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Finding your footing after adding ‘mama’ to your resume

New motherhood can be confusing. Here are 5 helpful tips to get you back to feeling like...you.

Finding your footing after adding ‘mama’ to your resume

Gwen Stefani recently reflected on her experience as a first-time mom saying, “In the beginning, I didn’t want to think of myself as a mother,” she said. “I was like, ‘Wait a minute! Ain’t no hollaback girl is who I am!’ I had to learn to accept it.”


We feel you, Gwen. Motherhood not only changes a woman’s body and family life, it can also fundamentally change her identity in ways that feel foreign. In those fragile first months, it can be hard to recognize ourselves.

Want to find your footing after adding the title “mama” to you life’s resume? Here are 5 ways—

1. Shift your priorities.

To quote Faith Hill,

“Before, my career came first. All I had to think about was myself. Now my children prevail. It doesn’t mean my career is less important; I just have to position things differently.”

Work on the mentality of re-prioritizing your life: child or children, spouse, career, “me time,” dreams, everyday responsibilities—where do they all fall? Try a meditation to assist you in this process.

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2. Educate yourself.

Understand the difference between postpartum depression and anxiety vs the uncertainties of your transition into motherhood. According to Postpartum Support International, “Approximately 15% of women experience significant depression following childbirth.” Read more from The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists about the signs, symptoms, and what you can do to treat postpartum depression. Reach out for help and talk to your partner if you feel you are experiencing symptoms of PPD.

3. Embrace going back to work, or being at home.

Colleen Campo, a licensed mental health counselor who specifically helps new mothers during this transition to new motherhood says, “A woman who first has a baby isn’t really thinking about reconnecting with her identity right away. For the first three months she’s in survival mode. But when she comes up for air and thinks about it, one way to reconnect with her identity is by going back to work or really embracing being at home.” Own this as part of who you are.

4. Be open minded to this new version of yourself.

Campo says, “I don’t think you ever get back to your identity but you develop a new identity. There are parts of you that are the same, but in some respect you have become a new person.” We grow and change significantly over the years, especially during monumental transitions in our lives. Being open to what this new version of yourself brings to the table will help you accept the fact that you’re different now, and show you that you’ve changed in amazing ways.

5. Create time for yourself.

Take some excellent advice from Mia Redrick, ‘The Mom Strategist‘ and bestselling author: “Create a weekly ritual that allows you some time alone—select the same day and time of the week and schedule this time on an ongoing basis.” This will do wonders for you as a woman, mother, and wife; everybody wins.

Redrick hit the nail on the head in saying, “Upon becoming pregnant, we moms are so focused on preparing for the new baby that we very seldom consider how to navigate this transition and how it’ll affect our own personal growth once baby is born.” So let’s make a pact, shall we? Let’s trade some of the ‘which stroller did you get?’ or ‘who are you going to use for a pediatrician?’ chatter in exchange for more conversation about our hopes, fears, and goals for ourselves once baby is here.

Here’s what Colleen Campo suggests:

“You take who you were before you were a mom and who you are now that you are a mom, and you sort blend the two together and form a new identity.”

This is a new chapter in our lives. Yes, we’re moms. But, let’s be honest, we’ll always have that hollaback girl inside of us, too.

14 outdoor toys your kids will want to play with beyond summer

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

$30

Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!

$75

Detective set

Plan Toys detective setDetective Set

This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

$40

Wooden doll stroller

Janod wooden doll strollerWooden Doll Stroller

Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.

$120

Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

$30

Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

$100

Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

$40

Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

$121

Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.

$100

Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.

$45

Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.

$179

Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.

$100

Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.

$33

Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.

$88

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