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After a combined 47 seasons of the not-so-guilty pleasure reality show we were bound to see bachelors and bachelorettes go from paradise to parenthood. More and more Bachelor alumni are not only staying together, but they're making babies and creating the next generation of Bachelor Nation!

Here are five of our favorite past contestants and their intense and interesting birth stories:

1. Jade + Tanner

Jade Roper, (of Chris Soules' season) did not take home the final rose, getting eliminated in week eight. She eventually found love on the 2nd season of the crazy summer spinoff Bachelor in Paradise with Tanner Tolbert (of Kaitlyn's season). They got married on TV the following summer and became first-time parents to baby girl Emerson in August 2017. This road to happiness, however, wasn't as easy as it looked on television.

Jade and Tanner recently revealed on Instagram via a YouTube video that she got pregnant during the filming of Bachelor in Paradise, having conceived during an overnight fantasy suite date with Tanner. Jade then shared, "I had a miscarriage. These words have burned inside me for over three years." She added "my journey with my grief has been a rollercoaster, and so I've never even known really where to start with telling others." Grateful for the supportive comments received on social media, Jade said "they've made me feel very loved and have made me feel less alone."

When Emerson (who has her own Instagram (@emmy_tobert) arrived in 2017 she came into the world early, but not quite as quickly as her little brother, who was (accidentally) born in the Tolbet's home this week.

"I accidentally gave birth at home last night, in our master closet," Jade wrote on Instagram. "I've been still processing the shock of this all, as this was not all at what I had planned, but I am so so thankful for each person who helped bring our son into the world safely. I'll share my whole birth story soon, but long story short, my waters broke and 75 minutes later I gave birth to our healthy baby boy while clutching a bench in our closet."

We are so happy that everyone is safe and sound, but the Tolbert's stories prove that parenthood can be just as dramatic as reality TV!

2. Shayne + Nik

Eighties TV heartthrob Lorenzo Lamas' daughter, Shayne Lamas, won season 12 of The Bachelor when British bachelor Matt Grant proposed. The two tried to make it work but split less than a year later. Shayne then met and married Internet personality Nik Richie in 2010 and the couple welcomed daughter Press Dahl Lamas-Richie in 2011.

Following a near-fatal second pregnancy in 2014, it was Shayne's stepmother Shawna Craig who stepped in to be their surrogate.

In 2015, Nik and Shayne welcomed son Lyon Lamas-Richie to the world. Shayne told reporters at the time, "Shawna's not just my stepmother. She's like a soul sister."

3. Carly + Evan

Fan favorites Carly Waddell (of Chris Soules' season) met Evan Bass (of JoJo Fletcher's season) on season 3 of Bachelor in Paradise. When we say these two didn't initially hit it off, we are not exaggerating.

It took Evan faking his own medical emergency during Bachelor in Paradise to get Carly to hop into the ambulance, then eventually straight into Evan's heart.

Since their season wrapped, these two cuties fell head over heels and got married back on the same beach where they met. Carly became a stepmom to Evan's three sons Nathan, Liam, and Ensley, then they had a baby girl Isabella and are now expecting baby number two in November! This blended family truly cannot get any cuter, please keep having babies!

4. Lauren + Arie

Can The Bachelor be a villain? Well, some say "if the rose fits"!

Bachelor Nation watched as race car driver Arie Luyendyk Jr. (of Emily Maynard's season) proposed to Becca Kufrin then publicly dumped poor Becca, then proceeded to propose to runner-up Lauren Burnham during the After The Final Rose episode. But I digress, we are here to talk babies. And yes, Arie and Lauren welcomed a baby girl in May and seem very much in love.

A baby girl named Alessi Ren. Arie recently posted to Instagram a captioned photo of some snuggling saying "Fatherhood is the best. I think my heart just grew two sizes".

The couple is now coming under social fire however as Lauren posted a snap to Instagram June 5 of a lunch date with a friend, leaving one week old Alessi Ren home with grandma. We're still looking for the problem with that and according to People magazine, so is Arie:

"To all the negative comments regarding leaving her with grandma for a 45min lunch, cut her some slack! It was my idea because she has been working so hard to keep up and quite frankly I commend her for 1. Being an incredible mom and getting the breast feeding down enough to make sure she had enough while she was at lunch. (Moms know that breastfeeding can be difficult) and 2. So much of being a good parent is making sure you take care of yourself. She wanted a healthy meal with her sister who is in town. I get so frustrated at the comments because she is such a kind soul and takes these comments to heart. Be kind people!"

Papa is not here for this! Good job Dad.

5. Bekah with a K + Grayston

Bekah Martinez (of Arie's season) was the outspoken contestant with the cutest pixie cut and opinions for days. Fans fell for her honest (sometimes even brash) nature as we watched Bekah defend her young age throughout the whole season. Thirty-six-year-old Bachelor Arie fell hard, but then quickly backed away when he learned Bekah was only 22.

While Bekah didn't get the final rose, she was cast on Bachelor in Paradise but plans abruptly changed when she announced she was expecting her first child with climbing gym owner and new boyfriend Grayston Leonard. In a 2018 Bekah reflected on the moment they found out they were expecting after just a few months of dating. "I was in disbelief and thought, is this really happening?". She then stated "I immediately called Grayston and then went across the street to the Dollar Tree and bought two more pregnancy tests. They of course, were both positive."

Fast forward to February 2019, Bekah and Grayston welcomed 7 lb 10 oz Ruth Ray De La Luz into the world via water birth in Los Angeles. A water birth that was heavily documented and shared via Bekah's Instagram. On June 21, the 8-minute YouTube video of the unmedicated water birth was posted and is garnering quite a bit of media attention.

Bekah makes no apologies for sharing this powerful moment, sharing to Instagram that "Ruth's birth is officially up on YouTube, linked in bio."

Wow. You can't write a better Bachelor ending than that!

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Back when my husband and I were creating our wedding registry, it was a fun, low-pressure opportunity to select some new dishes and linens. After all, I knew a thing or two about stocking my home and making the "wrong decision" with thread count was the only thing that posed any risk to my sleep at night.

Fast-forward a few years to when I created a baby registry before the birth of my first child—and I found the experience to have a much steeper learning curve. Unlike those sheets, it felt like a bad swaddle or bassinet selection would be catastrophic. Unsure of what to expect from motherhood or my baby, I leaned heavily on advice from friends who already ventured into parenthood. (Starting with their reminders to take deep breaths!)

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Now a mom of three little ones under the age of four, I'm happy to be in a position to pass along some baby registry wisdom.

Go shopping with a veteran parent

As first-time parents, my husband and I barely knew the difference between a bouncer and a swing, let alone what specific features we would want. So when a mom friend recommended we head to Walmart to build my registry together—because she found them to carry the trendy brands she loved AND make registering a breeze during her pregnancy—I leapt at the chance.

By walking through the aisles together and actually getting to see the products, I was much more confident in my registry selections. Thanks to that quick, in-store tutorial from my friend, I understood exactly how to match a perfect infant car seat with an extra base and stroller—which is something I would have been clueless about on my own.

Include items at a variety of price points

When it comes down to it, a registry is really a wish list. So, while I had a personal budget for a stroller if it had to come out of my own pocket, this was an opportunity for me to ask for the stroller of my dreams. And, wouldn't you know it? A few family members went in on it together, which made a bigger price tag much more manageable.

At the same time, it's nice to include some of the smaller ticket items that are absolutely essential. I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I was to skip buying my own diapers for those first few weeks. (With super cute patterns, these are also surprisingly fun to give, too!)

Think about the gifts you would like to give

The first time I bought a mom-to-be a gift after my own child was born, I knew immediately what to look for on her registry: a diaper bag backpack, which I had come to have very strong opinions about after battling falling straps with my first diaper bag. This allowed me to feel like I had a personal touch in my gift, even if I brought one pre-selected by her.

I also appreciate it when my friends clearly incorporate their style into their registry choices, like with adorable baby outfits or nursery decor—and there's no sweeter "thank you" than a picture from a friend showing your gift in use.

Ask for things to grow with your child

Even though it's called a baby registry, there's no need to limit yourself to gifts to use before their first birthday. (To this day, I still have people who attended my baby shower to thank for the convertible bed that my oldest child sleeps in!) Knowing that, I would have included more options with long lifespans into my registry—namely, a baby carrier that can be used during the newborn months, baby months and well into the toddler years. A well-designed baby carrier would have saved my back from serious pain because it would have allowed me to comfortably and ergonomically carry my toddler as she made her way into the 25lb+ club. One brand that's designed to grow with your baby and accommodates 7-45 pounds (up to about four years old) and offers both inward and forward-facing positions is Ergobaby. With several different design and style options, you can easily find one that caters to your parenting needs. From an all-in-one carrier, like the Omni 360, that grows with baby from the newborn stages into the toddler years or a newborn-specific carrier, like the Embrace (and don't worry you can later upgrade to a carrier for an older baby, I recommend the 360 Carrier). The best part? All ergonomic designs are supportive and comfortable for both baby and parent, offering extra lumbar support with breathable, lightweight mesh styles. Everyone (even grandparents!) can get a kick out of babywearing, which is a nice and welcomed break for parents. Having one of these on my registry would have certainly made those first few years so much easier.

Motherly is your daily #momlife manual; we are here to help you easily find the best, most beautiful products for your life that actually work. We share what we love—and we may receive a commission if you choose to buy. You've got this.

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