My Dearest Bee,
Here we are, it’s your birthday. You’re a year old today! Happy birthday, my beautiful little girl.
Two years ago, if someone had told me that I’d be celebrating my first child’s first birthday today, I would have laughed. Me? Having a child? It’s not that I didn’t want to be a mom, or that I didn’t want you, it’s that I didn’t think I could have you.
During the 8 years leading up to your birth, I had 5 miscarriages. I went to multiple doctors and nobody could tell me what was wrong. After months of tests and all the money we spent, we had no answers. The doctors could only tell us to keep trying, and hope for the best.
But it’s hard to hope for the best after so many years and so many lost babies. Your daddy and I had resigned ourselves to believing that we would never meet you. That we would never be blessed with your presence in our lives. You were all we ever wanted, and we thought we wouldn’t get to have you.
I remember the day I realized I was pregnant with you. After five previous pregnancies, I could just tell. It was right before Thanksgiving weekend, and your aunt and uncle were coming to visit us.
I was terrified to take a test. I knew that if I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive, I’d lose you. Just like I lost your five older siblings. So, I didn’t test for a while. I quit drinking alcohol. I quit drinking caffeine. I quit my addiction to Mountain Dew. I lost 10 pounds those first few weeks. I wasn’t sick, I just had a change in taste. I started eating less of the fatty, unhealthy foods I normally ate, and started eating fruits, salads, and whole grains! I waited until 8 weeks before taking the pregnancy test that would confirm what I had already knew.
Reaching the beginning of my second trimester was easily one of the happiest days of my life. During prior pregnancies, I’d never made it through the first trimester. At thirteen weeks, an ultrasound told us you were healthy, and growing normally.
My pregnancy was relatively uneventful up until the last couple days. I had a mild case of gestational diabetes which was extremely easy to manage as long as I didn’t drink soda, and I avoided fast food.
The Wednesday before you were born, I went in to see my doctor and my blood pressure was sky-high. I was immediately sent to the hospital for a non-stress test. You were fine, my blood pressure decreased, and I was sent home on bed rest pending the results of a urinalysis that would tell us whether or not I had pre-eclampsia.
Thursday evening we learned I did have a mild case of pre-eclampsia. My doctor sent me in for another non-stress test on Friday morning. My blood pressure was high with no sign of it coming down again. Between the pre-eclampsia and gestational diabetes, my doctor and I decided the best option was to induce me that day, one week before your due date.
I spent the first twelve hours laboring slowly and uneventfully. It wasn’t until about 1 AM Saturday morning – after 14 hours of labor – that the pain became too intense. I received an epidural a half hour later (and just about fell in love with the anesthesiologist that administered it).
After 30 hours of labor I was only 6cm dilated, with a full fever, and it was recommended I have a C-section.
You were born at 4:38 PM that Saturday. And you were smallest, prettiest little baby I’d ever seen, weighing in at just 5 pounds, 15 ounces.
The day you were born was, and will always be, without question, the happiest day of my life. It was a day I didn’t expect I’d ever get to experience. A day I thought was nothing but a pipe dream.
And now here we are, one year later. You are my first child, my first daughter. The first person to poop on me, the first person to projectile vomit all over me. You’re the first baby I’ve nursed, the first baby that’s slept on my chest. You’re the first person to teach me what unconditional love is, and the first person that I’d die for, no questions asked.
Little Bee, you are all my firsts. And you may also be all my lasts. Whether Daddy and I can give you a little brother or sister is unknown to us. Giving you a sibling would be one of the greatest gifts, but nobody knows if we will be able to have more children.
I’m completely happy with the thought of only having you. You’re the child I thought I’d never have, you are my world, my everything. Life without you seems unfathomable now, when just a couple years ago life with you seemed impossible.
Your turning a year old is bittersweet. That sleepy little infant I had is long gone, replaced by the cutest, funniest little girl I know. I miss the infant you once were, but I adore the wonderful little girl you are becoming. You are the child I’ve always wanted, and I’m so thankful that I have you.
So happy birthday, Bee. You’re the greatest thing that has ever happened to us. I hope you know how wanted, and how loved, you really, truly are.