Advice from a new mom: ‘Ask for what you want, be firm about what you need’

“You may be surprised at how most things can be accommodated with a little creativity.”

Advice from a new mom: ‘Ask for what you want, be firm about what you need’

Jade Harris is a Project Manager who works remotely for RebelMouse in New York where she bridge the gap between clients and our development team during site builds. She shared with us her tips for balancing work and a new baby.

You recently had a baby, how has it been transitioning into work again? Do you have any advice for other women in this situation?

Having a young baby is amazing! It’s also been a learning experience, of course, in so many ways. Transitioning back to work has been relatively smooth for me because I have a lot of support. My husband supports me and has stepped up when needed, and RebelMouse has been fantastic in understanding when I have to put on my mama hat and do that for awhile. I’d advise other women who are transitioning back to work after a new baby (especially your first) to ask for what you want, and be firm about what you need — you may be surprised at how most things can be accommodated with a little creativity.


What has your experience been balancing your new role at RebelMouse with being a new mom?

Especially being a new mom, I was ready to dive right into work, but not certain how it would turn out — I’d have to be away from my baby for extended periods of time! What would happen? But it’s been great knowing I can do it, and he can be OK while I’m not there. To help balance the time away, I get up a little earlier to spend more time with him...and I’m pretty serious about putting him to bed.  

How much of your work are you able to do remotely? What type of childcare do you have?

I can do about 75-80 percent of my work remotely. A lot of what I do is digital, and we communicate over Skype and IM all the time. In-person meetings are often important, too. I have a babysitter extraordinaire, who has been helpful, understanding, and flexible.  

You did not start out as a digital project manager. What was your original career? Why did you decide to change?

I thought I’d be an Art Historian/Curator, actually. Slowly but surely, I inched toward more communication, strategy, and planning roles...until I realized being a digital project manager was the job for me!  

How did you learn about PowerToFly? What was the process of finding a job like?

I found PowerToFly on a parents’ listserv! One of the best things that I ever discovered on a listserv.

PowerToFly has been so helpful and the process was extremely easy. When I first heard about the site, I thought, “Why didn’t this exist earlier?” and when I used the site I thought, “Why aren’t all job sites like this?”

What do you think the biggest benefits of remote work are? What are the biggest challenges?

The obvious big benefit is that you lose the commute, which can drain about an hour and a half of my day. The less obvious benefit is that I can concentrate so much better when I’m sequestered in the quiet of my home office, or even with headphones on at a cafe. I feel extremely productive! The challenges include staying a part of the culture of the company, and establishing/keeping deep bonds with the team. But with video calls, IMs, and screensharing — I feel like I’m still a part of everything that’s happening.  

By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's electric pump

For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.


Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!


Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.


Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌


Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.


Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.


Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.


Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.


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