How I learned to love my post-baby body

“Will people think I look pregnant forever?”

How I learned to love my post-baby body

About three months after having my first baby I was all consumed with getting my “before-baby” body back.

Well, that’s not entirely true.

I was all consumed with diapering and nursing and worrying and not sleeping. But in the back of my head, the thought got stuck in there like a piece of chewed gum on a carpet.

I was on the elliptical up until the week before I gave birth, dreaming of getting my post baby body back.

Will people think I look pregnant forever? What do I have to do to get there? When will it fall back into place?

I beat myself up over it constantly but was too exhausted to do anything about it.

Nursing, working, and taking care of a baby drained any thoughts of exercise out of me. After a year went by I put the hard core press on getting back to “normal.” Within that year a local photographer asked if I would pose for her to help build a boudoir portfolio she was working on for Valentines Day. Although I was hesitant, I was proud she would even think to ask. (I begged her to bring wine, she said yes. I begged her to keep my belly off limits, she obliged.)


Right after my second baby, the desire for my pre-baby body came back. I would look at the photos she took and remind myself that I needed to get back at it. After 1 year this time around though, something different happened. The stuck thought in my head dislodged.

I no longer think about “getting back” to where I was. I think about moving forward. I remind myself I’ve got one body, I’m a Mother, and it needs to last a long time.

I remind myself that I’m two pregnancies down and two nursed babies in. I remind myself of the incredible events my body went through. And sure, from time to time I mourn a pair of jeans that no longer fit, or the much smaller bra size they recommend, or the notch that needs to be added to keep wearing a favorite belt. But at the end of the day I really don’t mind my rounder, softer self.

I really don’t mind the battle scars. I’ve got a different focus. I’ve got a different reason to be proud. I’ve got two happy and healthy kids.

Photo credit: Photography by KLC

These are only the vitamins I give my children and here's why

It's hard to say who loves these more—my kids or me.

When I became a mama five years ago, I didn't put too much thought into whether my son was getting the right vitamins and minerals. From breastfeeding to steaming and pureeing his first bites of solid food, I was confident I was giving him everything to support his growth and development.

But then the toddler years—and the suddenly picky palate that accompanied them—came along. Between that challenge and two additional children in the mix… well, I knew my oldest son's eating plan was falling short in some vitamin and mineral categories.

I also knew how quickly he was growing, so I wanted to make sure he was getting the nutrients he needed (even on those days when he said "no, thank you" to any veggie I offered).

So when I discovered the new line of children's supplements from Nature's Way®, it felt like a serious weight off my chest. Thanks to supplements that support my children's musculoskeletal growth, their brain function, their immune systems, their eyes and more, I'm taken back to that simpler time when I was so confident my kids' vitamin needs were met.*

It wasn't just the variety of supplements offered by Nature's Way that won me over: As a vegetarian mama, I'm the picky one in the family when it comes to scanning labels and making sure they meet our standards. The trick is that most gummy vitamins are made with gelatin, which is not vegetarian friendly.

But just like the other offerings from Nature's Way that I've already come to know and love, the children's supplement line is held to a high standard. That means there's no high-fructose corn syrup, gelatin or common allergens to be found in the supplements. The best part? My two oldest kids ensure we never miss their daily vitamins—they are so in love with the gummy flavors, which include tropical fruit punch, lemonade and wild berry.

Nature's Way Kids Mulitvitamin

Meanwhile, my pharmacist husband has different criteria when evaluating supplements, especially when it comes to those for our kids. He appreciates the variety of options from Nature's Way, which gives us the ability to rotate the vitamins based on our kids' daily needs. By keeping various children's supplements from Nature's Way on hand, I can customize a regimen to suit my kids' individual requirements.

Of course, high-quality products often come at a higher price point. But (to my immense gratitude!) that isn't the case with Nature's Way, which retails for a competitive value when compared to the other items on the shelf.

Like all mamas, my chief concern is supporting my children's health in any way I can. While I see evidence of their growth every time I pack away clothes they've outgrown, I know there is much more growth that doesn't meet the eye. That's why, for my oldest son, I like stacking the Brain Builder gummy with the Growing Bones & Muscles gummy and the Happy & Healthy Multi. My 3-year-old also enjoys getting her own mix to include the Healthy Eyes gummy. And both of my older kids are quick to request the Tummy Soothe tablet when something isn't sitting right in their stomachs.* And I'll admit it: I've tried it myself and the berry blast flavor really is tasty!

Although my current phase of motherhood may not be as "simple" as it once was, there is so much to appreciate about it—like watching my kids play and sing and create with their incredible imaginations. Along the way, I've eased up on some of my need for control, but it does help to have this range of supplements in my motherhood tool kit. So while I may not be able to convince my son to try kale, having the Nature's Way supplements on hand means I do know he's right on track.*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food & Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.

This article was sponsored by Nature's Way. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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