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New motherhood is an exciting, beautiful time.

It’s also the perfect storm of hormones, sleep deprivation and major life change, so mothers of newborns often feel lonely and overwhelmed the first weeks and months after childbirth.


Mamas are still physically healing, even as they sacrifice sleep and adjust to the emotional toll of worrying about their tiny babies’ needs.

How often those many friends and family members who once promised to drop by and offer support get busy with their own lives and fail to appear.

So, as good friends, relations and neighbors, what can we do to offer the much-needed support these new moms need?

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Here are 5 can’t-fail ways to offer support to the new moms in our families, communities + circles of friends.

Bring food. ?? ?

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Whether you cook something, grab takeout or drop by a grocery store and fill a few bags with goodies, any new mom will appreciate some tasty food that she didn’t have to cook herself.

Show up to clean. ? ?

What new mom has the energy to vacuum or do a load of laundry?

Be careful with how you volunteer for this one.

Keep judgment out of your tone, or you just might get her fretting that you think her house is dirty.

Just tell her that every new mom deserves to be spared some work and that you’d be more than happy to empty the dishwasher or clean a pot.

If possible, offer this via text or on the phone BEFORE you come over, so that you haven’t even seen the house when you ask.

Babysit. ?

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Whether this means holding the cutie while Mom grabs a shower or hanging out for an hour or two while she naps or runs to the mall, this offer will always be appreciated. Just the opportunity to take a worry-free nap will be so incredibly helpful and valued.

Pamper her. ? ?‍♀️

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Take mama for a manicure, or drop off a gift certificate for a pedicure.

Another option: Put together a gift basket filled with bubble bath, body butter and foot scrub. ?

Encourage her. ?

It’s so sweet when a bouquet of flowers arrives at your doorstep offering congratulations, and it’s adorable to get a card in the mail sending love.

But you know what’s the best? (And so easy...) Receiving text messages from a friend offering support and asking how you are.

It’s free, it’s not time-consuming, and it lets a new mom know, repeatedly, that she is not alone and that there is someone thinking of her.

Don’t worry if she doesn’t always respond to your messages. She might be asleep or simply overwhelmed.

But keep sending the love: “Hi mama, thinking of you! Just a note to say you’re awesome. Sending a big hug.”

That’s a guarantee to remind your friend that there is still a world she is part of beyond the four walls of the nursery.

It’s a small gesture that has a meaningful and lasting effect.

Motherhood is a practice in learning, growing and loving more than you ever thought possible. Even as a "veteran" mama of four young sons and one newly adopted teenager, Jalyssa Richardson enthusiastically adapts to whatever any given day has in store—a skill she says she's refined through the years.

Here's what just one day in her life looks like:


Jalyssa says she learned to embrace agility throughout her motherhood journey. Here's more from this incredible mama of five boys.

What is the most challenging part of your day as a mom of five?

Time management! I want to meet each of the boys' individual needs—plus show up for myself—but I often feel like someone gets overlooked.

What's the best part of being a mom of five?

The little moments of love. The hugs, the kisses, the cuddles, the smiles... they all serve as little reminders that I am blessed and I'm doing okay.

Are there misconceptions about raising boys?

There are so many misconceptions about raising boys. I think the biggest one is that boys don't have many emotions and they're just so active all the time. My boys display many emotions and they also love to be sweet and cuddly a lot of the time.

What do you think would surprise people the most about being a mom of five?

How much I enjoy it. I never knew I wanted to be a mom until I was pregnant with my first. My desire only grew and the numbers did! I am surprised with every single baby as my capacity to love and nurture grows. It's incredible.

How do you create balance and make time for yourself?

Balance for me looks like intentional planning and scheduling because I never want my boys to feel like they aren't my first priority, but it is extremely difficult. What I try to do is not fit it all into one day. I have work days because motherhood is my first priority. I fit in segments of self-care after the kids' bedtime so I don't grow weary.

What's the biggest lesson you have learned from motherhood?

I have learned that sacrifice is actually beautiful. I was terrified of the selflessness motherhood would require, but I've grown so much through the sacrifice. There is nothing better than living for something bigger than myself.

When did you first feel like a mom? How has your motherhood evolved?

I first felt like a mom when I was pregnant with my first son and I intentionally chose to change my eating habits so my body could be strong and healthy for him. I didn't have to think twice—I just did what I thought would be best for him. That decision being so effortless made me realize I was made for motherhood.

My perspective has changed with each baby as I've realized motherhood doesn't have to be one-size-fits-all. With my first son, I was a by-the-book mama and it was so stressful. With each baby, I have felt more freedom and it has made motherhood so much more beautiful. I have evolved into the mother that they need, I am perfect for these boys.

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