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Melissa Rauch had to give birth while Facetiming her husband

The Big Bang Theory star shares her pandemic birth story.

Melissa Rauch had to give birth alone because of COVID-19

The coronavirus pandemic changed the birth plans of so many pregnant mamas, including Big Bang Theory star Melissa Rauch, who is opening up about the birth of her second child in a piece for Glamour.

Like so many people who are pregnant right now (or "pandemamamas" as Rauch likes to call the cohort), Rauch never thought she would be giving birth in the middle of an international health crisis, but that is how her son, Brooks Rauch, came into the world. Her experience proves that it isn't just hospital policies that force people to give birth without their partners, but also how social distancing dismantles families' support structures.

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Rauch writes: "Although the hospital I was delivering at did allow birth partners, my husband had to stay home with our daughter since our original plan of having family come to town—as well as our backup plans—were no longer options due to COVID-19."

She welcomed her son into the world alone and says the experience made her realize something about giving birth.

"It is never going to take a backseat to anything," Rauch writes. "No matter what is going down, when one human is coming out of another human it becomes the main focus—there's no other choice. No pandemic, or fear of being alone, or anger over not having a partner there ... gets airtime. I had a job to do. The nurses, the doctor, and my husband (who joined on FaceTime to see the birth of our son) ultimately made me feel safe and protected."

Check out Rauch's full birth story on Glamour.

I felt lost as a new mother, but babywearing helped me find myself again

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My first baby and I were alone in our Brooklyn apartment during a particularly cold spring with yet another day of no plans. My husband was back at work after a mere three weeks of parental leave (what a joke!) and all my friends were busy with their childless lives—which kept them too busy to stop by or check in (making me, at times, feel jealous).

It was another day in which I would wait for baby to fall asleep for nap number one so I could shower and get ready to attempt to get out of the house together to do something, anything really, so I wouldn't feel the walls of the apartment close in on me by the time the second nap rolled around. I would pack all the diapers and toys and pacifiers and pump and bottles into a ginormous stroller that was already too heavy to push without a baby in it .

Then I would spend so much time figuring out where we could go with said stroller, because I wanted to avoid places with steps or narrow doors (I couldn't lift the stroller by myself and I was too embarrassed to ask strangers for help—also hi, New Yorkers, please help new moms when you see them huffing and puffing up the subway stairs, okay?). Then I would obsess about the weather, was it too cold to bring the baby out? And by the time I thought I had our adventure planned, the baby would wake up, I would still be in my PJs and it was time to pump yet again.

Slowly, but surely, and mostly thanks to sleep deprivation and isolation, I began to detest this whole new mom life. I've always been a social butterfly. I moved to New York because I craved that non-stop energy the city has and in the years before having my baby I amassed new friends I made through my daily adventures. I would never stop. I would walk everywhere just to take in the scenery and was always on the move.

Now I had this ball and chain attached to me, I thought, that didn't even allow me to make it out of the door to walk the dog. This sucks, I would think regularly, followed by maybe I'm not meant to be a mom after all.


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