Why Kate Middleton wears the same thing over and over again (and you should, too)

How narrowing down your #momstyle staples can make life easier for mamas.

Why Kate Middleton wears the same thing over and over again (and you should, too)

Mamas carry a pretty intense mental load, and sometimes, we just don't have the brain bandwidth to think about picking a cute outfit for ourselves after dealing with everything else we've conquered before breakfast. But having a closet stocked with your own personal #momstyle staples can help take one decision off your plate every day while also saving you from perpetual sweatpants.

Just check out the former Kate Middleton. The mom of three is lauded worldwide as a style icon, but if you look closely you'll see that Kate's not actually spending a ton of time and energy on picking outfits.

Yes, the Duchess is totally the queen of wearing the same things over and over, but she proves that when you wear things well, no one cares that you've worn it before.

Stripes and skinnies

Let's start with Kate's basic mom uniform. Her go-to casual look is timeless on top, trendy on bottom. Skinny jeans and a striped, long-sleeved tee (aka a Breton top if you're British) are what Kate reaches for before pretty much any casual outing.

Whether she's heading to a polo match, just hanging with the kids, or grocery shopping (yes, amazingly Kate is still spotted grocery shopping every once in a while), this is what she wears. As fashion blog What Would Kate Do has pointed out, Kate has A LOT of these tops.

Lesson: If you like something, and you know you look great in it, don't be afraid to make it a staple. It's one less thing to think about in the morning and you'll never have to worry about your favorite striped shirt being in the wash.

Put your best looks on repeat

The Duchess loves a good coat dress, and while it's not a look most of us would rock on the regular, we can learn a lesson from Kate's coats that is applicable to any article of clothing: Buy multiples in several colors when you know something works.

When Kate showed up at Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's recent wedding in a light colored Alexander McQueen coat dress royal watchers were initially convinced she was wearing the exact same dress she'd worn on a couple other occasions, but it turned out to be a slightly different version in a warmer color.

As What Kate Wore pointed out, Kate is known for buying dresses in more than one similar shade.

Lesson: If something fits great and makes you feel good, save yourself time in the fitting room and grab a couple colors.

Classic looks that don't expire

Following fashion trends can be fun, but when you're busy raising kids it can sometimes be hard to stay on top of every trend. If you've been reading The Very Hungry Caterpillar more often than Vogue, you might not know (or care) what's hot this season.

That's why every mom needs to have one classic, dressy stand-by she can turn to any time.

One of Kate's wardrobe staples is a red suit that she A) looks amazing in, and B) will probably never go out of style. The Duchess will probably still be reaching for this when Prince Louis is driving. It's timeless.

Find your own mom uniform

The Duchess of Cambridge proves you don't have to go full Steve Jobs to reap the benefits of adopting a personal uniform. The Apple founder famously wore the same black turtleneck day after day to combat decision fatigue, but Kate (like most of us) likes a bit more variety and has built a signature look around the staples she know she looks good in.

Such a wardrobe strategy may not work for moms who love styling different looks, but if looking at your closet is more overwhelming than inspiring, you might want to follow Kate's lead.

Some days, we just don't have time for one more decision and on those days, it's nice to have another striped top waiting for you.

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So in my defense, I grew up in Florida. As a child of the sunshine state, I knew I had to check for gators before sitting on the toilet, that cockroaches didn't just scurry, they actually flew, and at that point, the most popular and only sound machine I had ever heard of was the Miami Sound Machine.

I was raised on the notion that the rhythm was going to get me, not lull me into a peaceful slumber. Who knew?!

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When my son was born, I just assumed the kid would know how to sleep. When I'm tired that's what I do, so why wouldn't this smaller more easily exhausted version of me not work the same way? Well, the simple and cinematic answer is, he is not in Kansas anymore.

Being in utero is like being in a warm, soothing and squishy spa. It's cozy, it's secure, it comes with its own soundtrack. Then one day the spa is gone. The space is bigger, brighter and the constant stream of music has come to an abrupt end. Your baby just needs a little time to acclimate and a little assist from continuous sound support.

My son, like most babies, was a restless and active sleeper. It didn't take much to jolt him from a sound sleep to crying like a banshee. I once microwaved a piece of pizza, and you would have thought I let 50 Rockettes into his room to perform a kick line.

I was literally walking on eggshells, tiptoeing around the house, watching the television with the closed caption on.

Like adults, babies have an internal clock. Unlike adults, babies haven't harnessed the ability to hit the snooze button on that internal clock. Lucky for babies they have a great Mama to hit the snooze button for them.

Enter the beloved by all—sound machines.

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Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.

And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

I Am Enough bracelet 

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May this Oath Bracelet be your reminder that you are perfect just the way you are. That you are enough for your children, you are enough for your friends & family, you are enough for everything that you do. You are enough, mama <3


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