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Millions have listened to the tens of thousands of people who have taken the stage to deliver a TED or TEDx talk. But once in a while, a person delivers a talk that changes our culture. Brené Brown did it in 2010, and Motherly's Diana Spalding is doing it in 2020.

Diana is a mother, a nurse, a midwife and the founder of Gathered Birth. She is Motherly's Digital Education Editor and wrote the upcoming book, The Motherly Guide to Becoming Mama (April 2020).

She is a force and a voice that needs to be heard. In 2020, the #yearofthemother, people are hearing her.

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Her talk, "What if we nurtured moms?" asks the question that America needs to be asking itself—this is TEDx talk the nation needs to see.

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As a midwife Diana has often marveled at the power inherent in a woman who has just given birth, but in her talk she asks, "At what point does the woman who did this, become unimportant?"

She continues: "Somewhere along the way we stop taking care of mothers. As you'll see, the consequences are dire. But that also means that when we fix it, the impact will be profound."

Diana points out that according to Motherly's second annual State of Motherhood survey "85% of mothers believe that our society does not do a good job of supporting them."

Eighty-five percent is most mothers. Most of the mothers in America feel unsupported, and it's no wonder why.

The maternal mortality rate in the U.S. is rising and black women are 3 to 4 times more likely to die from pregnancy, birth, and postpartum complications. There is no national paid parental leave program, meaning some mothers are going back to work while they are still bleeding from birth.

Mothers are under intense pressure and it is burning us out. America's mothers are exhausted and it is hurting families, children and the economy.

We need America to hear Diana's words and address the cultural expectations that contribute to mental stress—because when moms are hurting society as a whole is hurt.

As Diana said on the TEDx stage: "Cultural change is overwhelming, and daunting, and seemingly impossible… kind of like birth, right? But that doesn't mean we don't do it. We take it little by little, one contraction at a time."

This is hard, but we can do it. We have a midwife coaching us through the process of birthing a new normal.



Happy half-birthday! Can you believe it was only six months ago that your baby's schedule consisted of just sleeping and eating? Now, your happy buddy is probably working on a whole new repertoire of skills.

Although the cake will have to wait, this milestone can be celebrated with your baby's first bites of solid food. Just be sure to keep the camera ready as your little one gets more mashed avocado on their face than in their mouth.

Now that they're ready to sit in a high chair, it's time to envision all of the family meals to come. This makes right now a great time to start thinking about the dinner rituals you hope to create… and upgrade your dining space to match those dreams.

As you round the corner on your little one's first year, here's what we suggest adding to the shopping list:

Never fear the messy bites: Cloud Island bibs

Cloud Island Bibs

It's a pretty successful meal if approximately half of the food ends up in your 6-month-old's mouth. Make sure the other half doesn't end up on their clothes by stocking up on bibs that are easy to wash.

$9.99

Make room at the table: Graco Floor2Table high chair

Graco High Chair

Feeding your baby requires your full attention, so it's generally best to do it before or after your own mealtime. But it's still nice to include your baby at family dinner with their own seat at the table. It won't be long before they ask you to pass the mashed potatoes!

$149.99

For those first bites of “real food”  Beaba training spoons

Beaba

After a lifetime of only drinking from a bottle and/or breast, eating from a utensil has to feel like a major adjustment. Help your baby warm up to this new way of eating with a supply of baby-sized spoons.

$19.00

For mastering the art of baby food prep: Baby Brezza food processor

Baby Brezza

Good news: There are no advanced culinary skills required to make baby food. By steaming and pureeing their first meals, you can take charge of what foods and flavors you introduce.

$99.99

For last-minute mealtime: Happy Baby pouches

Happy Baby

Let's be honest: It can feel miraculous to get one meal on the table, let alone two separate ones. When you want or need a simpler option, it's nice to have a stockpile of convenient, healthy baby food pouches.

$6.49

For the splatter zone: Bumpkins splat mat

Bumpkins splat mat

As your baby begins eating, prepare to be amazed by all of the places you'll find traces of pureed sweet potatoes. This makes it a perfect time to swap out your dining room rug for an easy-to-clean option.

$19.39

For easy family meals: Instant Pot Duo Nova

Instant pot

When there are only so many hours in the day, the less time you can spend cooking and cleaning up afterward the better. There's a reason this is called an 'instant' pot—it'll free up so much precious time for you to spend with your family.

$119.99

For greenery without the commitment: Project 62 artificial plant

Project 62

We love including greenery in our home decor, but when you're busy enough keeping the people in your house alive, the last thing you need is a houseplant to water. Thankfully, today's faux plant options look so convincing that no one will know the difference.

$7.99

For counting all those steps: Fitbit Inspire activity tracker

Fit bit

Between walking and lifting that growing babe, you've been exercising this whole time without even realizing it, mama! Give yourself a boost of confidence by realizing how much movement you clock on a daily basis.

$99.95

For nighttime reading: Threshold table lamp 

threshold lamp

After months of tip-toeing around your own bedroom so you don't wake a sleeping baby, it's slightly thrilling to reclaim the space as your baby transitions to their own bedroom. This is a perfect time to start a new bedtime reading routine—complete with a stylish bedside lamp.

$44.99

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Our society is conditioned to believe that we have to be strict and stern with our kids, or threaten, shame or punish them into behaving. This authoritarian style of parenting is characterized by high expectations and low responsiveness—a tough love approach.

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