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I recently renovated my teenage daughters bedroom; new flooring, painted walls, and décor. Let me reiterate this is the bedroom of my daughter, who is a teenager, and dislikes everything I like.


Let’s just say there was potential for stress in this scenario.

Add a bit of teen drama to my general lack of flooring know-how and subsequent lack of confidence, and we were faced with real potential for a meltdown here.

My daughter would most likely have a meltdown as well.

I am happy to report that after four days, three trips to the home improvement store, and no more than a mini meltdown (or two), the room is complete. And we both love it. While taking pictures of the new room, I realized that I have yoga to thank for keeping me sane in these situations.

How does yoga help remodel a bedroom?

Yoga is a mind, body, and spirit connection practice. The proven list of yoga’s physical benefits are numerous: lower blood pressure, lower blood sugar, increase bone density, increase cardiovascular health, improved lung capacity, and improved cognitive function – just to name a few.

The mental benefits of a yoga practice are just as applicable to our everyday life, if not more so.

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Mindfulness

Being mindful means focusing on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting the feelings and thoughts surrounding the moment.

No, I don’t have a lot of skill in home repairs and, yes, this scares me, but I am here pulling up carpet and it is going to be okay. I need only focus on this one task in front of me right now. When it is time to move on, I will again stay mindful and focused solely on the task in front of me.

When I was having trouble getting the laminate flooring to connect properly, I felt myself getting very agitated and anxious. I worried I really wasn’t capable of this project. Instead of sitting in the middle of the room and crying, I got up and took a break. When I returned, I calmly sat on the floor. I held the boards. I studied the boards. I felt the grooves and visualized how they should match. By staying calm and mindful, I was able to keep my mind clear enough to analyze the problem and attempt a solution.

Flexibility

My hands can lay flat on the floor in a forward fold and my right hip will finally release in pigeon pose. The flexibility of my physical body not only makes me feel better, but it also allows me to move through my daily life with ease and less risk of injury.

This helps me to be much more flexible in life as well. When things don’t go exactly as I would like – such as being sold damaged laminate flooring which is therefore not usable – I am able to easily transition to an alternate plan. Instead of getting so bent out of shape that I stop everything and fail to move forward, I acknowledge feeling discouraged about paying for a damaged product. This path didn’t work so I will find an alternate method.

This attitude shift allows me to go with the flow, reducing my stress level and allowing me to enjoy the remodel project. The happier I am, the stronger my immune system, the better quality of my sleep, and the better overall state of my general health as well.

Just as I shouldn’t force my body in to a pose it’s not ready for, I also couldn’t force those flooring connections together. Being flexible means knowing when to let go and move on.

The physical flexibility I gain in yoga also helps me in my everyday list of projects: squatting to paint trim, having the balance to stand and reach on a ladder, and utilizing my upper body strength to carry heavy tools.

My body is used to a moving physical practice, therefore my body can physically adapt to whatever movement I require.

Progress, not perfection

In yoga, there is no perfect pose. It’s always a progressive path toward achieving perfect for our individual body. No one comes to yoga already an advanced yogi. We all started as beginners and have progressively worked our way through the asanas.

I am new to home improvement projects and shouldn’t expect to already have the skill base for each project I undertake. I needed a yoga teacher to show me how to safely get into headstand; why shouldn’t I also need a teacher to show me how to rewire a ceiling fan? I certainly shouldn’t expect the seemingly perfect finishes I see in DIY television shows.

Although I’ve been told to ‘measure twice and cut once,’ I apparently needed to learn that lesson for myself. A couple times. I also needed practice sawing a straight line and hammering nails in straight. The first few pieces of trim in my daughter’s room don’t quite fit together as well as the last pieces of trim. Rather than focus on my mistakes, yoga has taught me to instead proudly point to my advances.

Breathe

There is a reason yoga classes begin by focusing on the breath. The breath begins the movement and the body follows. Breathing consciously has a biological effect on your mental, emotional, and physical state.

If you breathe shallow and quick, your heart rate will increase, and the sympathetic nervous system will be activated. This will trigger the fight or flight response in your body causing muscles to tense. Conversely, deep slow breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system. The mind quiets, muscles release, and relaxation endorphins flow through the body.

When faced with a difficult or stressful situation off the mat, it helps to breathe deeply before taking action. When the nail gun jammed up and wouldn’t work, I could feel my breath become forced and shallow. The tension in my body soon followed, and my brain raced through a few expletives. I put the nail gun down. By controlling my breath, I could quiet my mind enough to figure out the problem.

Taking a moment to calm your breath, on and off the mat, allows for greater focus and improved mental and emotional health.

Know when to rest

In yoga, child’s pose offers a break from the vinyasas when needed. Every class ends in savasana, a time to lay quietly and allow the body to relax and restore.

I have a bad habit of working long into the night to get a project finished. It’s normal to find me painting at midnight. Although my mind is telling me to stay up and just do one more thing, I know my body will be better equipped to handle the physical and mental demands of this job once it has had time to recover and replenish.

Yoga is much more than poses. It has taught me to be in tune to my body and its needs. I recognize when I need proper nourishment, when I am moving in a way that could potentially cause injury, and when my body needs to stop and rest.

Yoga has taught me how to have a more peaceful life.

And, my daughter’s bedroom looks great!

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As mamas, we naturally become the magic-makers for our families. We sing the songs that make the waits seem shorter, dispense the kisses that help boo-boos hurt less, carry the seemingly bottomless bags of treasures, and find ways to turn even the most hum-drum days into something memorable.

Sometimes it's on a family vacation or when exploring a new locale, but often it's in our own backyards or living rooms. Here are 12 ways to create magical moments with kids no matter where your adventures take you.


1. Keep it simple

Mary Poppins may be practically perfect in every way, but―trust us―your most magical memories don't require perfection. Spend the morning building blanket forts or break out the cookie cutters to serve their sandwich in a fun shape and you'll quickly learn that, for kids, the most magical moments are often the simplest.

2. Get on their level

Sometimes creating a memorable moment can be as easy as getting down on the floor and playing with your children. So don't be afraid to get on your hands and knees, to swing from the monkey bars, or turn watching your favorite movie into an ultimate snuggle sesh.

3. Reimagine the ordinary

As Mary says, "the cover is not the book." Teach your child to see the world beyond initial impressions by encouraging them to imagine a whole new world as you play―a world where the laundry basket can be a pirate ship or a pile of blankets can be a castle.

4. Get a little messy

Stomp in muddy puddles. Break out the finger paint. Bake a cake and don't worry about frosting drips on the counter. The messes will wait, mama. For now, let your children―and yourself―live in these moments that will all too soon become favorite memories.

5. Throw out the plan

The best-laid plans...are rarely the most exciting. And often the most magical moments happen by accident. So let go of the plan, embrace the unexpected, and remember that your child doesn't care if the day goes according to the schedule.

6. Take it outside

There's never a wrong time of year to make magic outside. Take a stroll through a spring rainstorm, catch the first winter snowflakes on your tongue, or camp out under a meteor shower this summer. Mother Nature is a natural at creating experiences you'll both remember forever.

7. Share your childhood memories

Chances are if you found it magical as a child, then your kids will too. Introduce your favorite books and movies (pro tip: Plan a double feature with an original like Mary Poppins followed with the sequel, Mary Poppins Returns!) or book a trip to your favorite family vacation spot from the past. You could even try to recreate photos from your old childhood with your kids so you can hang on to the memory forever.

8. Just add music

Even when you're doing something as humdrum as prepping dinner or tidying up the living room, a little music has a way of upping the fun factor. Tell Alexa to cue up your favorite station for a spontaneous family dance party or use your child's favorite movie soundtrack for a quick game of "Clean and Freeze" to pick up toys at the end of the day.

9. Say "yes"

Sometimes it can feel like you're constantly telling your child "no." While it's not possible to grant every request (sorry, kiddo, still can't let you drive the car!), plan a "yes" day for a little extra magic. That means every (reasonable) request gets an affirmative response for 24 hours. Trust us―they'll never forget it.

10. Let them take the lead

A day planned by your kid―can you imagine that? Instead of trying to plan what you think will lead to the best memories, put your kid in the driver's seat by letting them make the itinerary. If you have more than one child, break up the planning so one gets to pick the activity while the other chooses your lunch menu. You just might end up with a day you never expected.

11. Ask more questions

Odds are, your child might not remember every activity you plan―but they will remember the moments you made them feel special. By focusing the conversation on your little one―their likes, dislikes, goals, or even just craziest dreams―you teach them that their perspective matters and that you are their biggest fan.

12. Turn a bad day around

Not every magical moment will start from something good. But the days where things don't go to plan can often turn out to be the greatest memories, especially when you find a way to turn even a negative experience into a positive memory. So don't get discouraged if you wake up to rain clouds on your beach day or drop the eggs on the floor before breakfast―take a cue from Mary Poppins and find a way to turn the whole day a little "turtle."

Mary Poppins Returns available now on Digital & out on Blue-ray March 19! Let the magic begin in your house with a night where everything is possible—even the impossible ✨

After a pregnancy that is best described as uncomfortable, Jessica Simpson is finally done "Jess-tating" and is now a mama of three.

Baby Birdie Mae Johnson joined siblings Ace and Maxwell on Tuesday, March 19, Simpson announced via Instagram.

Simpson's third child weighed in at 10 pounds, 13 ounces.

Birdie's name is no surprise to Jessica's Instagram followers, who saw numerous references to the name in her baby shower photos and IG stories in the last few weeks.

The name Birdie isn't in the top 1000 baby names according to the Social Security Administration, but It has been seeing a resurgence in recent years, according to experts.

"Birdie feels like a sassy but sweet, down-to-earth yet unusual name," Pamela Redmond Satran of Nameberry told Town and Country back in 2017. "It's also just old enough to be right on time."

At this moment in time, Simpson and her husband, former NFL player Eric Johnson, are probably busy counting little fingers and toes , which is great news because it means Simpson's toes can finally deflate. She's had a terrible time with swollen feet during this pregnancy, and was also hospitalized multiple times due to bronchitis in her final trimester.

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We're so glad to see Simpson's little Birdie has finally arrived!

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Spring is officially here and if you're looking for a way to celebrate the change in the season, why not treat the kids to some ice cream, mama?

DQ locations across the country (but not the ones in malls) are giving away free small vanilla cones today, March 20! So pack up the kids and get to a DQ near you.

And if you can't make it today, from March 21 through March 31, DQ's got a deal where small cones will be just 50 cents (but you have to download the DQ mobile app to claim that one).

Another chain, Pennsylvania-based Rita's Italian Ice is also dishing up freebies today, so if DQ's not your thing you can grab a free cup of Italian ice instead.

We're so excited that ice cream season is here and snowsuit season is behind us. Just a few short weeks and the kids will be jumping through the sprinklers.

Welcome back, spring. We've missed you!

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The woman who basically single-handedly taught the world to embrace vulnerability and imperfection is coming to Netflix and we cannot wait to binge whatever Brené Brown's special will serve up because we'll probably be better people after watching it.

It drops on April 19 and is called Brené Brown: The Call to Courage. If it has even a fraction of the impact of her books or the viral Ted talk that made her a household name, it's going to be life and culture changing.

Announcing the special on Instagram Brown says she "cannot believe" she's about to be "breaking some boundaries over at Netflix" with the 77-minute special.

Netflix describes the special as a discussion of "what it takes to choose courage over comfort in a culture defined by scarcity, fear and uncertainty" and it sounds exactly like what we need right now.

April 19 is still pretty far away though, so if you need some of Brown's wisdom now, check out her books on Amazon or watch (or rewatch) the 2010 Ted Talk that put her—and our culture's relationship with vulnerability and shame—in the national spotlight.

The power of vulnerability | Brené Brown

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If Marie Kondo's Netflix show got people tidying up, Brown's Netflix special is sure to be the catalyst for some courageous choices this spring.

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My husband and I recently had a date night that included being away from our son overnight for the first time since he was born three years ago (but don't let your heads run away with a fantasy—we literally slept because we were exhausted #thisiswhatwecallfunnow). It was a combination of a late night work event, a feeling that we had to do something just for the two of us, and simple convenience. It would have taken hours to get home from the end of a very long day when we could just check into a hotel overnight and get home early the next day.

But before that night, I fretted about what to do. How would childcare work? No one besides me or my husband has put our son to bed, and we have never not been there when he wakes up in the morning.

Enter: Grandma.

I knew if there was any chance of this being successful, the only person that could pull it off is one of my son's favorite people—his grandmother. Grammy cakes. Gramma. We rely so much on these extended support systems to give us comfort and confidence as parents and put our kids at ease. Technically, we could parent without their support, but I'm so glad we don't have to.

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So as we walked out the door, leaving Grandma with my son for one night, I realized how lucky we are that she gets it...

She gets it because she always comes bearing delicious snacks. And usually a small toy or crayons in her bag for just the right moment when it's needed.

She gets it because she comes with all of the warmth and love of his parents but none of the baggage. None of the first time parent jitters and all of the understanding that most kids just have simple needs: to eat, play and sleep.

She gets it because she understands what I need too. The reassurance that my baby will be safe. And cared for.

She gets it because she's been in my shoes before. Decades ago, she was a nervous new mama too and felt the same worries. She's been exactly where we are.

She gets it because she shoos us away as we nervously say goodbye, calling out cheerfully, "Have fun, I've got this." And I know that she does.

She gets it because she will get down on the floor with him to play Legos—even though sometimes it's a little difficult to get back up.

She gets it because she will fumble around with our AppleTV—so different from her remote at home—to find him just the right video on Youtube that he's looking for.

She gets it because she diligently takes notes when we go through the multi-step bedtime routine that we've elaborately concocted, passing no judgment, and promising that she'll follow along as best as she can.

She gets it because she'll break the routine and lay next to him in bed when my son gets upset, singing softly in his ear until she sees his eyelids droop heavy and finally fall asleep.

She gets it because she'll text us to let us know when he's fallen asleep because she knows we'll be wondering.

She gets it because just like our son trusts us as his mom and dad, Grandma is his safe space. My son feels at ease with her—and that relaxes me, too.

She gets it because when we come home from our "big night out" the house will be clean. Our toddler's play table that always has some sort of sticky jelly residue on it will be spotless. The dishwasher empty. (Side note: She is my hero.)

She gets it because she shows up whenever we ask. Even when it means having to rearrange her schedule. Even when it means she has to sleep in our home instead of her own.

She gets it because even though she has her own life, she makes sure to be as involved in ours as she can. But that doesn't mean she gives unsolicited advice. It means that she's there. She comes to us or lets us come to her. Whenever we need her.

She gets it because she takes care of us, too. She's there to chat with at the end of a long day. To commiserate on how hard motherhood and working and life can be, but to also gently remind me, "These are the best days."

After every time Grandma comes over, she always leaves a family that feels so content. Fulfilled by her presence. The caretaking and nourishment (mental and food-wise) and warmth that accompanies her.

We know this is a privilege. We know we're beyond lucky that she is present and wants to be involved and gets it. We know that sometimes life doesn't work out like this and sometimes Grandma lives far away or is no longer here, or just doesn't get it. So we hold on. And appreciate every moment.

As Grandma leaves, I hug her tight and tell her, "I can't thank you enough. We couldn't have done this without you." Because we can't. And we wouldn't want to.

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