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Sophie Turner's pregnancy—and the choices she makes—are not ours to judge

The mom-to-be was photographed out in L.A holding a bottle of coke and the Internet is freaking out.

Sophie Turner's pregnancy—and the choices she makes—are not ours to judge
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Sophie Turner grew up in the spotlight and has previously said that it was really hard to be a famous teen in the age of social media. So it makes sense that in adulthood, Turner uses social media on her terms and, dispute being a public figure, has chosen to keep major milestones like her wedding to Joe Jonas and her pregnancy private.

The world learned of Turner's pregnancy back in February not through a public pregnancy announcement but though media reports and in the months since, Turner's kept her pregnancy off social media and been (like most of us in the age of COVID-19) keeping a low profile.

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But this week Turner and Jonas were photographed while out in L.A. and the internet went wild for the images, which show Turner rocking a pair of pregnancy leggings and a face mask while carrying a bottle of Coke.

She looks absolutely stylish (and still comfy) in a crop top and oversized Givenchy blazer, and while some commenters were quick to point out how awesome and confident she looks, others tore her down because it looks like she's drinking soda.

Seriously, people were judging a pregnant mother because she was seen holding a soda and that's not okay.



It is not cool to judge what a pregnant person eats or drinks—and let's be real—one of those little bottles of Coke only has like 34mg of caffeine, which is considered low and way beneath the recommended maximum caffeine intake for pregnant people which is 300mg per day (about 2 8-ounce drip coffees).

Another thing people are criticizing online is Turner's decision not to document her pregnancy on social media (or even confirm it to traditional media). "My question is why they haven't announced it .... like why be embarrassed by it or like why not acknowledge the baby?" one Instagram commenter wrote.

The answer to that is simple: She doesn't want to.

Turner has lived in the spotlight since she was a child and wants to keep her pregnancy private, as is her right. It makes sense for her, and that's all that matters.

"Having your adolescence being displayed in public, that's something I really wish hadn't happened," she told the Sunday Times last year. "Being in the age of social media when that's happening, I think I would be a much saner person if I hadn't been documented from 13—your most awkward, uncomfortable, unsure-of-yourself years."

Lastly, people have been critical of Turner even going out at all during the pandemic and this isn't the first time Turner's faced that criticism. On June 6 she posted photos and video of herself at a Black Lives Matter protest and some commenters expressed concern about the risk of COVID-19. The thing is, though, Turner is pregnant but she's also an adult. That means she gets to weigh risks herself and make the decisions that are best for her.

Every pregnant woman deserves to have her decisions respected. This is her pregnancy, and it's no one else's to judge. Even if fans feel like they know Turner because they watched her grow up on TV or follow her on social media, they don't have the right to shame her for her choices as a pregnant person.

This happens to pregnant people all the time, even when they are not famous and it's not okay. If a pregnant woman wants to drink a coke or go to a protest that's her business and no one else's.

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