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Well Rounded NY is Here

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It was serendipitous that Jessica and I got pregnant at the same time. Being first-time mamas in New York City, in a sea of single friends isn’t so easy...especially within that first trimester, when activities change (bye-bye booze) and energy levels plummet. Jess and I were friends from the magazine world pre-pregnancy, and had made a nice habit of meeting up for dinner and drinks. So, of course, it’s only appropriate that our pregnancy-reveals happened over a delicious dinner at a restaurant downtown. Jess went first, and I met her news with big sigh of relief -- I had been keeping my pregnancy under wraps. A pregger friend! Over the next few months, we came to terms with the fact that our bodies were changing and that our lives were about to as well. But, despite our jobs in media, neither one of us could find a resource that complemented this new stage in our lives. Sure, we weren’t fitting into our old jeans anymore, but we still wanted to feel like ourselves. And just because we weren’t boozing it up while our babies were cooking didn’t mean that we couldn’t enjoy our favorite things, like eating at the latest restaurants. All we saw were pink and blue at the end of the tunnel...and we like tie-dye. Which is why, once the newborn fog lifted, we started working on Well Rounded NY. And why last week, four months after unofficially launching WRNY, we were finally ready to celebrate our new baby together with a Sip & See at the Duc Duc Showroom in SoHo (and yes, “we” are fully aware that we sound like a couple when “we” speak sometimes and “we” are totally fine with it). We fell in love with the idea of a Sip & See after seeing some work that our friends over at Little Miss Party had done. So who better to collaborate with on our “Granny Chic” theme than LMP partners Seri and Michelle? All we had to do was share a picture of some gorgeous floral paper straws that we had become fixated on, and say the words “gold” and “lace,” and LMP came back to us with a dream of an event. From spray-painting objects gold to filling the room with beautiful floral arrangements, every detail was perfection. Our guests were excited to leave with a “Party in a Box,” because, really, who doesn’t love a party? In a box! Seri was on site the day of (Michelle is home with her precious newborn!) and she could not have made us feel calmer. Now, we like sippin’ on some champers as much as the next gal, but as our friend Evan Gubernick from 485 Creative (and art brain behind WRNY) likes to say, “You want them doing something.” And something they did. We asked our friends super-crafter Meg Allan Cole and Cute Attack shop’s Liza Dare to have some fun with our guests, and we’re so happy they said yes. Meg showed the ladies (and gents) how to make pom-poms and what to do with the colorful bunches (hello, pom-pom mobile), and Liza had them hammering away, customizing their own bracelets and charms with the initials of their choice. Our guests also hammed it up at our Polaroid station, sponsored by Little Duck Organics (can you say floral washi tape?), and powered up their dying phone batteries at the Mommy Nearest charging station. (Okay, not quite DIY, but sort of.) The party was filled with people who have been supporting us since WRNY was just a tiny zygote of an idea, so we wanted to make sure to thank our guests properly with cool gift bags filled with lots of loot. We were excited that Susan from Fourth Love signed on as a sponsor because what’s better than two cute logos in a unique design from 485 Creative. Oh, and did we mention there were tons of great goodies inside? Seriously though, we were completely taken back at how wonderful the evening was. We keep joking that we got married (especially because we got our hair done by the awesome GlamSquad team). The room was truly filled with warmth and excitement. And we could not have chosen a better place than Ducduc to host the event. We loved seeing every single smiling face throughout the night: old friends, new friends, editor friends, brand friends and blogger friends. We had (and overheard) inspiring conversations and are proud that new connections were made. This is just the beginning for us here at Well Rounded NY. And we don’t really need a long list of reasons to throw a party so expect more of those too. Thanks to everyone who was there, and keep on reading, keep on sharing and keep on telling us what you would like to see more of! #WRNYishere (Thank you Munchkin, LeSportSac, Nine Naturals, Tattly, The Sunday Fare, SW Basics, and Little Duck Organics for gift bag goodies. And last but not least a thank you to The Nourishing Vegan for providing healthy delicious bites and Chef Mary London for the naughty and delicious bites.) Photos by the über-talented Kristy May Photography.

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There are few kids television shows as successful as PAW Patrol. The Spin Masters series has spawned countless toys and clothing deals, a live show and now, a movie.

That's right mama, PAW Patrol is coming to the big screen in 2021.

The big-screen version of PAW Patrol will be made with Nickelodeon Movies and will be distributed by Paramount Pictures.

"We are thrilled to partner with Paramount and Nickelodeon to bring the PAW Patrol franchise, and the characters that children love, to the big screen," Spin Master Entertainment's Executive Vice President, Jennifer Dodge, announced Friday.

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"This first foray into the arena of feature film marks a significant strategic expansion for Spin Master Entertainment and our properties. This demonstrates our commitment to harnessing our own internal entertainment production teams to develop and deliver IP in a motion picture format and allows us to connect our characters to fans through shared theatrical experiences," Dodge says.

No word on the plot yet, but we're gonna bet there's a problem, 'round Aventure Bay, and Ryder and his team of pups will come and save the day.

We cannot even imagine how excited little PAW Patrol fans will be when this hits theatres in 2021. It's still too early to buy advance tickets but we would if we could!

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In the middle of that postpartum daze, the sleepless nights, the recovery, the adjustment to a new schedule and learning the cues of a new baby, there are those moments when a new mom might think, I don't know how long I can do this.

Fortunately, right around that time, newborns smile their first real smile.

For many mothers, the experience is heart-melting and soul-lifting. It's a crumb of sustenance to help make it through the next challenges, whether that's sleep training, baby's first cold, or teething. Each time that baby smiles, the mother remembers, I can do this, and it's worth it.

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Dayna M. Kurtz, LMSW, CPT a NYC-based psychotherapist and author of Mother Matters: A Holistic Guide to Being a Happy, Healthy Mom, says she sees this in her clinical practice.

"One mother I worked with recounted her experience of her baby's first smile. At eight weeks postpartum, exhausted and overwhelmed, she remembered her baby smiling broadly at her just before a nighttime feeding," Kurtz says. "In that moment, she was overcome by tremendous joy and relief, and felt, for the first time, a real connection to her son."

So what is it about a baby's smile that can affect a mother so deeply? Can it all be attributed to those new-mom hormones? Perhaps it stems from the survival instincts that connect an infant with its mother, or the infant learning social cues. Or is there something more going on inside our brains?

In 2008, scientists in Houston, TX published their research on the topic. Their study, "What's in a Smile? Maternal Brain Responses to Infant Facial Cues", takes data from the MRI images of 26 women as they observed images of infants smiling, crying, or with a neutral expression.

The images included the mother's own infant alternated with an unknown infant of similar ethnicity and in similar clothing and position. In each image, the baby displayed a different emotion through one of three facial expressions; happy, neutral, or sad. Researchers monitored the change in the mothers' brain activity through the transitions in images from own-infant to unknown-infant, and from happy to neutral to sad and vice versa.

The results?

"When first-time mothers see their own baby's face, an extensive brain network appears to be activated, wherein affective and cognitive information may be integrated and directed toward motor/behavioral outputs," wrote the study's authors. Seeing her infant smile or cry prompts the areas of the brain that would instigate a mother to act, whether it be to comfort, care for, or caress and play with the baby.

In addition, the authors found that reward-related brain regions are activated specifically in response to happy, but not sad, baby faces. The areas of the brain that lit up in their study are the same areas that release dopamine, the "pleasure chemical." For context, other activities that elicit dopamine surges include eating chocolate, having sex, or doing drugs. So in other words, a baby's smile may be as powerful as those other feel-good experiences.

And this gooey feeling moms may get from seeing their babies smile isn't just a recreational high—it serves a purpose.

This reward system (aka dopaminergic and oxytocinergic neuroendocrine system) exists to motivate the mother to forge a positive connection with the baby, according to Aurélie Athan, PhD, director of the Reproductive & Maternal Psychology Laboratory (a laboratory that created the first graduate courses of their kind in these subjects).

These networks also promote a mother's ability to share her emotional state with her child, which is the root of empathy. "A mother cries when baby cries, smiles when baby smiles," Athan says.

While there's a physiological explanation underlying that warm-and-fuzzy sensation elicited by a smile, there may be other factors at play too, Kurtz says.

"In my clinical practice, I often observe a stunning exchange between a mother and her baby when the latter smiles at her. A mother who is otherwise engaged in conversation with me may be, for that moment, entirely redirected to focus on her little one," Kurtz says. "This kind of attention-capturing on the part of the baby can enable and cultivate maternal attunement—a mother's ability to more deeply connect with her infant. The quality of attunement in early childhood often sets the stage for one's relationship patterns in the future."

Whether a physiological response, a neural activation, simple instinct, or the tightening of emotional connection, the feeling generated by babies' smiles is a buoy in the choppy ocean of new parenthood.

And while the first smile may be the most magical by virtue of its surprise and the necessity of that emotional lift, the fuzzy feeling can continue well into that baby's childhood and beyond. It keeps telling parents, you've got this!

[This was originally published on Apparently]

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Chrissy Teigen is one of the most famous moms in the world and definitely one of the most famous moms on social media.

She's the Queen of Twitter and at least the Duchess of Instagram but with a massive following comes a massive dose of mom-shame, and Teigen admits the online comments criticizing her parenting affects her.

"It's pretty much everything," Teigen told Today, noting that the bulk of the criticism falls into three categories: How she feeds her kids, how she uses her car seats and screen time.

"Any time I post a picture of them holding ribs or eating sausage, I get a lot of criticism," she explained. "Vegans and vegetarians are mad and feel that we're forcing meat upon them at a young age. They freak out."

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Teigen continues: "If they get a glimpse of the car seat there is a lot of buckle talk. Maybe for one half of a second, the strap slipped down. And TV is another big one. We have TV on a lot in my house. John and I work on television; we love watching television."

Teigen wants the shame to stop, not just for herself but for all the other moms who feel it. (And we agree.)

"Hearing that nine out of 10 moms don't feel like they're doing a good enough job is terrible," she said. "We're all so worried that we're not doing all that we can, when we really are."

The inspiration for Teigen talking publicly about mom-shame may be in part because of her participation in Pampers' "Share the Love" campaign. But even though Teigen's discussion coincides with this campaign, the message remains equally important. Advertising can be a powerful tool for shifting the way society thinks about what's "normal" and we would much rather see companies speaking out against mom-shame than inducing it to sell more stuff.

Calling out mom-shame in our culture is worth doing in our lives, our communities and yes, our diaper commercials. Thank you Chrissy (and thank you, Pampers).

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Dear fellow mama,

I was thinking about the past the other day. About the time I had three small boys—a newborn, his 2-year-old brother and his 5-year-old brother.

How I was always drowning.

How I could never catch my breath between the constant requests.

How I always felt guilty no matter how hard I tried.

How hard it was—the constant exhaustion, struggling to keep my home any kind of clean or tidy, how I struggled to feed my kids nutritious meals, to bathe them and clean them and keep them warmly dressed in clean clothing, to love them well or enough or well enough.

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Those years were some of the toughest years I have ever encountered.

But mama, I am here to tell you that it doesn't last forever. Slowly, incrementally, without you even noticing, it gets easier. First, one child is toilet trained, then the bigger one can tie his own shoelaces, then finally they are all sleeping through the night.

It's hard to imagine; I really really get it.

It is going to get easier. I swear it. I'm not saying that there won't be new parenting challenges, that it won't be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life. It will be. But it will get easier.

These days, all of my kids get the bus to school and back. Most of them dress themselves. They can all eat independently and use the toilet. Sometimes they play with each other for hours leaving me time to do whatever I need to do that day.

I sleep through the night. I am not constantly in a haze of exhaustion. I am not overwhelmed by three tiny little people needing me to help them with their basic needs, all at the same time.

I can drink a hot cup of coffee. I do not wish with every fiber of my being that I was an octopus, able to help each tiny person at the same time.

I am not tugged in opposite directions. I don't have to disappoint my 3-year-old who desperately wants to play with me while I am helping his first grade bother with his first grade reading homework.

And one day, you will be here too.

It's going to get easier. I promise. And while it may not happen today or even next week or even next month, it will happen. And you will look around in wonder at the magnificent people you helped to create and nurture and sustain.

Until then, you are stronger and more resilient than you can even imagine.

You've got this. Today and always.

Love,

A fellow mama

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