4. Wake him up with the wonderful news

One Mama said, “I woke up in the middle of the night and just KNEW I was pregnant—my period wasn’t even due yet. I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. I jumped on my sleeping husband and basically shoved the test into his face. I couldn’t wait!”


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9. Cook a “baby themed” dinner

We’re talking baby back ribs, baby potatoes, baby spinach—so much deliciousness. Once you’ve sat down for dinner, ask him if he can guess the theme of your menu.

8. Leave clues around the house

Buy a few pregnancy magazines, pacifiers, or baby name books and scatter them around the house. It may take a few minutes for your partner to put it all together, but when he does, it’ll be worth it.

5. You’ve got (very special) mail

Buy a great book on being a dad like Dad is Fat by Jim Gaffigan, or your favorite Dr. Seuss book and stick it in the mailbox for your partner to find when he gets home.

10. Sweet treats + sympathy weight gain

Buy or bake cookies, doughnuts, brownies, cupcakes—whatever your heart desires—and once he takes a bite into his treat, tell him you figured it would be nice for him to gain a few pounds over the next nine months as well!

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3. Take multiple tests + show ‘em off

One Mama said, “I ran downstairs holding 6 positive tests and said ‘these say I’m pregnant but I totally don’t think its correct!’”

6. Write it down...

...on his dinner plate! Write “I’m pregnant” on the plate and then heat it in the oven for 10-15 minutes at 350 degrees. Pile his dinner on top of the secret message, and enjoy the look of surprise on his face when he’s done eating; sneaky!

1. Say it with groceries

Buy your regular items at the supermarket, but throw in a pack of newborn diapers. Ask your partner for help unloading the bags when you get home, and let him take the diapers out. One Mama said, “It was the last bag; my husband took them out and said “What are these?!’ Then we both cried!”

2. Let your partner find out first

One Mama took the test and left it on the bathroom counter for her husband to discover. She didn’t look at the results at all (the patience!). She said, “I was fully expecting it to be negative, but surprise(!), I was pregnant! He didn’t even have to say anything—it was all over his face!”

Finding out you’re pregnant is one of life’s big moments.

It’s a wild, mind-blowing, out of body experience. It’s the biggest news of your life—news that you cannot wait to share with the partner who helped to create this tiny human.

We polled our Motherly mamas to see how they shared the big news with their significant others, and got some fun and creative ideas to let you in on. That is, if you’re patient enough to not just blurt out “I AM PREGNANT!”

Here are our favorites:

7. Give him a special present

We love these ‘Best Dad Ever’ t-shirts, and think your baby’s dad-to-be would, too. You’d have to wait a few days for this one to arrive though, so think about whether you can keep a secret that long or not!

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But raising a mentally strong kid requires parents to avoid the common yet unhealthy parenting practices that rob kids of mental strength. In my book, 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do, I identify 13 things to avoid if you want to raise a mentally strong kid equipped to tackle life's toughest challenges:

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