink while also, you know, washing them, do yourself a favor and invest in an infant tub with an adjustable sling. It'll help make the bonding time fun of bath time more secure so you can focus on enjoying those beautiful sudsy moments.
Hatch Baby Rest sound machine night light + time-to-rise
Technology has brought us a lot of advantages, but one of the best? The ability to comfort your little one without ever leaving bed. The Hatch Baby Rest offers sound- and light-control from your smartphone so you can use the power of noise to help them back to sleep if they fuss in the middle of the night without requiring you to drag your tired self out of bed. Plus, when the toddler years come around, it doubles as a time-to-rise clock so that ball of energy knows when it's appropriate to barrel into your room.
Fridababy baby basics kit
Fridababy has made a name for itself with its cheeky (but incredibly practical) products like the congestion-fighting NoseFrida® and the less-than-pleasant Windi. With this basics bundle, you can get four of their most popular—for nose, behind, scalp and nails—in one convenient package. It's not glamorous, mamas, but it's parenting at its finest.
Graco 4Ever all-in-one convertible car seat
Whether or not you choose to purchase an infant car seat for the first months, you will eventually need a convertible car seat as your kiddo gets bigger, and the best options will grow with them. The Graco® 4Ever All-in-1 accommodates children up to 40 pounds facing backwards and up to 65 pounds facing forward. Plus, it can be used as a booster seat up through the age of 10. One less thing to buy until then, mama!
Skip*Hop explore + more 3-stage activity center
Insider parenting tip: Invest in a few great toys that serve as a great way to help your baby learn and explore and stay safe (read: unable to crawl away when you turn your head for a split second). An activity center serves both of those purposes—keeps them entertained and contained fabulously. Even better, the SKIP*HOP® Explore & More 3-Stage has an extra-long shelf life as it converts to an activity table when they outgrow the harness. Plus, there's a snack bowl attachment, and as every mama knows, snacks mean victory.
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At Motherly we know that mothers can and do balance business needs with the needs of their children every day. We do it every day, and we know that mothers at other companies are doing it every day, too—but this balancing act often isn't talked about.
This week a COO and father, Seth Morales, went viral for drawing attention to how hard his wife, and all working moms, work outside of regular business hours and outside offices.
Morales posted a photo of his wife comforting their child in a hospital bed, writing, "I took this picture of my wife and son this morning. Too often working moms don't get enough credit. I'm sharing this because I want people to know it's possible. You can be great at work and at home."
He continues: "But sacrifices need to be made before/after normal working hours. The idea of working 40+ hours in the office isn't realistic. You'd be surprised at how productive my wife is from her smartphone while running errands. But she constantly thinks she's falling short with everything. Balancing life is messy and difficult. For all you working parents out there please have grace for yourself, it's a process."
Morales is right about many things: 40 hours of butt-in-seat office work is not realistic for many parents. Our kids have needs Monday through Friday, 9-5 that we need to be there for sometimes. Clearly, Morales' child was in need of medical attention and that's the kind of thing that parents need to be able to give their attention to, whether it happens during regular business hours or not. And Morales is also right that parents are making sacrifices, working before and after traditional office hours and making the most of small pockets of time. It sound like Morales' wife is multitasking a lot of time time, running her work from her "smartphone while running errands."
It's great that this powerful COO is sharing the struggles that working parents face and that a working mother's spouse is recognizing her efforts on a personal level. But we would challenge partners like Morales: If you see your partner trying so hard to do everything and feeling like she's never doing enough, perhaps it is time to ask yourself if YOU are doing enough.
Research shows that among heterosexual couples, women simply do more of the unpaid work of child-rearing than men do, and it hurts our careers, our families and our relationships (and that if men did just 50 minutes more labor at home every day we could close the gender gap.)
We would also challenge business leaders like Morales: If you see your employees are making the sacrifices that he mentions here, working before and after working hours and feeling like they are merely surviving, not thriving, maybe your culture needs to catch up with the needs of employees.
And finally, we challenge any working mother who "constantly thinks she's falling short with everything" to drop some balls and delegate at home. Get the store-bought muffins and share the load of managing your family load with your partner.
Morales is right, we can be great at work and at home, but not if we're not supported at work and at home.
Sometimes it's hard for kids (and adults) to understand things that can't see. That's why some creative teachers are using bread to show kids just how germy their hands can get.
"We did a science project in class this last month as flu season was starting. We took fresh bread and touched it. We did one slice untouched. One with unwashed hands. One with hand sanitizer. One with washed hands with warm water and soap. Then we decided to rub a piece on all our classroom Chromebooks," teacher Jaralee Annice Metcalf writes in a now-viral Facebook post.
When the bread was left in sealed plastic bags the slices that had been exposed to more bacteria via laptops and unwashed hands grew the most mold.
The bread that had been rubbed on those Chromebooks might be the grossest piece of bread we've ever seen, and really underscores Jaralee's point: "As somebody who is sick and tired of being sick and tired of being sick and tired. Wash your hands! Remind your kids to wash their hands! And hand sanitizer is not an alternative to washing hands!"
The CDC agrees with this elementary school teacher: Handwashing reduces the spread of diarrheal and respiratory illnesses (basically the bugs kids seem to be magnets for) so it's a good idea to teach kids to do it properly and often.
Jaralee isn't the first teacher to go viral for incorporating this experiment into her classroom and she probably won't be the last. Full instructions for this project are listed on the C.S. Mott Children's Hospital website and are easy to replicate at home.
Her Facebook post has been criticized by people questioning the conditions of her experiment, but as she notes on her Facebook page, they're kind of missing the point: "We are an elementary school. Not a fancy CDC lab, so relax a little and WASH YOUR HANDS."
It's good advice from a caring teacher and a reminder to wash our hands (and sanitize our laptops!)
Whether you have a child in a Montessori school or you are just looking for cool gifts that encourage creative, independent play, we've got you covered. We found the most Montessori-friendly gifts available on Amazon and they won't break the bank—win-win.
While they aren't the hottest toys of the moment, they'll last you a lot longer than a trendy product. Here, you'll find handpicked quality and non-tech gifts like marble runs, interlocking discs and iconic board books, that'll stimulate simple, open-ended play. Perfect to share with family members looking for gifts that don't involve a screen.
Here are our favorite Montessori-inspired gifts under $50 found on Amazon:
TT.Remax Montessori munari mobile
The Montessori mobiles were designed specifically to engage infants in each developmental stage. This one is the first mobile in the series and is meant for newborns which is why it features black and white images.
Age: 3-6 months
Kiddison Montessori kicking ball cotton
This handmade ball is perfect for Montessori babies because it is easy for them to hold and rolls slowly, providing just the right amount of challenge for babies learning to scoot and crawl. It also has a soft jingle that babies love.
Age: 1-2 years old
Melissa & Doug rainbow stacker
This ring stacker is made from durable and child-safe wood, rather than plastic, and is simple in design, perfect for a screen-free play experience for babies 18 months and up.
Age: 18 months+
Global Babies board book
Montessori focuses a lot on world peace and learning about different cultures. This beautiful board book is a perfect introduction. Spanish and English words teach the littlest readers that everywhere on earth, babies are special and loved.
Age: 1-3 years old
EOFEEL Montessori interlocking discs
These interlocking discs are a good example of a Montessori toy designed to isolate one specific skill—in this case, a baby's ability to transfer something from one hand to the other. It's ideal for building fine motor skills, hand eye coordination and inspiring babies to explore the world.
Age: 12 months+
Elite Montessori object permanence box
This Montessori toy helps babies explore the concept that just because they can't see something, it doesn't mean it's gone. With repeated use of this material, the child learns how it feels to succeed when they have achieved a goal on their own.
Age: 1-10 years old
Elite Montessori infant coin box
This is a more advanced baby toy to help babies further explore object permanence and work on fine motor skills.
Age: 12 months+
Sunny Days Entertainment adventure play tunnel
Movement and gross motor development are a big part of Montessori and this tunnel can be used indoors or outdoors, encouraging babies and toddlers to keep moving even on the coldest days. When not in use, it folds flat for easy storage and quick portability.
Age: 3-12 years old
Helen Oxenbury Baby love: a board book gift set
Montessori books for babies and young children focus on the real world. These little board books depict babies doing things like clapping and saying goodnight, real life events babies can relate to.
Age: 1-4 years old
Five Color Lines mini band musical instruments
While Montessori toys do not feature electronic sounds, instruments that allow babies and toddlers to create their own music are perfect!
Age: 5 years+
Schleich north america farm world starter set
While many Montessori toys are made from natural materials rather than plastic, Schleich animals make the cut because they are highly realistic and to scale, supporting the Montessori ideal of helping young children to learn about the real world through their play.
Age: 3-8 years old
JC Toys Berenguer doll newborn gift set
Providing toddlers with realistic toys like this baby doll or realistic play food supports their exploration of everyday life through pretend play. The 8-piece layette gift set includes short-sleeve bodysuit, short-sleeve t-shirt, a pair of booties, hat, cloth diaper, diaper cover and hospital bracelet.
Age: 2-10 years old
TickiT wooden fruit + vegetable match
Montessori classrooms use matching work, like this one, to help young children refine visual discrimination to prepare for reading, as well as to introduce vocabulary. We love that the chunky tiles are easy for small hands to grip, rotate and turn over.
Age: 12 months+
Star Right heads + tails animal match puzzle
Part of the magic of Montessori is matching a child with just the right level of challenge. This beginner jigsaw puzzle does just that, as you can give a child one puzzle at a time if they're just starting out, or three or four puzzles if they've mastered completing one.
Age: 2 months-2 years old
Guidecraft jr. rainbow blocks
Blocks of all kinds are in line with Montessori's emphasis on exploration and child-led learning and play. Use this toy when helping kids with hand-eye coordination, visual perception, color exploration or light table activities.
Age: 2-7 months
Gabrielle Balkan The book of bones: 10 record-breaking animals
The Book of Bones is the perfect addition to a Montessori library because it provides rich detail about the world in a straightforward, beautiful way. Little readers can examine animals' skeletons and guess to whom they belong; the answers are revealed in humorous explanations.
Age: 7-10 years old
ECOOPRO elecfly kids microscope
Young children are all about exploring their world and a microscope is the perfect tool for a budding young scientist. It's built-in three different color filters and the rotating wheel saves you from having to stain slides.
Age: 5 years+
Kidz Xplore outdoor explorer nature exploration kit
Montessori schools often include an outdoor classroom, encouraging children to spend as much time as possible in nature. This outdoor explorer set helps get kids learning outside!
Age: 5-10 years old
Thoth Montessori wooden mathematical manipulative material block board
Rubber band boards are often used in Montessori classrooms to encourage children to explore geometry, while also working on fine motor skills and concentration. Kids will also learn all types of 2D shapes and concepts around fractions.
Age: 3 years+
National Geographic balance stepping stones
These stepping stones are in line with the Montessori philosophy of encouraging children to use their bodies as well as their minds—these make a great indoor gross motor activity!
Age: 3 years+
Fajiabao Montessori logic games slide puzzle board
In Montessori, children work with patterns to encourage early math skills. This toy encourages children to work with patterns in a fun way. The one side of sliding blocks printed with four kinds of shapes and five-pointed star. Matching the different shaped blocks helps kids identify different geometric puzzles.
Age: 3 years+
MEROCO Montessori screwdriver board
Developing real life skills is a big part of Montessori for young kids. Why not let them practice with a real screwdriver instead of a pretend one?
Age: 3 years+
Ravensburger solar system jigsaw puzzle
In Montessori, elementary aged kids are busy exploring the big questions of the universe as they begin to think more abstractly. This type of beautiful and realistic puzzle supports that interest in science while building skills like concentration and creativity.
Age: 8-15 years old
DK dinosaur book
Montessori elementary classrooms spend a lot of time studying early history, including prehistoric times as this is a huge interest of many children this age. This dinosaur book is a great way to encourage their curiosity!
Age: 4-7 years old
Blue Orange Photosynthesis strategy board game
Many Montessori classrooms for older kids begin incorporating more group work as social interactions and relationships are so important to this age group. Board games are a great way to support social skills like taking turns and winning or losing gracefully. Kids will love going through the life-cycle of trees and earn points as their leaves collect energy from the revolving sun's rays.
Age: 8 years+
NEX sewing machine
Montessori continues to support teaching practical life skills with older children and a sewing machine can be a really rewarding gift as a child experiences the pride of making his or her own clothes. The simple on/off control button and foot pedal make it great for little ones.
Age: 10 years+
Hape quadrilla wooden marble run
A wooden marble run is a perfect Montessori toy because it's made of natural materials and encourages creativity and problem solving skills. The marble run can also be leveled or built up with add-ons for more advanced builders.
Age: 4-15 years old
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A month before Christmas the brakes on my 15-year-old sedan started making a strange noise. The bill at the auto shop came to $2,400. That's a lot of money for my family. My Christmas shopping list was immediately slashed, the vacation we'd been planning for the new year (our first real vacation ever) drifted further into the future.
Every day I look at my family and I think about how lucky we are. Our son is healthy and that is priceless. We have a modest home filled with everything we need and wiggle room for some little luxuries (hello Starbucks and Disney+). And importantly, in an area where unemployment is steadily climbing (and with a spouse who is about to be out of work) I still have a job.
But when that $2,400 bill came my usual gratitude was overtaken by resentment. Because as much as I appreciate what we have, I resent how much our culture is focused on the aspirational when for so many of us, even average seems unattainable.
I resent the fact that I am still paying off my student loans.
I resent how incomes haven't risen with housing costs.
I resent how childcare costs eat so much of my income.
But mostly I just resent how society is squeezing parents for every dollar while simultaneously shaming us for not having enough of them.
So to the mama who wishes she had a bigger budget for her kids' Christmas presents, I see you. I know that you're trying so hard and your kids know it, too. Please know that the magic of Christmas is not in the cost, it's in the memories. Please give yourself the gift of a guilt-free Christmas.
To the mama who is working overtime and picking up side gigs, I see you. I see your hustle, your ambition and your love for your family, and this Christmas I want you to try to give yourself a break. Even just a small one, because even mamas are human and you need to rest, too.
To the mama who is running a household on only her partner's income, I see you. I know it can feel impossible (that's because it nearly is). I also know you are supporting your spouse in their career because that's what is best for your family right now. I know that you are working so hard at home and that sometimes it feels like one income isn't enough. Please give yourself credit for all the unpaid labor you are doing.
To the mama who can rely only on her own income, I see you. You're solo parenting, you're the sole provider, and you are amazing. You are strong. You are bearing so much responsibility and I want you to know that you are more than enough for your children.
To the mama who can't afford to live where she wants to, I see you. Maybe you always dreamed of raising your kids in the big city, but economic realities have relocated you to a far-flung suburb. I see you out there, doing what is best for your family on a budget smaller than you'd like, in a city smaller than you'd like. Mama, know that you are a gift to your community.
To the mama struggling to pay for IVF: I see you. And I see how bad you want this. I want it for you, too. I wish you didn't have to turn to loans and credit cards and crowdfunding for this. Please know that motherhood takes many forms and be gentle with yourself this season.
To the mama struggling to pay off a birth: I see you. And I'm angry for you. I am so angry and perplexed by a system that would bill new parents astronomical sums at a time in their lives when they can least afford it. Giving birth should not put people into debt.
To the mama who has reached her limit, I see you. When you're waiting for payday, every minute seems like forever. When your card is declined at the checkout that moment lasts a lifetime. Please, accept help if you need it. There is kindness in the world for you.
To the mama using SNAP or visiting the food bank this season, I see you. And I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you for navigating this challenging time in your life because figuring out how to do this isn't easy. I'm proud of you for being such a good mother and making sure that your kids have nutritious food.
To the mama getting help from her family, I see you. It can be hard to accept help from your parents when you are a parent yourself, but please do try to see it as a gift. They love you so much that they want to support you, and you can honor that by seeing yourself as worthy of support.
To the mama who is not getting help from her family, I see you. It can be painful to watch your friends and acquaintances get financial help from their families when yours is not in a position to do the same. It's human to be envious when someone's dad gives them a down payment, but the best gift you can give yourself is to focus on your own kids and non-financial gifts you are giving them every day.
To the mama who feels like her life doesn't live up to Instagram, I see you. I understand the pain of scrolling through social media, wondering why it seems like everyone else has a nice home and can take their kids on vacation when you can't. Give yourself the gift of unfollowing or turning off social media.To the mama who feels like she'll never get out of student loan debt, I see you, I am you, and I can tell you there's hope. For years my student loans have kept me down. They are the reason I am driving a 15-year-old, money pit of a car in the first place. But by the end of 2019 they will finally, mercifully be paid off. Most of the student debt in America is held by women. This is an issue impacting a generation of mothers. You are not alone.