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101 Things You Don’t Need to Sacrifice When You Have Kids

Having kids doesn’t put your personal journey on hold. It makes it more intentional.


Here are 101 things you don’t have to give up just because you became a parent.There are so many more things to add. What do you keep on your list?

  1 | Amazing coffee. 

Or coffee time.

 2 | Sex. 

Parenting doesn’t mean giving up spontaneity or intimacy. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Check out Everything You Wanted to Know about Sex and Parenthood.

 3 | Slang. 

 4 | Jeans that don’t make your butt look ugly. 

Denim interventions for moms and dads everywhere.

 5 | Sleep. 

I fully admit to lying on the bathroom tile weeping in the middle of the day when my daughter was five-weeks-old and had woken me up round the clock every 90 minutes to poop or nurse.

But this is a temporary situation. Thanks to Dr. Weissbluth’s Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, I’ve managed to parent and sleep well most of the time since my daughter was an infant. If there’s one book you must read before giving birth, this is it. Too late? Read the science-backed Ultimate Guide for Parents Who Desperately Need Sleep for other quick tips.

 6 | Sleeping in. 

No, you’re not going to sleep in every day. But you CAN sleep in at least once or twice a week. Our daughter has learned to dress, get her breakfast, and entertain herself weekend mornings since she was three-years-old thanks to Parenting on Track.

 7 | Sarcasm. 

 8 | Listening to good music. 

You don’t have to sacrifice listening to your favorite bands when you have kids. Toss out the KidzBop and ROCKABYE BABY! Do you want to raise kids with good or shitty taste in music? Go ahead and throw on your David Bowie or Neil Young album, anything but singing chipmunks.

 9 | Counseling. 

If you need it, make the time for it. Angela Arsenault explains why Couples Therapy Will Make You Better Parents.

 10 | Sexy high heels. 

My five-foot self stands by this.

 11 | Self-care. 

You’re not doing yourself, your relationship or your kids any favors if you don’t take care of yourself too.

 12 | A great car. 

You don’t need a minivan. You don’t. Here are nine family cars for moms and dads who still love driving.

 13 | Friendships with people who don’t have kids. 

 14 | Listening to rap music or hip-hop in the car.  

Okay, so maybe you’re not going to blast any NWA or 2 Live Crew song without screening. But it’s totally doable. Start with curated hip hop songs for kidsRap Clean Enough for Kids: Top 10 Kid-friendly Artists and Albums, or Clean Hip-Hop Music by Common Sense Media.

 15 | Ordering and eating wings like a fool. 

 16 | Camping. 

Glamping makes it easier than ever for parents to camp with their kids. Take some advice from Why I Unapologetically Love Car Camping.

 17 | Spontaneity. 

Routines work for kids, but that doesn’t mean you can’t mix it up every once in awhile. Launch an unexpected indoor snowball fight with all the rolls of toilet paper stocked in the hall closet on your family. Serve ice cream for dinner on a warm summer night. Surprise your partner with a babysitter and a date, tickets to a show, or a mini-getaway. Changing it up makes for lifelong memories.

 18 | Naps. 

 19 | Alone time.  

 20 | Dating as a single parent. 

Apps and online dating make it easier than ever for single parents to prioritize and date in a way that works for them and their kids. I was able to remain the center of my daughter’s world and date for four years as a single mom. If you’re seeking some advice, dating coach and single mom Laurel House has great tips for moms and Men’s Health provides  ten research-based tips for single dads.

 21 | Being immature sometimes. 

This is why we have kids people. It gives us an excuse.

 22 | Dinner parties. 

Hire one or two babysitters to entertain and feed the kids in one area of the house, while parents enjoy a meal in peace in the other. Every parent pitches in to cover the cost.

 23 | Dancing. 

 24 | Road trips.  

Learn what to pack for food while on the road or why you might want to buy a VW Westfalia and hit the road with your family.

 25 | Flying & Travel. 

Take advantage of those free flights while your kids are ages 0-2. Screw all the dirty looks. Kids are human beings too. Nowadays more airports sport kid spaces for layovers and kid-friendly foods. Here are 50 Ways to Entertain a Kid on an Airplane.

These two parents traveled around the world twice with their young kids. Not saying you have to aim for that, but it’s never been easier to travel – with or without kids.

 26 | Nice furniture. 

Yes, you can. Not only that, but a lot of modern kid furniture is pretty stylish too.

 27 | Eating Healthy.  

My favorite go-to site for healthy recipes is Eating Well. Check out Five Fast Go-to Favorite Recipes, Breakfast Tips for Real-life Weekday Mornings, and The Fail-safe Dinner Solution Your Whole Family Will Love too. Lifehacker curates the five best meal planning apps.

 28 | Skateboarding. 

Do you want to be the parent who sits on the sidelines? Or do you want to be the parent who shreds and has fun too? Read about how skateboarding helps develop a growth mindset in kids and grownups.

 29 | Taking risks. 

If you want your kids to take risks, you need to take them too.

 30 | Pranks. 

I’m not a prankster. My partner is. He’s taught my daughter the art of pranking too. I’m outnumbered. It makes life fun. Here are some April Fool’s Day Pranks to Play on Your Kids and April Fool’s Day Prank for Kids to Play on Grownups.

 31 | Red lipstick. 

 32 | Changing careers. 

I know the fear of changing careers with kids, the fear of losing healthcare and disrupting your family’s life. Don’t get trapped in a job you hate if you have the power to change it. You’ll be a happier, better parent for it. If you don’t settle for less than you deserve, your kids won’t too.

 33 | Lingerie. 

 34 | Reality TV. 

If this is your guilty pleasure, there are some great family-friendly reality shows out there. We watch Master Chef Junior and The Amazing Race with our kid. It IS possible to watch kid-friendly reality TV and learn some valuable lessons at the same time.

 35 | Guys’ Night Out.  

 36 | Girls’ Night Out.  

 37 | Fine Art Museums. 

Kids are no longer isolated in one spot in the museum. These days many museums have spots for families to rest and play in multiple galleries and floors. Here are tips for looking at art with your kids.

 38 | Rock climbing. 

It’s not just for grown-ups. There are many places that cater to kids and families too.

 39 | Being a rock star. 

There’s a reason why there are so many interviews with musicians on Parent Co. Check out interviews on parenting with Guster’s Ryan Miller, punk pioneer Bobby Hackney from A Band Called Death, Bobby Hackney Jr. from Rough Francis, songwriter Laura Veirs, singer-songwriter Shannon Hawley, musician and farmer Chris Dorman, and Kurt Vile. Have I made my point yet?

 40 | Video games. 

 41 | Putting your relationship first. 

The common narrative is put your kids first. Put your relationship first. You will be a stronger team, better parents, and you’ll teach your kids what a healthy relationship looks like. Read more from Psychology Today.

 42 | Feeling sexy. 

 43 | Dinners out. 

I’m talking screen-free meals people! Restaurants without kid menus and nuggests! If you start when your kids are young, they will learn early how to behave and engage with others in a restaurant.

 44 | Concerts. 

Music is a big part of our family’s life. Many cities and towns have outdoor concerts perfect for testing the waters with kids. But don’t forget to feed your adult needs too. We plan an annual kid-free trip to Osheaga in Montreal. It’s three days where we can binge on music and dance like fools like we did in our 20s.

 45 | Skinny dipping. 

 46 | Learning new things. 

There’s nothing I hate more than hearing parents say, “I wish I did _________________when I was younger.” Take a drum or ballet lesson. Learn to surf. It’s not too late. Take a class and meet new people, or take a class online. 

 47 | Creative time. 

Every Sunday morning, we have the option of uninterrupted, creative time as a family. My partner and I model taking creative time with our daughter. It’s fostered a love of creating and making in her as well. Read 9 Ways Busy Parents Can Reignite a Creative Practice and 3 Women Share How Their Creative Work Evolved with Motherhood.

 48 | Living in the city. 

 49 | Snowboarding or skiing. 

Every Saturday for eight weeks, we join ten other families at one of our local resorts. Some of us ski. Some of us ride. Our kids all take lessons. It’s the perfect balance of alone time with your partner, socializing with friends, and taking runs with your kids. It makes winter more bearable. Check out How to Ski with Kids and the Top 5 Ski Resorts for Families.

 50 | Volunteering. 

There’s always time to give back, and there are opportunities to work together as a family too. Volunteermatch.org matches volunteers with organizations if you’re looking for a place to start.

 51 | Junk food. 

 52 | Reading.  

Here’s a suggestion for how to read 50 books per year.

A subscription to the blinkist allows you to get the condensed version of nonfiction books. Start modeling reading with your kids early, and set up a routine for silent reading time. Some families do this after dinner or on a weekend morning.

It’s good for kids to “read” books even when they can’t read words. Boston University Medical Center has great suggestions for reading with kids ages 0-3. Start the habit when kids are young, and you’ll get to binge on your favorite reads too.

 53 | Audiobooks.  

These days you can access hundreds of audiobooks at most local libraries using the OverDrive app. Books not appropriate for little ears can be listened to on wireless headphones while working out, doing yard work or cleaning. Audible is another solid source to find audio books and earn free credits for more.

 54 | Podcasts. 

 

We also use wireless headphones to listen to podcasts with adult content all the time while doing chores or cleaning. Kids can listen to podcasts too. BrainsOn! episodes provide new learning for kids and adults. 99% Invisible will make you see the world from a different perspective, and some episodes are kid-friendly. Some recent ones we’ve listen to with our kid are Inflatable Men, The Color of Money, There is a Light that Never Goes Out, and Edge of Your Seat. Mystery Show is another podcast that’s great for curious kids and grownups. Kotter and Belt Buckle are kid-friendly.

 55 | Alcohol. 

 56 | Exercise. 

Playing with your kids often doubles as healthy exercise. Ellyn Ferriter shares 5 Kid-Friendly Winter Activities that Double as a Workout. Fitness Blender has great free online workouts you can do at home when the time’s convenient for you. I swear by Barre3 workouts online workouts that are $10 a month. Even as a single mom, I invested in a gym membership with a daycare. It was a great way for me to get some alone time and de-stress a few days a week.

Now I commute two hours a day to work at a full-time job, so I often have to get my fitness in when I can. I eat while working at my desk and take a walk in lieu of a sit-down lunch. I workout at home a lot – don’t stay stationary while watching TV much anymore. Even 10-15 minutes a day is better than nothing. Try it.

 57 | Going to the movies. 

 58 | Dyeing your hair. 

It’s not just for rock stars like Gwen Stefani. Pink. Blue. Fire-engine red. Go for it.

 59 | Waxing. 

 60 | Staying up on the news and current events.  

Next Draft from Dave Pell is a great curated news source for busy modern parents. Skimfeed is made for the uber nerd parent. Another spot to grab news is Twitter. You can quickly scroll through headlines on media feeds and click on topics you want to read more about. 

 61 | Keeping up with politics. 

 62 | Social Media. 

It doesn’t have to be a timesuck. Sometimes it’s a timesaver. You can connect and keep up with friends and family faster and access the news and current events efficiently and quickly.

 63 | Tropical vacations. 

 64 | Going topless.  

Isn’t that the point of tropical vacations? Here are the 50 Top (less) Beaches and Pools in the World.

 65 | Getting your nails done. 

 66 | Flirting. 

It’s healthy to flirt with your partner and show affection in front of your kids. If your kids say “ew”, talk about it directly with them. Let them know it’s good you hold hands, hug, snuggle, and kiss. The alternative could mean you’re not getting along or not close. That usually nips their “ew’s” in the bud. Model a healthy relationship.

 67 | Fighting. 

The same is true of arguing. Couples argue. It’s healthy and normal. As long as you know how to disagree in a healthy, respectful way – it’s not going to damage your kids. It’s helpful for kids to see their parents work disagreements out and make up. 9 Ways for Arguing in Front of Your Kids provides science-based advice from experts in the field.

 68 | Comic books. 

Or even make a living off of writing and illustrating graphic novels or comic books. See Parent Co. interviews with James Kochalka , Gene Luen Yang, Jorge Aguirre, and Raphael Rosado.

 69 | Moving. 

 70 | Fashion. 

 71 | Weed. 

A total of 23 states have legalized marijuana use in some form. Alaska, Colorado, Oregon, and Washington allow recreational use of marijuana.

 72 | TV.  

 

Cancel your cable. Stream. It’s all about Apple TV, Netflix, or Hulu.

 73 | Education. 

These days low-residency and online programs make it easier to continue your college or graduate education. You don’t have to give up that dream of earning your M.F.A. in Writing, going to law school, or becoming a teacher. It might take you longer, but it’s doable.

 74 | Dreams. 

 75 | Hiking. 

Throw on a baby carrier, and hike when your kids are infants. Start young. The Wilderness Society also gives 10 Tips to Make Hiking Fun for the Whole Family.

 76 | Becoming an excellent home cook. 

Get Cal Peternell’s new cookbook, “Twelve Recipes.” It’s a smart cookbook written for new cooks, for uncertain cooks, for good cooks looking for simple inspiration.

 77 | Yoga.  

Pregnant? Baby? Toddler? Kids? There may be a yoga class nearby for you. If not, there are plenty online.

 78 | Meditation.  

Free Meditation offers online resources for meditation and mindfulness of all ages.

 79 | Saving money. 

Here are 12 Money-Saving Ideas for New Parents and 11 Ways Allowance Helps Your Kids Understand Money.

 80 | Sleeping in the dark. 

 81 | Stupid YouTube videos. 

There are family-friendly sites out there that curate YouTube and Vimeo videos for you. Try Today Box.

 82 | Comedy and Jokes. 

Clean jokes and comedian exist. Try Brian Regan or Jim Gaffigan. Read this interview about fatherhood with Greg Fitzsimmons.

 83 | Talking about race. 

Don’t avoid talking about race with your kids or answering tough questions. If you don’t talk to your kids about race, you’re sending them the message that it’s not okay to talk about it. If you need guidance, try How White Parents Should Talk to Their Kids About Race or How to Talk About Race with Your Kids

 84 | Talking about sex. 

When your kids start asking you questions about sex, they’re ready to talk about it. Stick to the facts, and use proper terms like penis, vagina, and vulva. Read Preparing to Talk to Your Kids About Sex. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, studies show 78% of teenagers need more information about sexuality and that young people rate their parents as their top resources for learning about sex. 

 85 | Cycling. 

The Center for Cycling Education has compiled a great set of resources on cycling with kids.

 86 | Crying. 

It’s okay for dads and moms to cry in front of their kids sometimes. It makes you human and let’s them know it’s okay for them to cry too. If you’re watching a movie that makes you tear up, go ahead. It shows you’re empathetic and compassionate. It’s normal and healthy to be sad sometimes.

 87 | Enjoying spooky stories. 

Tell spooky age-appropriate stories around the campfire. Demystify the scary. See 25 Halloween Movies Every Kid Should See, Sorted by Age.

 88 | Making mistakes. 

It’s healthy for your kids to see you make mistakes and learn from them. Everyone does. It’s human nature. Own up to your mistakes, make it right, and move forward. You will teach your kids perseverance, humility, and a growth mindset.

 89 | Sporting events.  

I’ve taken my kid to high school soccer, basketball, field hockey, and football games since she was two-years-old. We’ve also taken her to Red Sox games and watch live sports with her on TV sometimes. She loves to learn the rules, follow the scores, and all the pomp and circumstance that goes along with it. It’s a great way to have some meaningful discussions about sportsmanship and endurance too.

 90 | Donating money. 

It’s good for your kids to see you donate money for causes whether they be for charities or politics. Have kids pitch in with their allowance too.

 91 | Getting a tattoo. 

 92 | Playing sports. 

It’s not just about kids playing anymore. Parents play too. Kickball, hockey, baseball, soccer – you name it.

 93 | Talking about death. 

This is an important one. You don’t need to shield your kids from death, and certainly don’t tell your kids a person or pet “moved on”, “passed away”, or was “called home.” Kids can’t think in abstract terms. They need concrete facts. Tell them directly that the person or pet died and will not be living anymore. If you know death is imminent, be honest with them so they have time to say their goodbye’s. Funerals are a part of life, and visits to the cemetery demystify death. I taught over 1,000 kids in my teaching career. Relatives die. Neighbors die. Teachers die. Kids need space to talk about death when it happens. It’s up to parents to provide that support and space. Read Rest in Peace: Saying Goodbye to an Old Semi-beloved Pet and Coping with Death of a Family Dog, and Mama, she’s in your heart now. It’s ok.

 94 | Using proper terms for anatomy. 

Penis. Vagina. Vulva. These are the words you need to be using with your kids. Ditch the winky and hoohaa.

 95 | Playing hooky. 

 96 | Costumes. 

What better way to share the fun of make-believe with your kids than playing dress up with your kids, getting into the Halloween spirit or costume parties? We keep a plastic tub filled with costumes in our daughter’s closet. She loves it.

 97 | Skydiving.   

Only eight in a million skydiving jumps result in a fatality. You have a better chance of dying getting in your car every day. 

 98 | Staying current with technology. 

Parent, meet The Verge. The Verge, help a parent stay current and up-to-date on the latest tech trends.

 99 | Having a clutter-free home. 

Sure, Marie Kondo’s The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up doesn’t talk about what to do with your kid’s artwork, toys, and all that baby gear crap. That’s why we tested it out and broke down ways to declutter with kids. Parental minimalists and neat freaks rejoice!

 100 | Developing a killer app or mobile game. 

Donald Rumsfeld of all people did it at 83. So can you.

 101 | Swearing. 

It can be tricky to express our full range of adult emotions – especially as we navigate the eternal shitshow that is parenting – without incorporating expletives.

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Whether you're filling out your own registry or shopping for a soon-to-be-mama in your life, it can be hard to narrow down what exactly new moms need (versus what will just end up cluttering the nursery). That's why we paired up with the baby gear experts at Pottery Barn Kids to create a registry guide featuring everything from the gear you'll use over and over to the perfect gifts under $50.

Check out the picks below, and happy shopping (and registering)!

MUST-HAVE BABY GEAR

These five gift ideas are designed to make #momlife easier while solving some of the most common parenting dilemmas.

1. Doona All-In-One Infant Car Seat/Stroller

One of the first things you learn when you become a mom? Those infant car seats are heavy. Which is what makes the Doona All-In-One Infant Car Seat/Stroller so genius. It's the world's first completely integrated mobility solution, quickly transforming from safe car seat to functional stroller without any extra parts. Simply pop out the wheels, pull up the handle bar, and you're ready to roll.

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GIFTS THAT CAN BE PERSONALIZED

Even the most utilitarian gift feels a little more special with some personalization. Here are some of our favorite options that can be customized with baby's name or monogram.

1. Nursery Blankets

You'll never forget the blanket you bring your newborn home in. And with Pottery Barn Kids' assortment of blankets, there's a wrap to suit every new mama's style. Choose from fuzzy neutral patterns or stylish printed options, and add baby's name for an extra personal touch.

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GIFTS THAT GROW WITH THEM

Save money and space by gifting items that will last long after baby's first year. These clever gift items will have mama saying "thank you!" for years to come.

1. west elm x pbk Mid-Century Convertible Crib

A convertible crib is an investment in years of sweet dreams. We love this mid-century-style option made from sustainably sourced wood with child-safe, water-based finishes. When your baby outgrows their crib (sniff!), it easily converts into a toddler bed with the matching conversion kit.

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GIFTS UNDER $50

Sometimes the littlest gifts mean the most. Here are our favorite gifts under $50 they'll be sure to cherish.

1. west elm x pbk Dot Muslin Swaddle Set

When you're raising a newborn, you can never have too many swaddles. Perfect for naptime, burp cloths, stroller covers, and spontaneous play mats, a muslin swaddle will always come in handy. And we especially love this neutral patterned collection in platinum, nightshade, and peacock.

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In the moments after we give birth, we desperately want to hear our baby cry. In the middle of the night a few months later it's no longer exactly music to our ears, but those cries aren't just telling us that baby needs a night feeding: They're also giving us a hint at what our children may sound like as kindergarteners, and adults.

New research published in the journal Biology Letters suggests the pitch of a 4-month-old's cry predicts the pitch they'll use to ask for more cookies at age five and maybe even later on as adults.

The study saw 2 to 5-month olds recorded while crying. Five years later, the researchers hit record again and chatted with the now speaking children. Their findings, combined with previous work on the subject, suggest it's possible to figure out what a baby's voice will sound like later in life, and that the pitch of our adult voices may be traceable back to the time we spend in utero. Further studies are needed, but scientists are very interested in how factors before birth can impact decades later.

"In utero, you have a lot of different things that can alter and impact your life — not only as a baby, but also at an adult stage," one of the authors of the study, Nicolas Mathevon, told the New York Times.

The New York Times also spoke with Carolyn Hodges, an assistant professor of anthropology at Boston University who was not involved in the study. According to Hodges, while voice pitch may not seem like a big deal, it impacts how we perceive people in very real ways.

Voice pitch is a factor in how attractive we think people are, how trustworthy. But why we find certain pitches more or less appealing isn't known. "There aren't many studies that address these questions, so that makes this research especially intriguing," Hodges said, adding that it "suggests that individual differences in voice pitch may have their origins very, very early in development."

So the pitch of that midnight cry may have been determined months ago, and it may determine part of your child's future, too. There are still so many things we don't know, but as parents we do know one thing: Our babies cries (as much as we don't want to hear them all the time) really are something special.

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They say there's no use in crying over it, but for pumping mamas, spilled milk is a major upset.

When you're working so hard to make sure your baby has breast milk, you don't want to lose a drop, and Chrissy Teigen knows this all too well.

The mom of two posted a video to social media Wednesday showing her efforts to rescue breastmilk from a tabletop. She used various utensils and a syringe to try to get the milk back in the bottle.

"I spilled my breastmilk and this is how important it is in this house," she says while suctioning up milk with what appears to be a baster.

In a follow-up video Teigen continues to try to rescue the spilled milk.

"We're trying," she says as she suctions up a drop or two. "I got some."

Teigen is currently breastfeeding baby Miles, her son with husband John Legend, and has been very public about the fact that she pumps a lot as a working mom.

She's also been open about the fact that milk supply has always been an issue for her, not just with Miles but with Luna, too.

"I actually loved [pumping] because I'm a collector of things, and so when I found out I could pump I [did it] so much because I knew the more you pumped, the more milk you'd make," she told POPSUGAR back in March. "So I loved collecting my breast milk and seeing how much I could get, even if it was very, very little."

Like a lot of moms, Teigen did struggle emotionally when a pump session wouldn't get her the ounces she wanted.

"I wasn't producing a lot of milk, and it was frustrating. When you're frustrated, [it can also make you] not produce that much."

Research backs her up. Stress has been linked to lower milk production. Because of that, she's trying to stay positive this time around, but captioned her video post "EVERY DROP COUNTS IN THIS HOUSE" because, well, they do.


So many mothers can relate. Have you ever tried to save your breastmilk?

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What is it about networking that's just kind of...awful? Typically inconvenient and often awkward, formal networking events rarely yield the results most women (and especially mamas) are looking for.

Whether you're reentering the workforce post-baby leave or simply looking to make a complicated career switch as a busy mom (or just struggling to juggle play dates and professional meetings), making the right connections is often a hurdle that's difficult to surmount. And more and more often, networking comes up short in providing what moms really need.

When time is truly at a premium—a session swapping business cards can be hard to prioritize. Shapr wants to change all that.

Designed with busy people in mind, Shapr is an app with an algorithm that uses tagged interests, location, and professional experience to match you with 10-15 inspiring professional connections a day. You swipe to indicate interest in networking with any of them, and if the interest is mutual, you're connected. (But don't worry, that's where the similarities to that dating app end.)

It makes it easier to connect with the right people.

From there, you can chat, video conference, and even meet in person with potential mentors, partners, and investors while growing your real-life network. No more wasting hours trying to pick someone's brain only to discover they don't have the right experience you need. And no more awkward, stilted small talk—even suggests a few preset icebreakers to help get the conversation rolling more quickly.

The best part? You could do virtually all your connecting from your couch post-bedtime.

It simplifies switching careers or industries.

Sysamone Phaphone is a real mom who was fed up with traditional networking options. When she quit her full-time job in healthcare to pursue founding a startup, she quickly realized that in-person networking events weren't only failing to connect her to the right people, they were also difficult for a single mom of two to even attend. "I was complaining to a friend that I was so tired and didn't know how I was going to keep doing it this way when she recommended the Shapr app," Phaphone says. "I tried it right there at dinner and started swiping. [Later], in my pajamas, I got my first connection."

From there, Phaphone was hooked. Her network suddenly exploded with developers, potential partners she could work with, and even people to hire for the roles she needed. She was also able to connect with and empower other women in tech. Now, checking in with Shapr connections is just part of her routine. "I look for connections after drop-off at school and on my commute into the city," she says. "Then after bedtime is done, I go on to check if there is anyone I've connected with."

It helps you find a mentor—no matter where they live.

Another common roadblock Shapr removes? Location. While you probably wouldn't fly to LA from New York for a networking event, the Shapr app lets you connect and chat with the person who best meets your needs—regardless of where they're based. Even better for parents, the "mom penalty" many women contend with when trying to get back into the workforce doesn't exist on Shapr—if you have the right experience, the connections will still come.

To connect, simply create your account, enter up to ten hashtags you want to follow (either industry related like #film or #tech or by person you're seeking, such as #developer or #uxui), preset what you're looking for (investors, collaborators, etc.), and indicate how you prefer to meet. To connect with more people at once, Shapr also has community groups within the app around interest topics that you can join. And even though the connection begins in the digital space, it often results in the in-person experiences mamas crave.

"I wish I could encourage more moms and dads to use it because it has been a lifesaver for me," Phaphone says. "It empowered my career and career choices, and it provides so much convenience. I can put my kids to bed and not go to an event, but still meet 20 people in a night."

For women looking to grow their business, position, or simply achieve a little self-growth, Shapr is changing the way we connect. This powerful new app could change everything, mama. Download it today to get started.

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