Jodie Turner-Smith, Amy Schumer and more mamas get very honest about mom life.
Celebrity mamas really are just like us. No matter how many followers you have or how much money is in your bank account, there are some hard facts of motherhood that you can't escape.
This week several celebrity mothers opened up to talk about everything from birth, to miscarriage, to breastfeeding and how to decide if one child is enough.
Pregnancy, birth and the postpartum period are hard no matter who you are, and in the challenges there is so much strength and beauty.
Here are 5 famous mamas who got real about motherhood this week:
Jodie Turner-Smith was in labor for 4 days: 'I was fatigued and beginning to lose my resolve'
She labored at home for four days with her husband by her side.
"We had already decided on a home birth because of concerns about negative birth outcomes for Black women in America," she explains, pointing out how systemic racism in medical care means Black women are 3 to 4 times more likely than white women to die during or right after pregnancy than white mothers in the United States.
That's why Smith originally wanted a home birth, a decision that was reinforced by the pandemic.
"We never imagined that in the coming weeks, hospitals around the country would begin restricting who could be present in the birthing rooms, forcing mothers to deliver without the support person or people of their choice," she said. "Delivering at home ensured that I had what every single woman deserves to have: full agency in deterring my birth support."
Delivering a child into the world is so hard, especially in 2020.
"Sometimes I wonder how I will explain to my daughter what it meant to be born in the year 2020," says Smith. "The historic events, the social unrest, and me—a new mother just trying to do her best. I think I will tell her that it was as if the world had paused for her to be born. And that, hopefully, it never quite returned to the way it was before."
Smith recalls how, on the third day of her labor, she shared a quiet moment with her husband that gave her strength.
"I was fatigued and beginning to lose my resolve. Josh ran me a bath, and as I lay in it contracting, I talked to my body and I talked to my daughter. In that moment, he snapped a picture of me. An honest moment of family and togetherness—a husband supporting a wife, our baby still inside me, the sacred process of creating a family."
Amy Schumer on why she might be done having kids: 'I can't be pregnant ever again'
Amy Schumer's first pregnancy was famously hard, and that's why it might be her only pregnancy.
As People reports, on this week's episode of Sunday Today with Willie Geist, Schumer explains why, after suffering through hyperemesis gravidarum (a rare but very serious form of extreme morning sickness) during her pregnancy with son Gene she's not going to be pregnant a second time.
"I decided that I can't be pregnant ever again," she says. "We thought about a surrogate, but I think we're going to hold off for right now."
Schumer tried IVF in the hopes of giving Gene a sibling but that, too, has proved to be really difficult.
"We did IVF and IVF was really tough on me," she says. "I don't think I could ever do IVF again."
Having one child has been so awesome, Schumer's not in a rush to have more right now. She calls Gene "the best thing in my life."
Jamie Otis: Postpartum checkup revealed 'I have HPV'
Married at First Sight star Jamie Otis is opening up about her recent HPV diagnosis. During her most recent pregnancy, the mom of two had an abnormal Pap test in her first trimester.
During a postpartum checkup, Otis had a biopsy and will likely be receiving the loop electrosurgical excision procedure (LEEP) to treat her HPV.
According to the Mayo Clinic, "most HPV infections don't lead to cancer. But some types of genital HPV can cause cancer of the lower part of the uterus that connects to the vagina (cervix)."
That's why Otis is so thankful that her doctors were on top of this and that her HPV was caught early and she wants other moms to take care of themselves, too.
"Don't let life get too 'busy' to get your check ups," she says, adding that while she'll likely be fine she really only ended up getting a Pap test because she got pregnant. Had that not happened she would have no idea about her HPV.
Jenna Dewan: Breastfeeding 5-month-old can 'be really challenging'
Even if you've breastfed a baby before, nursing your new newborn can come with its own challenges.
That was the case for Jenna Dewan, who noted in a recent Instagram post how breastfeeding her 5-month-old son is "incredible and it can also be really challenging."
It's been different than it was with 7-year-old Everly, Dewan says.
She continues: "At least it was for me the second time around. From latching issues, to my son loving one side vs. another, making more milk, when to pump... EVERYTHING was different and I found myself asking a lot of questions."
Dewan says she used the Peanut app to get advice on breastfeeding. (If you need some help here are the top 50 breastfeeding tips, according to lactation experts).
Ali Fedotowsky-Manno: I didn't feel 'I deserved any sort of support after' miscarriage
Bachelorette-turned-blogger Fedotowsky-Manno knows this all too well. In July she revealed she'd had a miscarriage and in a recent interview with People she explained that she wasn't sure at first how or when to share that news.
"I think a lot of the reasons women don't share about miscarriages is because there is shame involved," she explains. "I always thought the shame was because your body couldn't carry a baby in that moment...But for me, where the shame came was not feeling that I deserved any sort of support after—feeling that what I went through wasn't the same as someone who goes through it when they'd been trying for years or they were 20 weeks pregnant."
She continues: "I have two beautiful children. So my experience didn't begin to compare to those, so I felt shame in being supported."
But pain isn't something we need to compare or measure. It is possible to honor and hold space for a friend who suffered a stillbirth and still honor and seek support for your own grief over an early pregnancy loss.
Miscarriage is painful. No matter when it happens. No matter how many children you already have or how many miscarriages you've already had. We need to talk about pregnancy loss so that we can find community and support and, importantly, reduce the shame.
Thank you, Ali, for speaking your truth!
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