Finding Your Mama Tribe

There’s nothing like snuggling with your newborn for days upon days as a new mama. That new baby smell, the touch of their skin--it’s all-consuming in the most wonderful way possible. But after a while, even in the big city, having a newborn can feel isolating. So we always have one piece of advice for new moms: “Find your mama tribe.”

We’re not saying to drop your pre-baby friends--that would be a major no-no--but it’s time to open up and make room in your life for new mamas that will become essential to your well-being.

And while there are great resources for meeting new mama friends, like neighborhood listservs, sometimes the best way to meet a new mama is simply by introducing yourself to that cute lady with baby you keep seeing at your local coffee shop. Better yet? Let a friend set you up!

We played mama matchmaker recently and dared three of the most badass NYC mamas we know to leave behind their daily routines and responsibilities for a day and to join us on a little day trip to Governor’s Island. We asked them to embrace our little adventure with just a BabyBjörn Carrier One and smartly packed (and super chic) BabyBjörn Diaper Bag Sofo. And we asked them to open themselves up to the possibility of meeting a new mama for their tribe. We have to say, it turned out beautifully.


Still not convinced you’ll need your own mama tribe? Here’s 5 reasons you should find at least one mama to call your very own.

1. She’s going through the same things you are. A mama friend will give you the ability to talk about things like diapers, nursing and babywearing without abandon.

2. She’ll help you get out and about. She’ll motivate you to leave the house one block at a time, and rediscover the endless treasures of your city with fresh new mama eyes (and with those über fresh baby eyes right there with you!).

3. She has no idea what she’s doing either...and that’s totally awesome. While social media might make you feel like you’re the only parent on the planet who’s feeling lost, your mama friend will commiserate.

4. She’ll help you rid those baby blues. Babies come with a lot of change, and adjustment to your new normal isn’t always as smooth as you envisioned. Sometimes it takes another mama to get you over the hump.

5. She’ll introduce you to others. There’s a whole world us of out there! And there is no greater common denominator than being a mom.

Your mama tribe is awaiting. So go ahead and get out there.

Want to meet our mamas? Stay tuned this week to get to know Rana Batyske, Christine Fadel and Lauren Barlow and find out what a mama tribe means to them. Plus, win your own BabyBjörn Carrier One and Diaper Bag Sofo below!

Photography by Stephania Photography.

This post was brought to you by BabyBjörn.

Who says you have to wait for birthdays or holidays to give your bestie a great gift? A sweet surprise that tells her you've been thinking of her might be the pick-me-up she needs in these more-than-trying times. We've rounded up some of our favorite go-to gifts that are certain to be a bright spot in her week. But be warned, you may want to snag a few for yourself. (You deserve it, mama.)

Here are some our favorite "just because" gifts to give our hardworking mama friends.

New Mother face + body care duo

volition face + body care duo

This correcting oil and stretch mark minimizer is perfect for the pregnant mama looking to keep her pregnancy glow. The correcting oil brightens the skin while reducing dark spots, and the stretch mark minimizer works to smooth her ever-growing belly.


Allover roller

esker allover roller

This jade roller goes beyond your typical face roller and can be used anywhere on the body. It works to increase stimulation and reduce puffiness and is perfect for applying any oils to the face or body. Plus, it feels like a mini spa treatment.


Kombucha making kit

farmsteady kombucha making kit

What could be a more perfect gift for the health-obsessed friend? This kombucha making kit comes with everything you need to brew your own homemade green tea kombucha. They'll think this is the tastiest gift ever.


Laetitia lipstick

cupid & psyche laetitia

This red lipstick is perfect for your makeup enthusiast bestie who is looking to spruce up her life in quarantine. Crafted in the United States, these bee and vegan-friendly and cruelty-free lipsticks are created to flatter all complexions. Cupid and Psyche Beauty makes finding the perfect red lip way too easy!


Jigsaw puzzle

inner piecec jigsaw puzzle

Mamas need to destress now more than ever during quarantine. This adorable jigsaw puzzle is perfect for the mama who needs a brain break! The 500-piece puzzle designed by artist Ray Oranges features an abstract gradient design that fits a standard frame when completed. Bonus: It's printed on recycled paper and the company donates $1 from every puzzle sold to youth mindfulness programs.


Matilda's Bloombox

matilda's bloombox

If we have to be stuck inside, we might as well have some gorgeous florals to brighten up the space. Matilda's Bloombox locally sources blooms, delivers them to her door and provides simple tips on how to arrange it into a beautiful bouquet.


'I Am Enough' bracelet

I Am Enough bracelet

Let this dainty bracelet serve as a constant reminder to your bestie that she is enough. She'll wear this on her wrist and read this daily oath to herself, "I Am Enough."


Glow assorted teas

vahdam low assorted teas

This tea gift box set covers the entire spectrum of flavors from sweet to spicy. Individually packaged in beautiful tins, your gal pal will feel like a queen sipping her morning tea. Originally $40, this set is currently on sale for just $24. We'll take two, please.


Find your voice journal

find your voice journal

Journaling is a great way to ease anxiety and will slow your bestie's racing mind before bed. This gift is perfect for first time journalists and includes prompts, daily quotes and coloring pages to help her unlock her potential and find her voice.


Premium frother

shore magic premium frother

This gift is fitting for your latte-sipping bestie who can't go a day without her coffee. All she has to do is add two scoops of collagen to her favorite drink, and she'll have a perfectly foamy drink ready in seconds. Skipping the drive-thru line has never been so easy!


Bath soak infusion kit

maude bath soak infusion kit

Say hello to hydration! She'll be feeling smooth and relaxed as ever after a long bath soaking in these salts. This vegan + cruelty-free set incorporates dead sea salt and dehydrated coconut milk powder for an ultra hydrating experience.


Tiny Tags 'mama' necklace

Tiny Tags 'mama' necklace

It's a hard-earned title she answers to a hundred times per day. Whether she's new to the club or a seasoned professional, this delicate script 'mama' necklace is guaranteed to be a perfect fit.


Superfood honey

Beekeeper's Naturals B.Powered honey

With a lack of sleep and jam-packed days, getting through the afternoon can be a real challenge. Send her a powerful pick-me-up in the form of a therapeutic blend of royal jelly, bee pollen, propolis and raw honey. It makes the ideal companion for tea, smoothies, yogurt or even on its on.


Calming midnight mask with melatonin

Who doesn't deserve a reminder to pamper themself every once in awhile? Even better, this mask does all its work at night while you're sleeping with no extra effort needed. It's an amazing plant-powered antioxidant-packed mask that has melatonin, wild dandelion leaf and hyaluronic acid to rehydrate, repair and reset facial skin. It's so good, you might want to gift it to yourself. We won't tell, mama.


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