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How to Help Your Baby with Reflux Sleep Better

All newborns spit up. The muscles that keep liquid in their little tummies aren’t fully developed at birth, so it’s totally normal to have a bit of a reversal of fortune at each feeding; and that shouldn't affect sleep. But when your happy spitter becomes an unhappy spitter and your sleep strategies aren’t working, it may be time to explore the possibility that your little one is suffering from reflux and to find ways to help him or her (and yourself) get a good night of ZZZs.

There are two types of reflux. GER (gastroesophageal reflux) is the reflux you’ve probably heard your mama friends talk about. These are the happy spitter babies -- the constant changing of outfits is the most annoying part of this and the best treatment is time. GERD (gastroesophageal reflux disease), on the other hand, is a chronic condition that often needs intervention to prevent damage to babies' esophagi and mouths.

Aside from not gaining enough weight, being fussy after most feedings and having forceful spit-up episodes, babies with GERD have a lot of trouble sleeping! That's because the safest sleep position -- lying the baby on his back -- can cause painful stomach acid to enter his throat and mouth. But since back is still best, even for GER and GERD babies, you'll need to find other ways to minimize the discomfort while sleeping. Here are 5 tips to help your little GERD baby sleep better at night!

1. Hold baby upright for 15-30 minutes after each feeding and burp them several times before putting them down. You don’t have to sit with baby -- upright can be in a carrier. Just don’t make it too tight, as you don’t want to press on baby’s tummy too much, especially if you’re on shirt #5 for the day! You can also walk around while wearing baby -- a good way to get those steps in, mama!

2. Small but frequent feedings. I know it seems like that’s all you do right now but the less liquid at a time in your baby’s belly, the easier they can digest it. The more digested, the less spit up! Check with your doctor about how much your baby should be eating in a day and ask his or her advice about how to divide that amount up into smaller portions.

3. If you’re bottle feeding, take a look at the nipple size. If the nipple hole is too small for baby and they have to work really hard to get the milk, they’re taking in a lot of air and that can cause gas pain and result in more spitting up. Ask your doctor what nipple size he or she recommends for your baby’s age, given your concerns.

4. If you’re planning on doing any sleep training, find some good solutions for controlling the reflux. If your baby is prescribed medication, you should see a difference in 24-48 hours. You can sleep train even if your baby has reflux. There are several, gentle ways to help them (and you) sleep better even while waiting for this stage to pass. Before you start exploring different sleep training methods, get the ok from your doctor.

5. Do not elevate their crib or bassinet. At all. Ever. Wedges, putting blankets under their heads, having them sleep in a swing or Rock n’ Play are all big sleep no-nos. It is so tempting to do one of these for a baby who seems uncomfortable but the risk of something happening is too great. The AAP does not endorse any kind of wedge or other positioners for sleeping.

So many newborns struggle with reflux and, as with a lot of new baby things, the best remedy is time. But if you’re worried about the frequency, amount and other symptoms that relate to your baby’s spitting up, talk to your doctor about your concerns. Don’t be afraid to mention your concerns more than once -- reflux can be stubborn. And if you get sent home with a prescription to try, grab the giant size detergent while you’re at the store too.

Leigh McMahon is a certified sleep consultant with Bonne Nuit Baby. Based in Denver, Colorado, she helps babies and children learn how to be champion sleepers so their parents can stay sane and cut down on the double espressos. Learn more about us at @_bonnenuitbaby and follow her adventures of being a #boymom at @bonnenuitdenver.

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Baby stuff comes in such cute prints these days. Gone are the days when everything was pink and blue and covered in ducks or teddy bears. Today's baby gear features stylish prints that appeal to mom.

That's why it's totally understandable how a mama could mistake a car seat cover for a cute midi skirt. It happened to Lori Farrell, and when she shared her mishap on Facebook she went viral before she was even home from work. Fellow moms can totally see the humor in Farrell's mishap, and thankfully, so can she.

As for how a car seat cover could be mistaken for a skirt—it's pretty simple, Farrell tells Motherly.

"A friend of mine had given me a huge lot of baby stuff, from clothes to baby carriers to a rocker and blankets and when I pulled it out I was not sure what it was," she explains. "I debated it but washed it anyway then decided because of the way it pulled on the side it must be a maternity skirt."

Farrell still wasn't 100% sure if she was right by the time she headed out the door to work, but she rocked the ambiguous attire anyway.

"When I got to work I googled the brand and realized not only do they not sell clothing but it was a car seat cover."

The brand, Itzy Ritzy, finds the whole thing pretty funny too, sharing Farell's viral moment to its official Instagram.

It may be a car seat cover, but that print looks really good on this mama.

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Paying north of $1,000 for daycare each month is an incredible burden, especially on single-parent families. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services defines affordable childcare as costing no more than 10% of a family's income—by that definition, less than 29% of families in California can afford infant care. Some single parents spend half their income on day care. It is an incredible burden on working parents.

But that burden may soon get lighter. CBS Sacramento reports California may put between $25 and $35 million into child care programs to make day care more affordable for parents with kids under 3 years old.

Assembly Bill 452, introduced this week, could see $10 million dollars funneled into Early Head Start (which currently gets no money from the state but does get federal funding) and tens of millions more would be spent on childcare for kids under three.

The bill seeks to rectify a broken childcare system. Right now, only about 14% of eligible infants and toddlers are enrolled in subsidized programs in California, and in 2017, only 7% of eligible children younger than three years of age accessed Early Head Start.

An influx of between $25 to $35 million dollars could see more spaces open up for kids under three, as Bill 452, if passed, would see the creation of "grants to develop childcare facilities that serve children from birth to three years of age."

This piece of proposed legislation comes weeks after California's governor announced an ambitious plan for paid parental leave, and as another bill, AB 123, seeks to strengthen the state's pre-kindergarten program.

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A fellow mama who understands the benefits of baby-wearing, Schaefer was keen to capture the photos Mort requested. "When I asked Dalton about what some of her 'must get' shots would be for her wedding, she specifically asked for ones of her wearing Ellie, kneeling and praying in the church before the tabernacle," Schaefer tells Motherly.

She got those shots and so many more, and now Mort's toddler-wearing wedding day pics are going viral.

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"Kids have this amazing ability to pick up language," James told Global News. "Their brains are ripe for the learning of language and it's a special window of opportunity that adults don't possess."

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