What went viral this week: A trans father's birth pictures + why one famous Republican is voting Biden

Sometimes stories go viral because they make us smile, and sometimes they go viral because they make us think.

This week, a lot of the stories trending online have mamas talking about topics that are top of mind as Americans head to the polls.

From a dad giving birth to a Kamala Harris costume, these are the stories mamas are talking about this week:


These photos from a trans father’s home birth are stunning 😍

The moment a new baby enters the world changes everything for the adults and siblings who have spent nine months waiting to meet their little one. It's a beautiful, emotional moment that many families are choosing to document with birth photography.

During his fourth pregnancy, one transgender father decided to hire a photographer to capture the home birth of his son, Tig. Yuval Topper-Erez intended the keep the photos private, as a beautiful memento of the moment Tig joined their family, but recently decided to share that moment with the world.

"When I saw the photos I suddenly got the sense that they need to be out there, as they represent so well two causes very close to my heart: normalization of home birth and normalization of trans and non binary people giving birth," wrote Topper-Erez, in a touching Facebook post.

Tig was born in May 2019 in northern England after a "very rapid and intense labor." Two midwives, including Topper-Erez's partner, and the birth photographer were on hand for the experience.

"I hope, among other things, that this album will inspire birth workers and future seahorse dads (AKA gestational fathers,)" wrote Topper-Erez. "I know how meaningful images like this could have been for me before my first pregnancy and how meaningful it is for me to see images of fellow birthing trans and non binary people to this day."

Tig has two older siblings who slept through his home birth. "Our two older children were invited to join us for the birth but chose not to wake up and came to meet the new baby shortly after the birth was over," wrote Topper-Erez.

"I love when inspirational people share their births with the world and hoped that I could be that person for others," Topper-Erez told Romper. "Specifically, other trans people who have often been told that they could not be parents. I also was hoping my photos would start conversations among birth workers about the variety of birthing people and bodies."

Every family's birth experience is different. Whether it's at home or in a hospital, medicated or not, a simple or a complicated delivery—it's worth remembering that there's no one "right" way for a child to enter the world.

Why Pete Buttigieg's 'late-term abortion' comments are going viral

Pete Buttigieg is no longer on the campaign trail, but he is all over social media this week because checkmark users like Busy Phillips are sharing the way he shut down some misinformation about abortion.

Way back in May 2019, when Buttigieg was a running for the Democratic presidential nomination, he was asked during a Fox News town hall hosted by by Chris Wallace whether there should be a limit on a pregnant person's ability to access abortion.

Buttigieg's response was incredibly thoughtful and reflected the painful experiences of a small percentage of mothers who seek abortions later in pregnancy. "I think the dialogue has gotten so caught up on where you draw the line that we've gotten away from the fundamental question of who gets to draw the line and I trust women to draw the line when it's their own health," Buttigieg responded.

"Let's put ourselves in the shoes of a woman in that situation," Buttigieg said. "If it's that late in your pregnancy, then almost by definition, you've been expecting to carry it to term...[Families then] get the most devastating medical news of their lifetime, something about the health or the life of the mother or viability of the pregnancy that forces them to make an impossible, unthinkable choice."

According to Buttigieg, "The bottom line is, as horrible as that choice is...that decision is not going to be made any better, medically or morally, because the government is dictating how that decision should be made."

According to the CDC, 91% of abortions in America happen at or before 13 weeks gestation, and only 1.3% of abortions happen at or beyond 21 weeks of gestation. Abortion is a divisive topic, but it is one that America is talking about right now and we can't ignore the facts during the discussion.

That's why Buttigieg's comments have resurfaced and are going viral. This is a topic where nuance and continued discussion is important.

This 11-year-old dressed up like Kamala Harris + the internet loves it

When kids see people who look like them in positions of power they are able to imagine themselves in that spot, and 11-year-old Celeste Harley is proving it.

A video of the tween dressed up as vice-presidential candidate Kamala Harris is going viral. In the clip her mom tweeted, Celeste says: "When I become vice president, I want to help all the American people. I want to deliver health care for all, equality and justice under the law."

"I had to laugh," Celeste's mom, Erinn Harley, told ABC News. "Because I thought, 'Wow, she really has been studying Kamala Harris very closely, she even had that wave.'"

Harris is the first Black woman and the first woman of South Asian descent to be on a presidential campaign ticket. Whether or not you plan to vote for her, her presence in this election season matters a lot. Kids like Celeste prove it.

[Editor's note: Motherly is committed to covering all relevant presidential candidate plans as we approach the 2020 election. We are making efforts to get information from all candidates. Motherly does not endorse any political party or candidate. We stand with and for mothers and advocate for solutions that will reduce maternal stress and benefit women, families and the country.]

Pink's husband Carey Hart posts photos of daughter's gun lesson, explains why he's a Republican but voting for Biden 

Pink's husband Carey Hart has always been pretty open about his love of fire arms and how he's teaching the couple's kids, 9-year-old Willow and 3-year-old Jameson about responsible gun ownership.

Recently Hart posted a series of photos to his Instagram showing daughter Willow's gun lesson. In his caption he explained that he is "a firm believer in teaching [his] kids to shoot, but more importantly, handle a fire arm."

Hart's comment section and Twitter replies were full of hot takes, but none attracted more attention than his own. When a Twitter user said they were confused as to why Hart would "would support the democrats who have stated they will take our guns Unless only the rich will be allowed the privilage [sic]," Hart explained his political views.

"1st they don't want to take your guns, and why has none of the 44 before been able to take them??" Hart responded. "Second I'm a republican who hates Trump, so I have no choice."

Hart's parenting has always attracted attention online. Hopefully this latest controversy will get people to the polls (no matter who they plan to vote for).

[Editor's note: Motherly is committed to covering all relevant presidential candidate plans as we approach the 2020 election. We are making efforts to get information from all candidates. Motherly does not endorse any political party or candidate. We stand with and for mothers and advocate for solutions that will reduce maternal stress and benefit women, families and the country.]

Why this mom wants parents to stop saying 'our kids have lost so much' during the pandemic 

Mom and nurse Jesse Brunette is going viral this week after posting a Facebook message on Monday stating that she is over the phrase "our kids have already lost so much" being used in conversations about the pandemic.

As of this writing the post has more than 45,000 likes and thousands of comments. Brunette suggests parents need to frame the pandemic not as a loss, but as an opportunity for families.

She writes: "Using a current issue as an example, are kids really going to 'suffer' of they don't trick or treat? No. Only if WE (the adults) model a 'loss' mindset. What if, instead, families looked at it as a way to plan a really fun evening? Maybe doing a family art project, bobbing for apples in mixing bowls, packaging up sweet treats to door drop for neighbors, creating a spooky themed meal together."

Brunette's mindset shift may work for some families, especially those who are privileged enough to have not lost a friend or family member to COVID-19, and whose social lives and incomes have not been lost. It's hard to feel like you're learning or like the pandemic is an opportunity for growth when you're in that situation.

If you feel like this is a moment of loss for you, mama, that's okay. It's okay to feel that way.

If you feel like this is an opportunity to lean into a growth mindset, that's okay, too.

We're all experiencing this pandemic differently, and Brunette's viral post is a reminder of that.

The viral tantrum-ending trick parents are raving about: Popsicle showers

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Parents of the internet are going wild this week for a new life hack that some say is practically guaranteed to tame a toddler tantrum.

Have you heard of popsicle showers, mama? 'Cause parents are swearing by them.

As first reported by CafeMom, the hack is simple: If your kiddo is feeling some big things, give them a popsicle and guide them to the bathroom for a tub or shower. Once they're in the warm water, holding onto a cool treat, they calm down.

The hack first went viral on Reddit, where one parent recently posted to r/Parenting, thanking the original poster for introducing the hack.

The post reads: "Parent of a 3 year 3 month old boy. Saw someone on here a few weeks ago post a thank you for an advice they saw awhile ago about putting their child into the bath/shower with a popsicle when they could not calm them down.

Thank you.

My son was having a horrible uncontrollable meltdown. He was yelling, throwing stuff, crying, running in and out the house, running in his room to cry..which turned into a scream. The wife tried to rock him and he was not having it. 30 mins go by and I remember this advice so I ran a warm bubble bath, grabbed a sugar free popsicle (that was all we had) and invited him into the bathtub with a popsicle as a lure. He cried as he took his [clothes] off and as soon as his toe touched the water, while holding his popsicle he stopped...

He sat in the tub eating his popsicle quietly.. and when he was done he was smiling and playing in the tub and still is as I write this. So again. Thank you."

So the next time you have trouble with a tantrum remember this recipe: Cool treat + warm water = calm kiddo.


Jamie Orsini is an Emmy Award-winning journalist, military spouse, and a mom to two busy toddlers. In her spare time, Jamie volunteers with the Solar System Ambassador program with NASA/JPL and reads anything she can get her hands on. She’s currently working on her first novel.