Finding Your Mama Tribe

5 reasons to build the inner circle you never knew you’d need.

Finding Your Mama Tribe

There’s nothing like snuggling with your newborn for days upon days as a new mama. That new baby smell, the touch of their skin--it’s all-consuming in the most wonderful way possible. But after a while, even in the big city, having a newborn can feel isolating. So we always have one piece of advice for new moms: “Find your mama tribe.”

We’re not saying to drop your pre-baby friends--that would be a major no-no--but it’s time to open up and make room in your life for new mamas that will become essential to your well-being.

And while there are great resources for meeting new mama friends, like neighborhood listservs, sometimes the best way to meet a new mama is simply by introducing yourself to that cute lady with baby you keep seeing at your local coffee shop. Better yet? Let a friend set you up!


We played mama matchmaker recently and dared three of the most badass NYC mamas we know to leave behind their daily routines and responsibilities for a day and to join us on a little day trip to Governor’s Island. We asked them to embrace our little adventure with just a BabyBjörn Carrier One and smartly packed (and super chic) BabyBjörn Diaper Bag Sofo. And we asked them to open themselves up to the possibility of meeting a new mama for their tribe. We have to say, it turned out beautifully.


Still not convinced you’ll need your own mama tribe? Here’s 5 reasons you should find at least one mama to call your very own.

1. She’s going through the same things you are. A mama friend will give you the ability to talk about things like diapers, nursing and babywearing without abandon.

2. She’ll help you get out and about. She’ll motivate you to leave the house one block at a time, and rediscover the endless treasures of your city with fresh new mama eyes (and with those über fresh baby eyes right there with you!).

3. She has no idea what she’s doing either...and that’s totally awesome. While social media might make you feel like you’re the only parent on the planet who’s feeling lost, your mama friend will commiserate.

4. She’ll help you rid those baby blues. Babies come with a lot of change, and adjustment to your new normal isn’t always as smooth as you envisioned. Sometimes it takes another mama to get you over the hump.

5. She’ll introduce you to others. There’s a whole world us of out there! And there is no greater common denominator than being a mom.

Your mama tribe is awaiting. So go ahead and get out there.

Want to meet our mamas? Stay tuned this week to get to know Rana Batyske, Christine Fadel and Lauren Barlow and find out what a mama tribe means to them. Plus, win your own BabyBjörn Carrier One and Diaper Bag Sofo below!

Photography by Stephania Photography.

This post was brought to you by BabyBjörn.

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