After a long day of doing seemingly everything, when our partners get home it kind of becomes a habit to ask, "How was your day?" In between prepping dinner, handing off the kids, finishing your own work, we don't exactly get much value from this question. Sure, it may open up the opportunity to complain about that awful thing that happened or excitedly share that presentation you killed at work—but it usually stops there.
I could do a better job of really talking in my relationship. After 12 years and two kids, sometimes all we can come up with post bedtime routine is, "You good? I'm good. Fire up the Netflix."
Here are 21 questions to dig deeper into your marriage after a long day—see where they take you!
- Did you listen to anything interesting today?
- If you could do any part of today over again, what would it be?
- How much coffee did you drink today?
- Will you remember any specific part of today a year from now? Five years?
- Did you take any photos today? What did you photograph?
- What app did you open most today?
- How can I make your day easier in five minutes?
- If we were leaving for vacation tonight, where do you wish we would be heading?
- If you won $500 and had to spend it on yourself today, what would you buy?
- If your day was turned into a movie, who would you cast?
- What did you say today that you could have never expected to come out of your mouth?
- What did you do to take care of yourself today?
- When did you feel appreciated today?
- If you could guarantee one thing for tomorrow what would it be?
- If we traded places tomorrow what advice would you give me for the day?
- What made you laugh today?
- Imagine committing the next year to learning one thing in your spare time. What would it be?
- Did you give anyone side-eye today? Why?
- What do you wish you did more of today?
- What do you wish you did less of today?
- Are you even listening to me right now?
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