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Kourtney Kardashian shuts down pregnancy rumors: 'this is the shape of my body'
Kourtney Kardashian

It can happen to women who are weeks or months into their recovery from childbirth or recently suffered a pregnancy loss, or even someone who just happened to wear an empire-waist top or drink a lot of water that day.

A colleague, an acquaintance or even a stranger in line at Starbucks asks, "When are you due?" when the only thing you are expecting is a latte. Being misidentified as pregnant hurts, and we don't have to look far to see where people get the idea the commenting on women's bodies is okay. Celebrity baby bump speculation is unfortunately common in the media we consume, and the trickle-down effects impact women who don't live in the public eye and maybe just felt like wearing a billowy shirt.

Luckily, things may be changing, as celebrities are clapping back with anti-pregnancy announcements in an effort to teach the world what should already be common sense: The only appropriate time to comment on a woman's pregnancy is after she's announced it.

That's the message Kourtney Kardashian is trying to send after a fan commented on the below Instagram post, claiming Kourt looked pregnant in one of the pics.


Kardashian defended her body in the comments section, writing: "This is me when I have a few extra pounds on, and I actually love it," wrote the reality star. "I have given birth three amazing times and this is the shape of my body."

This is, of course, not the first time this has happened to a celebrity, and frankly, we're sick of people assuming any change in a woman's body is pregnancy. The assumption is so common that some celebs try to publicly broadcast changes In their weight or shape as a way of preventing pregnancy rumors. It's a tactic actor Anne Hathaway used last year when she just straight up told her Instagram followers: "I am gaining weight for a movie role and it is going well."

In an interview with Glamour, Hathaway explained that the post was strategic. She wanted people to know that the weight was just weight before someone called it a baby bump.

"I didn't feel like dealing with the pregnancy rumors," she told the magazine. "I find it bizarre that there's a storm to get ahead of, but I have a history of being shamed and humiliated, for a lot of different reasons."

Shame is something that came up in Riverdale star Lili Reinhart's response to pregnancy rumors too, as in shame on anyone who judges a woman's body.

"It's unfortunate that one unflattering photo of my stomach circulating the internet causes hundreds of people to think that I'm pregnant," she wrote in an Instagram Story.

"Nope. Not pregnant. This is just my body. And sometimes I'm bloated. Sometimes an unflattering photo is taken of me. Sometimes I go through periods of time where I gain weight. My body is something that I will NEVER apologize for. My body will constantly go through change. And so will yours. And that's fine. So let's not put so much time and effort into caring about a stranger's figure."

If Hathaway and Reinhart ever do decide to become moms, how and when they make that announcement is totally up to them, and until then, they (and Kardashian) are reminding the world that it's not okay to judge a woman's body.

Bumps can be fabric. They can be food. They can be camera angles. They can be a woman's body recovering from a previous pregnancy. They can just be bumps without a baby because human bodies are bumpy. What they shouldn't be, is speculated about.

Our bodies carry us through life, and yes, sometimes they carry babies, too, but they should not have to carry the burden of anyone else's judgment. The best way to teach people to stop judging women is to stop playing the baby bump guessing game.

The only time it is appropriate to comment on someone's baby bump is after they've made a pregnancy announcement. If society can adopt that one simple rule, celebrities won't have to make not-pregnant announcements, and the rest of us won't have to live with the harmful consequences of bump spotting.

[A version of this post was originally published May 31, 2018. It has been updated.]

A very important letter for new mamas

Listen, mom-guilt is a dirty liar. Yes, it's your job to fill your little human's needs, but you matter too. Don't forget to take care of yourself. Hang out with friends, take a drive blaring 90's hip hop or shower without interruptions—trust me, you'll be a better person (and mom) because of it.

Dear new mom,

You will shave again someday. Today is not that day.

Set expectations low, my friend, and set your partner's lower—at least where body hair and overall hygiene are concerned.

That conversation could go something like this: “From now on let's not consider shaving a “standard," but more like a gift that happens on birthdays and the first day of summer."

Voila, you are a gift-giving genius. You know what else is a gift? Shaving the inch and a half of skin that is between your skinny jeans and your boots. You're welcome world.

You will not be perfect at parenting.

Boom.

I have yet to meet a perfect mother, but when I do, she's going to be a tiger who is insanely good at making up songs. (Daniel Tiger's mom, we salute you.)

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Motherly editors’ 7 favorite hacks for organizing their diaper bags

Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on www.comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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It's science: Why your baby stops crying when you stand up

A fascinating study explains why.

When your baby is crying, it feels nearly instinctual to stand up to rock, sway and soothe them. That's because standing up to calm babies is instinctual—driven by centuries of positive feedback from calmed babies, researchers have found.

"Infants under 6 months of age carried by a walking mother immediately stopped voluntary movement and crying and exhibited a rapid heart rate decrease, compared with holding by a sitting mother," say authors of a 2013 study published in Current Biology.

Even more striking: This coordinated set of actions—the mother standing and the baby calming—is observed in other mammal species, too. Using pharmacologic and genetic interventions with mice, the authors say, "We identified strikingly similar responses in mouse pups as defined by immobility and diminished ultrasonic vocalizations and heart rate."

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