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Sex During Pregnancy

7 ways to get hot and heavy during pregnancy.

Sex During Pregnancy

We're all about pregnancy sex. But as that belly grows, we admit, it can get kind of awkward, and possibly even downright uncomfortable. But just because your shape is changing doesn’t mean your libido has to suffer.

Clair Cavanah, co-founder of the female-friendly sex shop Babeland, says that sex is not only possible, but has important benefits during pregnancy. “Sex is a way to stay connected and intimate with your partner. Orgasms and stimulation increase blood flow to the genitals and help the muscles that women use during delivery be strong and flexible.” While she cautions that all women should talk to their doctor or midwife about sexual activity, “for most women experiencing a healthy pregnancy, sex should be safe throughout.”

Even better, she says, many women say they become “multi-orgasmic” during pregnancy. Score. And score again. And again. So relish the possibilities, and get that beautiful body into bed asap – with someone else.

Here's 7 strategies to achieve your – ahem – goals when it comes to getting intimate.

1. Missionary style is ok. Although you shouldn’t lie on your back for long periods of time, missionary is okay since you aren’t on our back for too long.

2. Get on top. Being on top is a great way to feel comfortable when your belly is growing, and your partner can easily reach your clitoris, too. Add in a mini-vibe like the Mia 2 and be prepared for a mind-blowing experience.

3. Try Hands and Knees. Being on your hands and knees with your partner behind you is a great position for stimulation of the G-spot. Using a sex pillow helps make it more comfortable.

4. Massage. Massage releases tension and stress. A massage candle sets the mood, has a nice fragrance, and the warm, silky oil feels wonderful. You can feel more connected with this intimate, sensuous experience.

5. Add accessories. Use Luna Beads to exercise and strengthen your PC muscles and as a sexy accessory. Just think about one of those scenes from Fifty Shades of Grey to inspire you.

6. Get sexy minus the sex. Pregnancy is a time to redefine sex and intimacy. Holding each other, making out, and masturbating together keeps you connected and feeling sexy, while acknowledging this moment of transition in your lives.

7. Read about it. And if you also use your bed for reading, Your Orgasmic Pregnancy has some great additional resources.

Image source: Sock Monkey Kama Sutra.

A very important letter for new mamas

Listen, mom-guilt is a dirty liar. Yes, it's your job to fill your little human's needs, but you matter too. Don't forget to take care of yourself. Hang out with friends, take a drive blaring 90's hip hop or shower without interruptions—trust me, you'll be a better person (and mom) because of it.

Dear new mom,

You will shave again someday. Today is not that day.

Set expectations low, my friend, and set your partner's lower—at least where body hair and overall hygiene are concerned.

That conversation could go something like this: “From now on let's not consider shaving a “standard," but more like a gift that happens on birthdays and the first day of summer."

Voila, you are a gift-giving genius. You know what else is a gift? Shaving the inch and a half of skin that is between your skinny jeans and your boots. You're welcome world.

You will not be perfect at parenting.

Boom.

I have yet to meet a perfect mother, but when I do, she's going to be a tiger who is insanely good at making up songs. (Daniel Tiger's mom, we salute you.)

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It's science: Why your baby stops crying when you stand up

A fascinating study explains why.

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