What You Really Need for Baby #2

Fridababy president & CEO Chelsea Hirschhorn gives us her definitive registry list.

What You Really Need for Baby #2

There’s the stuff you know you need when you have a baby: the crib, the swaddles, the diapers. Then there’s the stuff you really need but didn’t know you’d need. Like that thing you use to suck boogers out of your baby’s teeny tiny nose when she has her first heartbreaking cold. All hail the NoseFrida! When it comes to what you really need for Baby #2, who better to turn to than Chelsea Hirschhorn, president of Fridababy -- maker of the Nosefrida -- who is due next month with her second boy. We recently visited Chelsea in her Miami headquarters and got some perspective on how the baby world has changed between her first and second-born, as well as her definitive list of registry must-haves for Baby #2. How is this pregnancy different from the first? With the first, I had a lot more "me time" to focus on the actual pregnancy. This time around, I’m finding the months are flying by, as I’ve been focused on growing the Fridababy product line, getting all of my work related travel in before third trimester, and spending as much one-on-one time with Hunter as possible before I have to divide my time between two -- which seems daunting! My mom always says that moms innately figure out how to "split a tic tac," so I’m hoping it'll come naturally, but the thought seems foreign right now! What's it been like to think about baby products this time around as a seasoned mom? When I first started at Fridababy, everything baby and parent was new, and "innovation" of whatever kind seemed enticing. Now I’m much more deliberate about the products I’m pursuing, and the problems I’m trying to solve at the helm of a brand known for smart solutions. I’m making sure that they solve a universal need on a very macro scale -- not just innovation for innovation's sake, which I think trips up a lot of new moms. It's a very oversaturated category of baby products out there, and helping parents sift through the noise to identify what they'll really need and use has become our forte. How have you seen the baby market change since your first? There has definitely been an infusion of technology-driven innovation the past two years, but there's a very fine line between a tech-based "need" product (which defines the Fridababy approach) vs. a "nice to have" product. I’m not a self-quantifier (I don't think monitoring a baby's oxygen intake all night, for example, is necessary), but with the FeverFrida, we're letting parents rest easy knowing we'll do the worrying for them. Not waking a sick sleeping baby unnecessarily falls on the "need" side for us. As far as non-tech trends, multi-use efficiency has caught my eye. For example, car seats that do double duty as strollers, or strollers that fold into the overhead compartment of an airplane (hello Babyzen Yoyo and goodbye gate check!) are really exciting, particularly for on-the-go parents! What are you most looking forward to with having Baby #2 in the house? Seeing my older son Hunter step into his role as big brother! I’m the oldest of three, so imparting the joys (and responsibility) of that title will be a big priority for me! And, of course, having another source of inspiration for Fridababy -- necessity is totally the motherhood of invention! Chelsea’s Top 10 Registry Picks for Baby #2: 1. Infant Car Seat. We love the Peg Perego Primo Viaggio because the breathable mesh lining is perfect for the Miami heat, and the leather is so easy to maintain, unlike some cloth alternatives. Note: This depends a lot on the age gap between your first and your second. I’ll still have Hunter in a convertible car seat when baby #2 is ready for his, so we'll have to add another to the list! If your kids will have a larger age gap, that may not be necessary. 2. Boogie Board. While we're talking transportation, a Bugaboo comfort wheel board attachment for Hunter. He's already beyond excited that upon baby brother's arrival, he'll be riding in serious style alongside his mini-me. 3. Travel Stroller. We're frequent fliers, particularly the Miami --> New York route to see family and friends. The Babyzen Yoyo Stroller with the newborn attachment means we no longer have to wait for a gate-checked stroller. The simplicity in design is also impressive! 4. Stroller Accessories. if you're re-using most of the big ticket items from Baby #1, which most of us do, it's easy to make small updates so they feel fresh for the new addition. This can be as simple as swapping out the canopy on our Bugaboo. 5. Baby Pajamas. Some new bedtime attire is also a must after nights upon nights of leaks or spit up. Oeuf and Tane Organics (for the onesie stage) and Tiny Cottons or Goat-Milk (for the two-piece stage) make the softest pajamas that wash incredibly well, and the muslin sleep sacks from Aden & Anais are light enough for our tropical climate! 6. Bath Towels. Bath towels are another item that get a bit worn with time. The RH Baby & Child hooded animal towels can be personalized per child, and also make great gifts - especially when combined with the matching slippers! 7. Passport Holder or Luggage Tags. Sometimes the best registry items are the ones you know you'd never get yourself! Our go-to gift, especially for families who travel, is a monogrammed passport holder with matching luggage tags for the new baby. It's so fun to think of the lifetime of travel and adventure that those gifts will see, and also nice to remind new parents that there's a light at the end of the 4th trimester tunnel when you'll be able to leave the comforts of home with your growing brood! 8. Waterproof Travel Pouches. Speaking of travel, I will definitely be stocking up on my Roberta Roller Rabbit waterproof pouches. I still use them for Hunter to keep all of his essentials in one place in my bag, and if I switch bags, it's easy to transfer knowing I haven't left anything crucial behind. One tote or diaper bag can easily accommodate 2 or 3 pouches. Use a variety of sizes to organize the small stuff (NoseFrida & Neosporin-type stuff) and the big stuff (change of clothes and diapers). 9. NoseFrida Snotsucker. Here I’ll get biased: every stuffy nose deserves their own NoseFrida Snotsucker. Even though you can wash and reuse them on multiple children, it's helpful to throw one backup in your diaper bag and keep another one for easy access in the changing table or your first child's bedroom. And we now have our own all natural saline mist, the NoseFrida SnotSucker Saline Kit that is specially designed for newborn noses and beyond. Having one bottle for each child prevents the transfer of germs. 10. Personalized Books. One of Hunter's favorites is his I See Me! personalized book. They're so fun to read, particularly as the kids learn their names, and the joy on their face when they hear it come to life in a story is contagious -- another great gift! Bonus Pick: Fridababy Momwasher. This is something I wish we had finalized before Hunter was born: the Fridababy Momwasher. If you hung on to that hospital squirt bottle they gave you (I did too!), you can safely ditch it in preparation for #2. This one is specially designed to be held upside down, and angled to get the water gently where you need it. It also comes with a waterproof travel bag for on-the-go healing! Second time moms have typically blocked this part out by now, but when I’m packing my hospital bag, I have a feeling it'll all come back! For new moms, this conveniently gets left off even your best friend's recount of her delivery details. Consider yourself warned: it gets messy! Photography by Judith Rae for Well Rounded NY.



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I wish someone had told me before how special wearing your baby can be, even when you have no idea how to do it.

My first baby and I were alone in our Brooklyn apartment during a particularly cold spring with yet another day of no plans. My husband was back at work after a mere three weeks of parental leave (what a joke!) and all my friends were busy with their childless lives—which kept them too busy to stop by or check in (making me, at times, feel jealous).

It was another day in which I would wait for baby to fall asleep for nap number one so I could shower and get ready to attempt to get out of the house together to do something, anything really, so I wouldn't feel the walls of the apartment close in on me by the time the second nap rolled around. I would pack all the diapers and toys and pacifiers and pump and bottles into a ginormous stroller that was already too heavy to push without a baby in it .

Then I would spend so much time figuring out where we could go with said stroller, because I wanted to avoid places with steps or narrow doors (I couldn't lift the stroller by myself and I was too embarrassed to ask strangers for help—also hi, New Yorkers, please help new moms when you see them huffing and puffing up the subway stairs, okay?). Then I would obsess about the weather, was it too cold to bring the baby out? And by the time I thought I had our adventure planned, the baby would wake up, I would still be in my PJs and it was time to pump yet again.

Slowly, but surely, and mostly thanks to sleep deprivation and isolation, I began to detest this whole new mom life. I've always been a social butterfly. I moved to New York because I craved that non-stop energy the city has and in the years before having my baby I amassed new friends I made through my daily adventures. I would never stop. I would walk everywhere just to take in the scenery and was always on the move.

Now I had this ball and chain attached to me, I thought, that didn't even allow me to make it out of the door to walk the dog. This sucks, I would think regularly, followed by maybe I'm not meant to be a mom after all.

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Motherly editors’ 7 favorite hacks for organizing their diaper bags

Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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Thinking they are is what's burning moms out.

A friend and I bump into each other at Target nearly every time we go. We don't pre-plan this; we must just be on the same paper towel use cycle or something. Really, I think there was a stretch where I saw her at Target five times in a row.

We've turned it into a bit of a running joke. "Yeah," I say sarcastically, "We needed paper towels so you know, I had to come to Target… for two hours of alone time."

She'll laugh and reply, "Oh yes, we were out of… um… paper clips. So here I am, shopping without the kids. Heaven!"

Now don't get me wrong. I adore my trips to Target (and based on the fullness of my cart when I leave, I am pretty sure Target adores my trips there, too).

But my little running joke with my friend is actually a big problem. Because why is the absence of paper towels the thing that prompts me to get a break? And why on earth is buying paper towels considered a break for moms?

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