When you have a new baby, the Instagram universe beckons; it’s somehow comforting to see the familiar faces you follow during those nights when there’s nobody but a tiny (crying) little human to talk to. That’s how we found two of our favorite NYC bloggers, Belle Savransky and LaTonya Staubs, whose covetable style and picturesque lives offer endless online inspiration. It turns out that these two mamas are equally stunning in real life...not to mention sweet, smart and incredibly savvy. In between bringing up their brood (Belle has a daughter Biet, 3, and son Lucien, 1; and LaTonya has a little girl River, 3, with one on the way), the duo has launched a kids’ line, Welkin NYC, whose identity is as distinctly downtown as the mamas who created it. Just about every item from the debut fall collection made us say, “I wish they made that in my size,” and we’re expecting to have a similar reaction to their summer line. We recently wandered the East Village with Belle and LaTonya -- with one of our fave photographers Lindsey Belle in tow -- to find out more about their burgeoning brand, growing families and love for NYC. What makes Welkin NYC different from other kids brands? We approach childrenswear with a really unique point of view when it comes to color and gender stereotypes. We try to honor and respect the child as an individual, while adding a bit of sophistication and humor into the clothes. The fact that most of our pieces are gender neutral is important to us. Don’t get us wrong, we love a frilly dress and little bow ties as much as the next mom, but we want to add some more diverse and edgy options to the world of children’s clothing. As two New Yorkers raising broods of little New Yorkers, we identify with and are proud of our city’s spirit and past. Our clothes are meant to be worn by city kids: adventuresome, diverse, creative outspoken, proud, ambitious, and playful kids. And we think there’s a bit of “city kid” in every kid. What inspires you while designing? We gain a lot of inspiration from cultural movements of the past and present that took place in New York City, as well as from the extensive diversity of culture and art that exists here. I find the idea of each person having their "own” New York very romantic. Everyone “belongs” in NYC, everyone can find their tribe here, and when people get together, amazing cultural phenomenons happen here. So many groups of people throughout history found or created “their” NYC: the beat poets, Warhol and his superstars, the Coney Island circus folk, the musicians and dancers of the Harlem renaissance, the Nuyorican poets of Alphabet City, the punks of the 70’s on the Bowery, the hip hop artists of the 90’s in the LES, and the list goes on and on. And it will continue to go on forever. Each of these groups had “their own" NYC for a spell of time. And then they change and the city changes, and somebody else finds a new NYC and creates something new. And yet everyone who makes anything ends up contributing the city’s constant and perpetual evolution. Tell us about the next collection. For our summer capsule collection, we are really gathering inspiration from NYC in the 1970’s: Coney Island, urban beaches, rollerskating and street performers. It’s just a capsule collection, so it will be just a couple summer staples. We’re keeping the designs really streamlined and functional, and are having a bit of fun with pattern and volume. The exact details and launch date are under wraps for now. How do you complement each other as partners? Our partnership is always evolving. Originally I (Belle) was more design-minded and LaTonya did most of the styling, but as we work together, we each take on more and more roles and sometimes flip roles completely. We are lucky in that we really complement each other when it comes to business and creativity. We keep each other in check design-wise, usually either toning down or encouraging the development of new ideas. We bounce ideas around a lot until they turn into full-fledged plans for new pieces. We also work together on each step of developing and growing our pieces. It’s really a 50/50 partnership when it comes to design, styling, PR and behind-the-scenes business work. How is the line sustainable and why is that so important to the DNA of the Welkin? Our model of sustainability is based on three really important concepts. The first is sustainable sourcing. We source much of our fabrics from sustainable mills, and use mostly recycled and organic textiles. Any crash course in what textile crop pesticides are doing to our earth will show you why its so important to us. We’re also huge fans of using leftover deadstock fabric, which would normally head to a landfill. We use it in small production runs for one-of-a-kind small runs. We use a more sustainable non-toxic printing process for our tees, and keep much of our paper packaging products recycled as well. We know that being mindful of what goes into our products can make a big difference in the world. The second concept is local manufacturing. We produce everything in NYC. We never, ever outsource overseas, which helps keep our company’s carbon footprint to a minimum. It feels good to work within NYC’s historic garment district and to help it to thrive, and it allows us to also check in at every level of manufacturing for superior quality control. We print all of our shirts in Brooklyn at a family-run printer. We try to work with other small businesses as much as possible. And third, we make sure everything is fairly made. The seamstress and workers who manufacture for us abide by fair labor laws. The team that we use is actually like a tight-knit family. They hug us when we walk in the door. They know our kids. It feels really good to work with people who love what they do, who love the city as much as we do, and who work with us face to face. What's it been like being moms and launching a business? It’s definitely a roller coaster. It’s amazingly gratifying to work in a career that is not only centered around fashion, which we love, but also, in a way, centered around motherhood, since we’re designing children’s clothes. Since we’re on similar life trajectories, we can truly relate to one another and can bring a lot of flexibility to our start-up. It’s almost as if we’re creating a brand new way of running a company -- one that works on a mom’s schedule. Some days it’s insanity. There are kids running around our feet with fabric samples as I’m (Belle) nursing a baby with one hand and finalizing pattern details with another, or we’re schlepping everyone all over midtown searching for a perfect fabric. And some days it’s just us in the studio catching up on emails and dreaming about the future. We definitely don’t run the business in a conventional way, but it works for us. It’s nice to be able to make up the rules as we go along, and it’s even nicer to have a superstar partner to do it with. How do you balance work and parenting...and life in general? Any tips? We definitely feel like we’re still figuring this one out. We have set times that are “work times” each week, and no matter what’s going on, we know that during those times we are accountable to each other and to the business. That helps a lot. We’re still shipping out orders on the way to ballet and staying up until ungodly hours emailing and editing product shots, but somehow it works. We’re navigating the infant stages of a business, and parenting our kids through their the early childhood stages, so a bit of mayhem is to be expected. It’s a lot of work, but we’re grateful to be able to do it -- all of it. What are some baby/children's brands you love and buy for your own kids? Kallio has a great vision and design. They recycle old clothing into really gorgeous streamlined designs. Nico Nico has a really understated, textural quality to their clothes. Talc makes those Parisian-style separates. Goatmilk is a go-to for basics with amazing integrity behind the brand. Dagmar Daley makes gorgeous storybook-esque pieces. Atsuyo et Akiko makes great tees. Soft Gallery has great geometric lines and collaborates with artists for one-of-a-kind capsule collections. Miller London -- gah! Even if pretty preppy isn’t your thing, you have to love everything they make. What are you fave shops around NYC for the kids? We adore the designer collaborations for the kids collections of Opening Ceremony. Darling Clementine and Sweet William are always immaculately curated. Miniluu, which is based in Manhattan, has gorgeous sustainable everything. Village Kids Footwear on First Ave. seems so unassuming, but it’s never failed for great shoes for the kids. Babesta Threads is always spot on with trendy brands. Jane’s Exchange in the East Village -- it’s all consignment and it’s great! What's ahead for Welkin NYC? For the time being, we’re sticking to toddler clothes, and will continue to release small collections as we develop them. We’ll also be rotating in a couple of new tee designs soon, as well as releasing a few limited edition accessories. With LaTonya’s new bundle arriving soon, we’ve been dreaming of dressing babies, so we’ll see where that takes us. Photography by Lindsey Belle. LINDSEYBELLE is shooting mini sessions in Central Park from May 4-10, right in time for Mother’s Day & Father’s Day. There's limited sessions available, so email firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule.
As mamas, we naturally become the magic-makers for our families. We sing the songs that make the waits seem shorter, dispense the kisses that help boo-boos hurt less, carry the seemingly bottomless bags of treasures, and find ways to turn even the most hum-drum days into something memorable.
Sometimes it's on a family vacation or when exploring a new locale, but often it's in our own backyards or living rooms. Here are 12 ways to create magical moments with kids no matter where your adventures take you.
1. Keep it simple
Mary Poppins may be practically perfect in every way, but―trust us―your most magical memories don't require perfection. Spend the morning building blanket forts or break out the cookie cutters to serve their sandwich in a fun shape and you'll quickly learn that, for kids, the most magical moments are often the simplest.
2. Get on their level
Sometimes creating a memorable moment can be as easy as getting down on the floor and playing with your children. So don't be afraid to get on your hands and knees, to swing from the monkey bars, or turn watching your favorite movie into an ultimate snuggle sesh.
3. Reimagine the ordinary
As Mary says, "the cover is not the book." Teach your child to see the world beyond initial impressions by encouraging them to imagine a whole new world as you play―a world where the laundry basket can be a pirate ship or a pile of blankets can be a castle.
4. Get a little messy
Stomp in muddy puddles. Break out the finger paint. Bake a cake and don't worry about frosting drips on the counter. The messes will wait, mama. For now, let your children―and yourself―live in these moments that will all too soon become favorite memories.
5. Throw out the plan
The best-laid plans...are rarely the most exciting. And often the most magical moments happen by accident. So let go of the plan, embrace the unexpected, and remember that your child doesn't care if the day goes according to the schedule.
6. Take it outside
There's never a wrong time of year to make magic outside. Take a stroll through a spring rainstorm, catch the first winter snowflakes on your tongue, or camp out under a meteor shower this summer. Mother Nature is a natural at creating experiences you'll both remember forever.
7. Share your childhood memories
Chances are if you found it magical as a child, then your kids will too. Introduce your favorite books and movies (pro tip: Plan a double feature with an original like Mary Poppins followed with the sequel, Mary Poppins Returns!) or book a trip to your favorite family vacation spot from the past. You could even try to recreate photos from your old childhood with your kids so you can hang on to the memory forever.
8. Just add music
Even when you're doing something as humdrum as prepping dinner or tidying up the living room, a little music has a way of upping the fun factor. Tell Alexa to cue up your favorite station for a spontaneous family dance party or use your child's favorite movie soundtrack for a quick game of "Clean and Freeze" to pick up toys at the end of the day.
9. Say "yes"
Sometimes it can feel like you're constantly telling your child "no." While it's not possible to grant every request (sorry, kiddo, still can't let you drive the car!), plan a "yes" day for a little extra magic. That means every (reasonable) request gets an affirmative response for 24 hours. Trust us―they'll never forget it.
10. Let them take the lead
A day planned by your kid―can you imagine that? Instead of trying to plan what you think will lead to the best memories, put your kid in the driver's seat by letting them make the itinerary. If you have more than one child, break up the planning so one gets to pick the activity while the other chooses your lunch menu. You just might end up with a day you never expected.
11. Ask more questions
Odds are, your child might not remember every activity you plan―but they will remember the moments you made them feel special. By focusing the conversation on your little one―their likes, dislikes, goals, or even just craziest dreams―you teach them that their perspective matters and that you are their biggest fan.
12. Turn a bad day around
Not every magical moment will start from something good. But the days where things don't go to plan can often turn out to be the greatest memories, especially when you find a way to turn even a negative experience into a positive memory. So don't get discouraged if you wake up to rain clouds on your beach day or drop the eggs on the floor before breakfast―take a cue from Mary Poppins and find a way to turn the whole day a little "turtle."
Mary Poppins Returns available now on Digital & out on Blue-ray March 19! Let the magic begin in your house with a night where everything is possible—even the impossible ✨
Katie Couric’s throwback clip from 1991 proves how little attitudes about parental leave have changed
Katie Couric is a trailblazer who has made media history while raising two daughters, and this week she's reminded the world that while a lot has changed since she was pregnant on the set of the Today show back in 1991, some things, unfortunately, haven't.
In a recent edition of her newsletter, Wake-Up Call with Katie Couric, the former Today anchor shared an old clip from when she was pregnant with her oldest daughter and was about to go on maternity leave. Her former Today co-host, Bryant Gumbel, "didn't quite get it," Couric wrote, noting that "It's pretty shocking to watch it now, 28 years later!"
In the clip, Gumbel asks Couric why she's taking "so long" off work. She was planning to take 9 weeks but ended up taking less than half of that.
Gumble gives Couric a hard time about her leave and Couric explains to Gumble that having a baby is a major shock to a woman's body and that humans need time to recover from birth. (Seriously, this woman was back to work at four weeks postpartum. Many moms are still bleeding at that point.)
The cringe-worthy clip has gone viral, and Couric has made it clear that she doesn't have hard feelings toward Gumble at all, but that she brought the old footage up to make a point.
"I think that times have changed so much, but I do think there's a lot of implicit bias against moms," Couric recently told USA TODAY. "I think it's important to make sure your employer is up on the times and that women aren't penalized, consciously or unconsciously when they have children."
The pressure to get back to work
Couric only ended up taking like three weeks of maternity leave, and it's so easy to understand why. Her predecessor at the Today show, Deborah Norville, went on maternity leave and never came back. Couric, her substitute, was promoted to the role of permanent coanchor. At the time, Norville said it was her decision, but in recent years she has said she felt her bosses didn't want her to come back.
All this happened in 1991, a few couple months before I would start first grade. Fast forward to 2014 and I was also the co-anchor of a (much, much smaller) local morning show. I wanted to start trying for a baby and frequently daydreamed about how I would look pregnant at the anchor desk, but even in my daydreams, I would cut my maternity leave short. To be clear, no one ever expressly told me that I would be replaced if I took a long maternity leave, but I totally knew it was a possibility. In the end I chose to leave my dream job because I didn't feel like it was compatible with my dream of motherhood.
This is not just a problem in television news. Last year Indeed surveyed 1,005 women working in tech and found a whopping 83% of those who had children said they felt pressure to return to work faster when they were out on parental leave. Just over a third said they were directly pressured by colleagues or managers, while 32% feared losing their jobs and 38% feared losing credibility or value in their workplace.
"Frankly, women are afraid they'll lose their jobs. We're worried we'll be forgotten while we're gone. Out of sight, out of mind," Kim Williams, director of experience design at Indeed said in a statement to Recode.
Another survey, the iCIMS Women in the Workforce report found 45% of office professionals believe taking parental leave would decrease their opportunities for promotion.
And yet another recent survey, this one by Talking Talent, found that when employees have access to parental leave (which many American workers don't), women use only about 52% of the time they could.
Between a rock and a hard place
The results of another study, published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that when it comes to taking maternity leave, women are "damned if she does and damned if she doesn't," as the study's co-author Madeline Heilman, professor of psychology at New York University, told TIME.
Take a longer maternity leave like Norville did and you're seen as uncommitted and less competent. Short change your mat leave like Couric did and your parenting is judged.
"The sad truth is, women are really between a rock and a hard place when making this decision," Heilman told TIME.
Sometimes, women like me make the decision to just leave the labor force.
Time for a change
It's been 28 years since Couric sat on that set and argued with Gumble about maternity leave and he asked her "how many men get nine weeks off?"
Couric started to bring up the possibility of paternity leave, but unfortunately in the nearly 30 years since that awkward conversation happened not much has happened on that issue.
This is a huge problem because until men feel they are able to be both caregivers and valued employees, women won't be able to be both, either.
According to Teresa Hopke, the CEO of Talking Talent, while more and more workplaces are adopting parental leave policies, they're just not being used to their potential because parents fear being penalized for taking them. That's why women are only taking 52% of the leave they're entitled to at work, and why men take even less, about 32%.
Changing parental leave policies are a great start, but we need to change our culture, too, and Couric's throwback clip proves that.
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Americans are having fewer children than in decades past, and the cost of childcare is absolutely a factor. Millennial parents are struggling to afford childcare and some are hoping for relief in the form of a federally-funded universal childcare policy. Some politicians are campaigning on it, but most baby boomers are far from sold on the idea.
While surveys suggest that the rising cost of childcare is keeping many younger Americans from having as many children as they would like, they also suggest that older Americans are strongly opposed to universal childcare.
According to a Hill-HarrisX survey released earlier this month, 72% of registered voters 50 and older believe day care costs should be paid by parents, not a federally funded universal childcare program or a subsidy that would halve costs.
And while much of the current political conversation is focused on who and what is trending among millennials, baby boomers outvote millennials and Gen-Xers, so even if the policy is popular among today's young mothers and fathers, there will likely be more grandmothers and grandfathers at the polls.
So why are older Americans not into the idea of subsidizing childcare?
Colvert's opening line is so obvious to anyone who has brought up the cost of childcare (or housing or student loans) at a family dinner only to have a relative reply, "if you can't afford a child, don't have one."
But maybe we should reply, "if a generation can't afford to have children, you won't have them when you need them."
The U.S. Census Bureau projects that within a couple of decades there will be more Americans over the age of 65 than under the age of 18. We need younger generations to care for the older ones, but if parents aren't supported, there will be fewer young people.
For Americans of all ages, we need to address this childcare crisis. Maybe universal childcare isn't the solution, but we need to accept that this is a problem that impacts the future of the entire country, not just parents.
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Like many modern couples, before getting married and having kids my husband and I spoke frequently about our plans to be true partners in life—to share in the household responsibilities equally and to co-parent our children in a way that defied the stereotypical norms of our society.
Then we actually had kids and we quickly learned that it was a lot more complicated than that.
Even as members of the millennial generation, we were born into a society in which gendered expectations have been rooted in our way of thinking, living and doing. Although growing up in progressive households molded our expectations and ideas, that background didn't prove enough to fully counter the pervasive inequalities that restrict partners from co-parenting as hoped.
The gender divide begins from day one of parenting
During my first pregnancy, the myth of equally co-parenting became apparent all too quickly. My husband had to choose between taking time off to come to my prenatal visits or using that time to lengthen his paternity leave, which was five days long. I asked him to do the latter and he willingly (albeit regretfully) obliged. Still, that did not prevent one of my midwives from commenting on his "lack of presence" during my prenatal care. It felt like a lose-lose situation.
Research shows that fathers crave more guidance and support through their transition into fatherhood. Yet, this isn't readily available, which sends a loud and clear message to new parents right from the start: Fathers don't need to learn how to parent, because they won't be the primary parents.
Our current prenatal care system leaves much to be desired, as anyone who has been rushed through a health care appointment can attest. But women at least have routine touch points with their providers where there is the possibility of deeper communications. Partners don't have that. Yes, some attend the prenatal visits—but this is a privilege not available to most couples.
Societal gender-based assumptions become barriers
From the moment we become parents, we begin to experience the gender stereotypes and social norms we have come to accept as, well, norms: The lack of changing tables in men's restrooms. The marketing of baby dolls to little girls. And the comments. Oh, the comments.
"Did daddy dress you today?"
"Oh, is it is daddy-daycare today?"
My husband was never asked if he planned to continue working or stay home with the baby. He is never asked how he manages to balance a career and a family. We simply do not think to ask these questions of men. He also, admittedly, never goes to sleep at night with an overwhelming sensation of was I good enough today. That's my societal baggage to enjoy.
Somewhere along the way, and over and over again, I absorbed the notion that a "good mom" looks and acts a certain way — and I believed it, to my core. It's the same ideology that keeps me up at night consumed with "mom guilt" for all the day's imperfections, while my husband sleeps peacefully next to me.
We have never once had a conversation in which we discussed who would take on the role of "master birthday party planner," "creator of holiday magic" and one thousand other responsibilities that tend to land on moms. Nor did we ever discuss who would rake the leaves or call the car mechanic—because those were obviously my husband's jobs.
For all our progressive and feminist proclamations, we certainly landed firmly in our expected — and oh-so-stereotypical — roles. Interestingly, a 2018 survey from the Pew Research Center highlighted the discrepancy between the percentage of moms who believe they were socialized into their roles (66%) versus the number of fathers (31%). Rather, fathers were more likely than mothers to say their parenting style was primarily attributable to their biology.
Signs of progress also highlight where we need to do more work
By and large, our society has made women the assumed primary parents and men the assumed primary breadwinners.
But that's not to say we're without progress: According to the Pew Research Center, when compared to fathers in the 1960s, today's fathers spend more than twice as much time on household chores, and three times as many hours taking care of their children. In 40% of households, women are the sole or primary breadwinner, compared to 11% in 1960. For the first time in history, women in the United States are more educated than men—36% of millennial women have earned a bachelor's degree or higher, compared to 28% of men.
Our lived realities do little to reflect these changes. Consider the pay gap in the United States: Overall women's salaries are 20% less than men's. Add in racial inequalities and the numbers are far worse—a Hispanic woman, for example, garners only 53% of a man's salaries.
The Motherhood Penalty is a documented phenomenon for mothers in the paid workforce. For example, mothers are considered to be 12% less committed to their jobs than women who are not mothers and are six times less likely to be recommended for hire.
In other words, mothers are not regarded as good employees and are therefore less likely to get the job—despite studies that show the exact opposite. Motherly co-found Liz Tenety writes that, "over the course of a career, mothers are the most efficient workers around."
Between the gender pay-gap and the rising cost of childcare, it is no wonder that more women change career paths when they become parents than men. Many women realize that they will spend more on childcare than they bring home in salary, and decide that it makes the most economic sense to leave their paid work. Motherly's State of Motherhood Survey found that 50% of women made changes to their careers after having a baby, most of them becoming stay-at-home moms. Meanwhile, 58% of partners' careers stayed the same and 29% scaled up.
Nearly two-thirds of partners expressed the wish to spend more time with their kids, but couldn't because their work demands were too high, or their bosses expected them to be at work for long hours.
This disparity merely scratches the surface of the issue, though. To have the option to scale back on one's career means that someone else in the household can earn what the family needs to get by, which is not a possibility in single-parent households.
Making the changes we can
We are the products of a society that is heteronormative, patriarchal and built on systemic racism—all problems that are intertwined. Living in it means that we have to fight for true parenting equality at every turn. And the truth is that we don't always fight — sometimes we do just give in and fall into our expected roles.
Now let me be clear, my ability to spend a day not fighting is a privilege granted to me as a white, cis-gendered, heterosexual, middle-class, English speaking, documented citizen. Being too tired to fight is not a right that many of our fellow mothers have.
Are we the generation to fix it? No, we are not. This problem is more than a generation deep, and it is going to take many seasons of parents to change the culture. Our indoctrination began long before we were conceived. And, by the time we become aware of it, we are fully immersed in its mess.
Does that mean we leave it alone? Also, no. Not even close.
We do the work. Every day.
We talk about injustices, with each other and our children. We own the biases we have inherited and we explore our shadows so that we can understand them, even when it is uncomfortable.
For me, it starts with baby steps—which usually means voicing the needs I normally keep quiet.
As I write this, my daughter sits beside me, home sick from school. When she woke up coughing this morning we did not have a conversation about "who was going to stay home with her?" I just automatically started shuffling my calendar around, and my husband automatically started getting dressed for work. I felt the resentment start to creep in, but realized that this shift is on me, just as much as it is on him. I called him and asked him to leave work early to take over, so we could at least share in the upheaval of a sick kid.
This pushed the limits of my comfort zone, something that is never easy to do. But, my belief is that by doing so, my children's comfort zones will naturally be even wider—so they can then push for more when their time comes. It may take generations, but progress is better than complacence. The future doesn't have to be the past.
Originally posted on Medium.
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Pregnancy can be a dream come true, but it can also be really hard. Jessica Simpson is so excited to welcome her third child, a girl named Birdie, but this pregnancy has not been easy on the 38-year-old mama.
She's been hospitalized multiple times and been dealing with swollen feet and heartburn so bad she has to sleep in a chair. It isn't easy being this pregnant, but Simpson's latest selfie proves she makes it look good and has a sense of humour about it.
She fashion mogul posted a bikini photo with the best caption ever: "Jess-tation".
The fun photo comes not long after she revealed she's been hospitalized four times in the last couple of months.
"After a week in the hospital for bronchitis (my fourth time in 2 months), I'm finally home!" she wrote in a March 3 Instagram caption. "Coughing with Birdie has been a crazy painful journey. I am slowly getting healthier every day."
According to Healthline, bronchitis is quite common in the winter months, and being pregnant can make it even more uncomfortable as it can be harder to take deep breaths.
Her honesty on Instagram is a good thing because pregnancy can be challenging but, for some reason, society talks a lot about women glowing and craving ice cream, but not a lot about how difficult it can be physically and emotionally.
Thankfully, Jessica is feeling better and doesn't have too much longer to go in this pregnancy.
"I am slowly getting healthier every day. Baby girl was monitored and is doing amazing! 🙏🏼 I am on my way to healthy and counting down the days to see her sweet smile. Sending love and prayers to all the mothers who are going or have gone through this. OUCH."
Pregnancy isn't easy for every mama. It can be downright not fun. But the good news is that the physical discomfort will end, mama.
One day you will have your baby in your arms, not your belly. You will no longer be "Jess-tating". You will sleep in a bed again, not upright in a recliner. Your feet will fit into regular shoes.
We get it, Jessica. Hang in there mama. Birdie is almost here!
[This post was originally published March 4, 2019. It has been updated.]