10 ways husbands can show their pregnant wives extra love

Pregnancy’s time to go the extra mile for your fabulous wife.

10 ways husbands can show their pregnant wives extra love

1. Give her a massage. ?

Guys, her back hurts. A lot! Don't wait for her to ask—offer her a massage on your own. It doesn't have to be spa-worthy, just a loving, relaxing rubdown.

Bonus points if you use lotion or oil.

3. Surprise her with treats. ?

No, we don't mean diamonds and pearls. We mean whip up a batch of brownies after dinner or come home with a pint of Ben & Jerry's.

Win-win for everyone.

8. Tie or put on her shoes. ?

Seriously, offer to do this. It's really considerate and it actually is hard for her to do. (Yes, she will happily take you up on it!)

2. Go grocery shopping. ?

“I'll go to the store." Pregnant women's hearts around the world flutter each time they hear these five magic words.

Grocery shopping can be tiresome and sometimes hard to fit into your day. Take this chore off your baby mama's hands once in a while (or always) to help relieve some stress.

(Other magical five-word combos: “Let me cook dinner tonight," “I can fold the laundry," “I'll research that baby product"—you catch our drift.)

6. Show affection. ?

We're going to let you in on a little secret of the motherhood—when we're pregnant, we don't always feel super sexy and attractive. Crazy, right?

So touch your wife, hug her, cuddle her, kiss her and tell her she's beautiful. She appreciates it. Even during her mood swings.

Pregnancy is truly awesome in every sense of the word. But let's face it—it's also emotional, overwhelming and exhausting. This is not to say your partner doesn't have to make any sacrifices. It's just that the impacts are a little, er, different.

We put together a list of ways your husband can show you some extra lovin' + make life a little easier on you. Share it with him + expect good things.

10. Give reassurance and positivity. ?

Thinking about physically giving birth can be very scary for your wife. Engage fully in conversations about a birth plan and reassure your wife when she has doubts about it later.

Lend an ear when she needs to vent about her worries and fears. Be positive and supportive. Remind her that she's strong and powerful—be her rock.

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5. Turn down plans.

Decline an invitation or remind your wife not to feel guilty for saying no to something that she doesn't feel up for. During the journey of pregnancy, your preggo pal is not going to be able to do everything she wants to or feels obligated to do.

You could also attend something on behalf of the team and let your wife off the hook.

4. Plan a babymoon. ?

Come up with a few different options and price ranges for a trip to take before the baby arrives (and before your wife gets too uncomfortable to travel), and present them to your beautiful baby mama to see which option she'd enjoy most.

7. Attend appointments. ?

Try to get to as many doctor or midwife appointments as you can. This will help you both feel like a team and ensure your wife doesn't feel alone in this. Plus you'll be clued in on all the wonders happening with her body and your growing baby!

9. Give her a pedicure. ?

Again—this doesn't have to be spa-worthy. At all. But simply offering to paint her toenails can go a long, long way. Especially when she's getting close to her due date and want to feel extra special for the big day. It's nearly impossible for her to reach down to her toes (comfortably, at least!), so your offer will be much appreciated.

Think of all the husband points you'll get when your honey gets to brag to her friends about her sweet and thoughtful partner.

After 4 kids, this is still the best baby gear item I’ve ever purchased

I wouldn't be swooning over the BABYBJÖRN bouncer after eight years and four kids if it didn't work.

I have four kids 8 and under, so you might expect that my house is teeming with baby gear and kid toys.

But it turns out that for me, the more kids I have, the more I simplify our stuff. At this point, I'm down to the absolute essentials, the gear that I can't live without and the toys my kids actually play with. And so when a mama-to-be asks me what things are worth registering for, there are only a few must-haves on my list.

The BABYBJÖRN bouncer seat is on the top of my list—totally worth it and an absolute must-have for any new mama.

In fact, since I first splurged on my first BABYBJÖRN bouncer eight years ago (it definitely felt like a splurge at the time, but the five star reviews were really compelling), the bouncer seat has become the most-used product in our house for baby's first year.

We've actually invested in a second one so that we didn't have to keep moving ours from the bedroom to the living room when we change locations.

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The utility of the seat might seem counterintuitive—it has no mechanical parts, so your baby is instead gently bounced by her own movements. In a world where many baby products are touted for their ability to mechanically rock baby to sleep, I get that many moms might not find the "no-motion" bouncer that compelling. But it turns out that the seat is quite reactive to baby's little kicks, and it has helped my kids to learn how to self-soothe.


Lightweight + compact:

The BABYBJÖRN bouncer is super lightweight, and it also folds flat in a second. Because of those features, we've frequently stored it under the couch, in a suitcase or in the back of the car. It folds completely flat, which I love.

Entertainment zone:

Is the toy bar worth it? The toy bar is totally worth it. Not only is the toy bar adorable, but it's one of the first toys that my babies actually play with once they discover the world beyond my boobs. The toys spin and are close to eye level so they have frequently kept my baby entertained while I cook or take a quick shower.

Great style:

This is not a small detail to me–the BABYBJÖRN bouncer is seriously stylish. I am done with baby gear and toys that make my house look like a theme park. The elegant European design honestly just looks good in my living room and I appreciate that parents can enjoy it as much as baby.

It's adjustable:

With three height settings that let you prop baby up to be entertained, or lay back to rest, we get years of use. And the bouncer can actually be adjusted for bigger kids and used from newborn to toddler age. It's that good.

It just works:

I wouldn't be swooning over the BABYBJÖRN bouncer after eight years and four kids if it didn't work. But I have used the seat as a safe space to put baby while I've worked (I once rocked my baby in it with my foot while I reported on a breaking news story for the Washington Post), and as a cozy spot for my second child to lay while his big brother played nearby. It's held up for almost a decade with almost-constant use.

So for me, looking back on what I thought was a splurge eight years ago, was actually one of the best investments in baby gear I ever made.

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"Infants under 6 months of age carried by a walking mother immediately stopped voluntary movement and crying and exhibited a rapid heart rate decrease, compared with holding by a sitting mother," say authors of a 2013 study published in Current Biology.

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