Finding the right goes-with-everything-and-works-for-everyone gender-neutral diaper bag can feel like a search for the Holy Grail. And shuffling between different bags for each parent or caregiver invariably means a crucial item forgotten at home. ("I thought you said there were wipes in here?" "Oh, I meant my diaper bag…")

In our own diaper bag search, I learned quickly that my partner and I had different needs. I wanted something stylish— a diaper bag that didn't look like a diaper bag . My husband wanted something functional and unisex—a diaper bag that didn't look like a purse. I needed something with enough compartments to hold all my baby's things as well as my own, especially as a busy mom. My husband wanted something durable and comfortable, especially for longer errands when he already had enough to carry.

And then we discovered TWELVElittle on one magical day.

TWELVElittle is a diaper bag company founded by two women who understand the struggle. So they created the Unisex 3-in-1 Foldover Tote , a durable, stylish diaper bag that works no matter who is on duty.

Made from water-resistant nylon with sheep leather trim, this convertible tote is deliberately neutral and chic to ensure it blends seamlessly with any style. But it's more than just a pretty face. Thanks to an interior water-resistant lining, everything from spilled snacks to leaky travel mugs can be wiped away in seconds. Plus, with two exterior insulated bottle pockets, several internal pockets for organization and signature secret pocket to store essentials, this backpack is ready for whatever your life (or your partner's life) can throw at it.

TWELVELittle unisex 3-in-1 foldover tote

TWELVELittle Unisex 3-in-1 Foldover Tote

Even better, it can be carried three ways—as a backpack by clipping the long strap in the center of the back panel, as a foldover messenger by attaching the strap on the sides, and as a handheld tote—giving personal style options to whoever is doing the heavy lifting.

Finally, my husband and I had a bag that could go from brunch with friends to hangouts at the park to an afternoon working at the coffee shop—without ever needing to transfer the sippy cup to a new bag.

Diaper bag shuffle, you've met your match.

The hardest part will be agreeing on a color. It comes in gray, black and camo print. (Though I'm partial to gray!)

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