9 ways to include your partner in your pregnancy

7. Prep the nursery.

Work on baby’s nursery together. Set up the crib, wash and put away their clothes, fix up a bookshelf and so on. Your little one’s room will be a special place for them (even if it’s not right away!), so adding those extra touches will be a fun activity for the two of you.

4. Share your weekly update emails.

Forward your weekly Motherly update to your partner to loop him in on all the wonders going on inside you. It’s amazing to learn about how your baby is growing and developing each week—he’ll love it.

We’re so lucky to be able to experience the miracle of pregnancy. Sure, there’s the back pain, the growing belly, the stretch marks—but it’s all worth it to get to create and grow your baby inside your body. It’s a feeling that’s hard to describe, try as we may to our partners. Even though they can’t feel exactly what it’s like, there are lots of ways to make them feel included in the process.

6. Discuss baby names.

Dreaming out loud about what your baby might look like, or what their personality will be like—and then coming up with names to potentially match up—is lots of fun and also very necessary. The baby needs a name (!), and you may find it hard to agree on one, so the sooner you start discussing, the better.

5. Feel those magical kicks.

Before you go to bed, let your partner take some time to feel around for kicks. Your baby may be more active than usual at night, or you might be better at noticing the baby moving more because you’re lying still. Either way, this is a good time for your partner to get a chance to feel your little one’s movement. This is another beautiful way to connect.

8. Write to your baby.

Start a journal, keepsake book or email address for your baby and write them letters, emails and little anecdotes (about them/mama’s pregnancy in general) to share one day. What a cool gift to give them when they’re older!

1. Attend prenatal visits + ultrasounds together.

Include them in as many prenatal appointments as they’re able to get to, especially when you’ll have an ultrasound to see your little one. Ultrasounds make this whole experience feel so real—for the both of you.

3. Tour the hospital or birthing center.

Go on a tour of your hospital or birthing center together so that you both know what it looks like and can familiarize yourselves with the environment before the big day. You can also write your birth plan together so you’re equally informed of the overall game plan. This will help empower your partner to be an advocate for you during labor and delivery.

9. Take maternity photos.

Such an amazing moment in time should be documented, don’t you think? Whether you hire a professional photographer or set up a tripod and timer, consider taking photos together during your pregnancy. Down the road, you’ll be happy you did.

2. Go to classes together.

Once you choose your childbirth education class or classes—or any other baby-related classes (breastfeeding, newborn basics, etc.), attend them together so you’re on the same page and you don’t have to relay all the info you learn. Plus, it’ll be a good bonding experience for the two of you as you get ready to embark on the adventure of a lifetime.

When expecting a baby, there is a lot you can test-run in advance: Take that stroller around the block. Go for a spin with the car seat secured in place. Learn how to use the baby carrier with help from a doll. But breastfeeding? It's not exactly possible to practice before baby's arrival.

The absence of a trial makes it all the more important to prepare in other ways for breastfeeding success—and it can be as simple as adding a few of our lactation aiding favorites to your registry.

MilkBliss chocolate chip soft baked lactation cookies

MilkBliss lactation cookies

Studies have shown the top reason women stop breastfeeding within the first year is because they are concerned about their milk supply being enough to nourish baby. Consider MilkBliss Lactation Cookies to be your secret weapon. Not only are they wholesome and delicious, but they were formulated specifically for breastfeeding moms based on the science of galactagogues—also known as milk boosters. They also come in peanut butter and wild blueberry flavors.


Evereden multi-purpose healing balm

Evereden multipurpose healing balm

Also up there on the list of reasons women stop breastfeeding: the toll the early days can take on nipples. Made from just five ingredients, this all natural healing balm is ideal for soothing chafed nipples, making for a much more comfortable experience for mama as her body adjusts to the needs of a breastfeeding baby.


Lansinoh milk storage bags

Lansinoh milk storage bags

For a breastfeeding mama, there are few things more precious and valuable than the milk she worked so hard to pump—and it's the stuff of nightmares to imagine it spilling out in the fridge. With these double-sealed milk storage bags, you can be assured your breastmilk is safe and sound until baby needs it.


Belly Bandit bandita nursing bra

Belly Bandit bandita nursing bra

Nursing a baby is a 24/7 job, which calls for some wardrobe modifications. Because Belly Bandit specializes in making things more comfortable for the postpartum mama, they've truly thought of every detail—from the breathable fabric to the clips that can be easily opened with one hand.


boob-ease soothing therapy pillows

Boob Ease soothing therapy pillows

For nursing moms, duct can quickly become a four-letter word when you suspect it's getting clogged. By keeping these soothing breast pillows in your breastfeeding arsenal, you can immediately go on the defense against plugged milk ducts by heating the pads in the microwave or cooling them in the freezer.


Belly Bandit perfect nursing tee

Belly Bandit perfect nursing tee

A unfortunate reality of nursing is that it can really seem to limit the wardrobe options when you have to think about providing easy, discrete access. But by adding functional basics to your closet, you can feel confident and prepared for breastfeeding on the go.


Bebe au Lait premium cotton nursing cover

Bebe au Lait cotton nursing cover

Nursing in public isn't every mama's cup of tea. But babies can't always wait until you've found a private place to get down to business if that's your preference. That's where a nursing cover comes in handy. This one is made from premium cotton and features a patented neckline that allows for airflow and eye contact even while you're covered.


Lactation Lab basic breastmilk testing kit

Lactation Lab breastmilk testing kit

Curious to learn more about the liquid gold you're making, mama? The testing kit from Lactation Labs analyzes your breast milk for basic nutritional content like calories and protein, as well as vitamins, fatty acids and environmental toxins to help boost your breastfeeding confidence.


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