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10. Do what you can to make sure she eats regularly throughout the day, because low blood sugar results in a low mood and frustration. Have healthy and easy snacks on hand.


8. Schedule some dates with her and work together to find a babysitter.

4. Encourage her to take time for herself. Breaks are a necessity; fatigue is a major contributing factor to worsening symptoms.

5. Don’t expect her to be super-housewife just because she’s home all day.

6. Be realistic about what time you’ll be home, and come home on time.

3. Help with housework before she asks you.

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2. Encourage her to talk about her feelings, and listen without judgment.

9. Offer simple affection and physical comfort, but be patient if she is not up for sex. It’s normal for her to have a low sex drive with depression, and rest and recovery will help to bring it back.

7. Help her reach out to others for support and treatment. There is medical help and emotional support—make sure she gets it. You might have to step up and actively seek this out for your partner if she’s not able to find it herself.

1. Reassure her that this is not her fault; she is not alone; she will get better.

Most new mothers would agree that those first couple of weeks home after having a baby are intense, emotional and can definitely be overwhelming.

Many women experience something called postpartum blues, which is when about two to three days after childbirth, they feel depressed, anxious and upset, explains the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). “They may feel angry with the new baby, their partners, or their other children. They may also cry for no clear reason, have trouble sleeping, eating, and making choices, or question whether they can handle caring for a baby.”

These feelings may come and go in the first few days after childbirth, potentially lasting a few days or one to two weeks without any treatment.

It’s important for new mamas and their partners to understand the difference between postpartum blues and postpartum depression.

According to ACOG, women with postpartum depression “have intense feelings of sadness, anxiety, or despair that prevent them from being able to do their daily tasks.” Postpartum depression can occur up to one year after having a baby, but most commonly starts one to three weeks after childbirth and affects one in seven women, according to the American Psychological Association.

What causes postpartum depression? Most likely a combination of factors. Some could be:

  • Changes in hormone levels
  • A history of depression
  • Emotional factors
  • Fatigue
  • Lifestyle factors

Watching your partner battle postpartum depression can make you feel helpless. But there are plenty of ways you can provide mama with support.

Here are 11 suggestions on how partners can support their partners through postpartum depression or anxiety, from Postpartum Support International:

11. Keep the lines of communication open. Verbalize your feelings instead of distancing from her. It’s helpful to take a break if your tempers are hot, but do get back to communicating.


If you feel that you may be experiencing symptoms of postpartum blues or postpartum depression, you should see your health care provider as soon as possible. Do not think you have to wait until your six-week postpartum checkup to get help.

Our babies come out as beautiful, soft and natural as can be—shouldn't their clothes follow suit?

Here are nine of our favorite organic kids clothing brands that prove safe fabrics + stylish designs are a natural fit.

Estella

A brick and mortar store in Manhattan that opened in 2002, Estella is NYC's go-to shop for luxury baby gifts—from sweet-as-pie organic clothing to eco-friendly toys.

L'ovedbaby

@lovedbaby

We l'oved this collection from the moment we laid eyes on it. (See what we did there 🤣) Free of things harsh added chemicals, dangerous flame retardants, and harmful dyes, this collection is 100% organic and 100% gorgeous. We especially adore their soft, footed rompers, comfy cotton joggers, and newborn-friendly kimono bodysuits.

Looking to stock up? Don't miss Big-Find Thursday every week on their site—a 24-hour flash sale that happens Thursdays at 9 a.m. PST and features a different body style, collection, and discount every week!

Hanna Andersson

@happyhannas

One of our all-time favorite brands for durability, style, + customer service, Hanna Andersson doesn't disappoint in the organic department, either. From an aww-inducing organic baby layette collection all the way to their iconic pajamas, there are so many organic styles to swoon over from this beloved brand. And we swear their pajamas are magic—they seem to grow with your little one, fitting season after season!

Monica + Andy

@monicaandandy

The fabric you first snuggle your baby in matters. Monica + Andy's (gorgeous) collection is designed for moms and babies by moms with babies, and we love it all because it's made of super-soft GOTS-certified organic cotton that's free of chemicals, lead, and phthalates. Newborn pieces feature thoughtful details like fold-over mittens and feet.

Finn + Emma

@finnandemma

"Here boring designs and toxic chemicals are a thing of the past while modern colors, fresh prints and heirloom quality construction are abundant." We couldn't agree more. Made from 100% organic cotton, eco friendly dyes, and in fair trade settings, we love this modern collection's mix of style + sustainability.

We especially love the Basics Collection, an assortment of incredibly soft, beautiful apparel + accessories including bodysuits, zip footies, pants, hats, and bibs, all available in a gender-neutral color palette that can work together to create multiple outfit combinations. The pieces are perfect for monochrome looks or for mixing with prints for a more modern style.

SoftBaby

@littleaddigrey for @softbaby_clothes

You'll come for SoftBaby's organic fabrics, but you'll stay for their adorable assortment of prints. From woodland foxes to urban pugs, there's no limit to their assortment (meaning you'll even be able to find something for the new mama who's hard to shop for). Plus, the name says it all--these suckers are soft. Get ready for some serious cuddle time.

Gap Baby

@gapkids

Organic may not be the first thing that comes to mind when you think of the Gap, but this popular brand actually carries a wide variety of organic (and adorable) baby + toddler clothes. From newborn layette basics to toddler sleepwear—and more—there's something for everyone in this collection. Everything is 100% cotton, super soft + cozy, and perfect for eco-conscious mamas.

Winter Water Factory

@winterwaterfactory

Certified organic cotton with Brooklyn-based swagger? Be still our hearts. Winter Water Factory features screen-printed textiles in bold designs you'll want to show off (get ready for some major Instagram likes). And the husband-and-wife co-founders keep sustainability at the forefront of their brand, meaning you can feel good about your purchase--and what you're putting on your baby.

The company makes everything from kids' clothes to crib sheets (all made in the USA). For even more cuteness, pair their signature rompers with a hat or bonnet.

Under the Nile

@underthenile

Under the Nile has been making organic baby clothes since before it was cool. Seriously, they were the first baby clothing company in the USA to be certified by The Global Organic Textile Standard. They've kept up that legacy of high standards by growing their Egyptian cotton on a biodynamic farm without the use of pesticides or insecticides, and all of their prints are made with metal-free colors and no chemical finishes.

Motherly is your daily #momlife manual; we are here to help you easily find the best, most beautiful products for your life that actually work. We share what we love—and we may receive a commission if you choose to buy. You've got this.

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