There’s something about entering the world of parenting that makes you question your best feminist qualities. We all know women kick-ass. Yes, we can start our own businesses, run marathons, and even (hello!) grow a human being inside of us. But in those first few weeks of parenting, even the most un-domestic amongst us tend to feel like a housewife from the 1950s. Suddenly, with that delicate newborn hanging around, you find yourself wanting a spotless home that’s totally germ-free. And since loungewear is your work attire for at least the next 12 weeks, maybe you’re feeling like getting all dolled up for superficial reasons. And that’s OK.

So while your friends may be tempted to bring over yet another swaddle or a great big bag from Ess-a-Bagel, pass this along and tell them what you really need. Unless they have time machine capabilities. Then, totally, go ahead and take advantage of that time freezing (and the bagels).

Here are 5 of our favorite New Mom Gifts.