Help at Home

Greg Solometo of Nannies of New York guides soon-to-be-parents through the maze of postpartum care.

Help at Home

There’s enough information that new moms must sort through before the baby arrives, and navigating the process of finding the right care in the first few days, months and years of your children’s lives can be daunting. Engaging postpartum resources directly after birth can create a network of professionals that will help you focus on your recovery, breastfeeding, sleep scheduling and your baby's well being. At Nannies of New York, we try to take the guesswork out of finding nannies, baby nurses and postpartum doulas by using a personal approach to this matchmaking process. Here, we’ve broken down both traditional and lesser-known resources for birth and immediately thereafter that will lead to a confident and stronger parenting foundation for years to come.

Birthing Educator

A childbirth educator can help couples seeking in-depth information related to labor and delivery, breastfeeding and newborn care. Classes typically cover anatomical and physiological changes during pregnancy, signs and stages of labor, when to call your doctor, everything you need to know about labor and delivery, fetal heart monitoring, medications used in labor (epidurals, pitocin), forceps, vacuums, Caesarian sections, Lamaze breathing techniques and the role of the labor support person. Birthing educators usually discuss postpartum care as well, including breastfeeding, newborn care and SIDS prevention. (Relevant from Week 20 of Pregnancy to Birth)

Labor Doula

A labor-support or birth doula provides continuous social support to the birthing family before and during labor and delivery. A birth doula understands the needs of a woman in labor and gives her emotional support, physical comfort, and an objective viewpoint in the process of decision making, the partner’s involvement, etc. Studies have shown that when doulas attend birth, labors are shorter and have fewer complications, while babies are healthier and breastfeed more easily. (Relevant 3 months prior to Birth through Birth and Beyond)

Postpartum Doula

A postpartum doula guides and trains new mothers and families in a gentle and non-intrusive way. She assists with breastfeeding and baby care, and helps families address problems that arise in the first few weeks at home. By mentoring the new parents to understand their baby’s cues, postpartum doulas build confidence that leads to a strong parenting foundation in the first few weeks/months of a newborn’s life. (Relevant Day 0- 2 months)

Baby Nurse/Night Nurse

A baby or night nurse cares for the immediate needs of a new mother and provides support around feeding, swaddling, sleeping and bathing the newborn. Baby nurses are not registered nurses or medical professionals, but rather newborn care specialists that focus on small infants in their first several weeks of life. Baby nurses are especially important to first-time parents who don’t know what to expect and prefer expert support from an extra pair of hands. (Relevant from Day 0 through Day 60)

Lactation Consultant

Many women are surprised by how much they enjoy breastfeeding. However, mothers also need a support system, especially in the beginning stages of nursing. A lactation consultant can be an important part of that support and learning process. This person not only helps with the process of breastfeeding, but also makes sure that the mother’s milk supply is accurate and/or steps in when there are problems to be fixed. All lactation specialists are certified from the Board of Lactation Consultants and most make individual house calls. (Relevant Day 0 through 6 months, or as needed)

Sleep Scheduler

Sleep consultants work together with parents to tackle sleeping issues such as early rising, short naps, nap transitions, weaning of props and night waking. Each child is an individual and each family has their own unique beliefs. Trained consultants understand that what works for one child may not work for another, and develop a customized plan for each family. Establishing a healthy and positive sleep foundation, and setting up sleep routines as early as birth, will provide a positive influence throughout the childhood years. (Relevant as needed from Day 0- 6 months)


The word nanny is derived from the Greek word nanna, meaning aunt. A modern nanny is employed by a family on either a live-in or live-out basis, and typically responsible for childcare and other household chores or tasks related to the children. Finding the right nanny can be instrumental to laying a strong foundation to a child’s life; this person will provide love, support and guidance through the various stages of development. (Relevant for ages 1 month to 10 years+)

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These new arrivals from the Motherly Shop are *so* good you need them all

Noodle and Boo, Mushie and Plan Toys—everything you need, mama.

Motherhood is hard work—finding great products and brands to make the journey easier doesn't have to be. Each week, we stock the Motherly Shop with brilliant new products we know you'll need and love from brands and makers that really care.

So, what's new this week?

Noodle and Boo: Holistic baby skin care

Through working with chemists who specialize in natural and holistic skin care, Noodle and Boo has developed exclusive formulas that nourish, replenish and protect especially delicate, eczema-prone and sensitive skin—including laundry detergent. Their signature, obsession-worthy scent—which is subtly sweet, pure and fresh—is the closest thing to bottling up "baby smell" we've ever found.

Mushie: Kids' dinnerware that actually looks great

We're totally crushing on Mushie's minimalist dinnerware for kids. Their innovative baby and toddler products leverage Swedish design to marry both form and function while putting safety front and center. Everything is created in soft, muted colors from BPA-free materials.

Plan Toys: Open-ended toys that last

Corralling and cleaning up the toys becomes less stressful when you bring home fewer, better, more beautiful ones. Plan Toys checks all the boxes. Made from re-purposed rubber wood, they're better for the planet as well.

Not sure where to start? Here's what we're adding to our cart:

Mushie silicone baby bib

Mushie silicone baby bib

There's no going back to cloth bibs after falling in love with this Swedish design. The pocket catches whatever misses their mouths and the BPA-free silicone is waterproof and easy to wipe down between uses.


Mushie kids' square dinnerware plate set

Mushie kids' square dinnerware plate set

We're totally crushing on the soft muted colors that flow with our table aesthetics and the thoughtful high-sided design that helps babies and toddler who are learning to feed themselves.


Noodle and Boo nursery essentials kit

Noodle and Boo nursery essentials kit

Stocked with everything a new mama needs to care for her little one's delicate skin, Noodle and Boo's nursery essentials gift set is the perfect way to create a holistic and natural skin care routine from day one.


Plan Toys doctor set 

Plan Toys doctor set

Ideal for quiet time and imaginative role play, we love the gorgeous planet-friendly doctor kit from Plan Toys. The rubber wood stethoscope, blood pressure cuff, thermometer, syringe and reflex hammer pack up neat and tidy into the red cotton case should they need to dash off on a rescue mission.


Noodle and Boo instant hand sanitizer

Noodle and Boo instant hand sanitizer

Since we're buying and using hand sanitizer by the truckload these days, we're thrilled Noodle and Boo has made one we can feel good about using on little ones who cram their hands in their mouths 24/7. Not only does it kill 99.9% of germs, but it also leaves hands moisturized as well.


Plan Toys natural wooden blocks set

Plan Toys natural wooden blocks set

A toy box isn't complete without a set of blocks—and this set is one of our new favorites. The sustainable, re-purposed wood is eco-friendly, comes at a relatively affordable price point and are certain to last well beyond multiple kids, hand-me-downs and even generations.


Noodle and Boo family fun pack cleansing set

Noodle and Boo family fun pack cleansing set

Because their products were developed for delicate and eczema-prone skin, Noodle and Boo's full line of skin care has become a favorite among those with sensitive skin of all ages. This set is the perfect way to pamper the entire family.


Mushie kids' round dinnerware bowl set

Mushie kids' round dinnerware bowl set

No need to sacrifice safety or design with the sustainable dinnerware from Mushie. Their minimalist, functional dishes are perfect for serving up meals and snacks to your tablemates who might hurl it to the floor at any point. They're made in Denmark from BPA-free polypropylene plastic mamas can feel good about and dishwasher and microwave-safe as well.


Plan Toys geo stacking blocks

Plan Toys geo stacking blocks

The best engaging, open-ended toys are the ones that are left out and available, inviting little (and big!) ones to play. These beautiful gem-like blocks make for addicting coffee table play for the entire family.


Plan Toys wooden green dollhouse

Plan Toys wooden green dollhouse

Energy-efficient design isn't just for grown-up real estate. This green dollhouse includes a wind turbine, a solar cell panel, electric inverter, recycling bins, a rain barrel, a biofacade and a blind that can adjust the amount of sunlight and air circulation along with minimalist furniture we'd totally love to have in our own houses.


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Products that solve your biggest breastfeeding challenges

Including a battle plan for clogged ducts!

When expecting a baby, there is a lot you can test-run in advance: Take that stroller around the block. Go for a spin with the car seat secured in place. Learn how to use the baby carrier with help from a doll. But breastfeeding? It's not exactly possible to practice before baby's arrival.

The absence of a trial makes it all the more important to prepare in other ways for breastfeeding success—and it can be as simple as adding a few of our lactation aiding favorites to your registry.

MilkBliss chocolate chip soft baked lactation cookies

MilkBliss lactation cookies

Studies have shown the top reason women stop breastfeeding within the first year is because they are concerned about their milk supply being enough to nourish baby. Consider MilkBliss Lactation Cookies to be your secret weapon. Not only are they wholesome and delicious, but they were formulated specifically for breastfeeding moms based on the science of galactagogues—also known as milk boosters. They also come in peanut butter and wild blueberry flavors.


Evereden multi-purpose healing balm

Evereden multipurpose healing balm

Also up there on the list of reasons women stop breastfeeding: the toll the early days can take on nipples. Made from just five ingredients, this all natural healing balm is ideal for soothing chafed nipples, making for a much more comfortable experience for mama as her body adjusts to the needs of a breastfeeding baby.


Lansinoh milk storage bags

Lansinoh milk storage bags

For a breastfeeding mama, there are few things more precious and valuable than the milk she worked so hard to pump—and it's the stuff of nightmares to imagine it spilling out in the fridge. With these double-sealed milk storage bags, you can be assured your breastmilk is safe and sound until baby needs it.


Belly Bandit bandita nursing bra

Belly Bandit bandita nursing bra

Nursing a baby is a 24/7 job, which calls for some wardrobe modifications. Because Belly Bandit specializes in making things more comfortable for the postpartum mama, they've truly thought of every detail—from the breathable fabric to the clips that can be easily opened with one hand.


boob-ease soothing therapy pillows

Boob Ease soothing therapy pillows

For nursing moms, duct can quickly become a four-letter word when you suspect it's getting clogged. By keeping these soothing breast pillows in your breastfeeding arsenal, you can immediately go on the defense against plugged milk ducts by heating the pads in the microwave or cooling them in the freezer.


Belly Bandit perfect nursing tee

Belly Bandit perfect nursing tee

A unfortunate reality of nursing is that it can really seem to limit the wardrobe options when you have to think about providing easy, discrete access. But by adding functional basics to your closet, you can feel confident and prepared for breastfeeding on the go.


Bebe au Lait premium cotton nursing cover

Bebe au Lait cotton nursing cover

Nursing in public isn't every mama's cup of tea. But babies can't always wait until you've found a private place to get down to business if that's your preference. That's where a nursing cover comes in handy. This one is made from premium cotton and features a patented neckline that allows for airflow and eye contact even while you're covered.


Lactation Lab basic breastmilk testing kit

Lactation Lab breastmilk testing kit

Curious to learn more about the liquid gold you're making, mama? The testing kit from Lactation Labs analyzes your breast milk for basic nutritional content like calories and protein, as well as vitamins, fatty acids and environmental toxins to help boost your breastfeeding confidence.


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21 questions to ask your partner instead of, “How was your day?”

2. If you could do any part of today over again, what would it be?

After a long day of doing seemingly everything, when our partners get home it kind of becomes a habit to ask, "How was your day?" In between prepping dinner, handing off the kids, finishing your own work, we don't exactly get much value from this question. Sure, it may open up the opportunity to complain about that awful thing that happened or excitedly share that presentation you killed at work—but it usually stops there.

I could do a better job of really talking in my relationship. After 12 years and two kids, sometimes all we can come up with post bedtime routine is, "You good? I'm good. Fire up the Netflix."

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