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Mater mea was launched in 2012 by founder and editor-in-chief Anthonia Akitunde as a place to inspire black women at the intersection of career + family. We talked to Anthonia for our Motherly at Work series about what inspired her to start the project, going full time on it, and what she’s learned about women and work in the years since launch.


We’d love to hear—how did mater mea start? What motivated you?

I started mater mea in 2012, at the height of the “Can women have it all?” and Lean In think pieces.

As a professional woman just starting to think about what it looked like to get married and have a family, I was really interested in these conversations, but I noticed that they were focused on women who didn’t look like me—from a racial, cultural, and/or professional perspective.

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What was work-life balance really like for mid-career black women or entrepreneurs? Those stories weren’t really being told.

Also, I found that most interviews weren’t asking the hard “how” questions.

Like, “Ok, you’re fabulous and you have this amazing career and kids and husband… But how did you really get here?”

I wanted a road map, and what I was getting was the final picture.

I knew that there were other women of color who were grappling with the same “having it all” questions and concerns; I wanted to talk to them while also showcasing black women in spaces in which media at large says they don’t exist—in loving homes with their children and/or partners.

The site’s purpose was a bit selfish at first—some of our first moms were women I’d had girl crushes on for years—but I knew I wasn’t the only black woman who wanted to see other black women’s stories presented in this realistic and personal way.

What’s the most exciting development to come out of working on the site for the last three years?

I would say the fact that I’m still doing it after three years!

I’ve had a lot of professional and personal setbacks over that time period, but I’ve remained committed to keeping the site going and sharing this perspective.

More specifically, I’ve had the opportunity to connect with really amazing women who have such powerful and affecting stories that you don’t see anywhere else.

You just decided to go full time at Mater Mea. What prompted that decision—and how does it impact your life?

It was a mix of a few things. I felt like I wasn’t giving myself or the site a fair shot by working on it during small windows of free time before and after my day job.

I was also inspired by so many women and creators who were taking the leap and seeing the rewards that come when you put yourself and your brand out there full-time.

I won’t say I’ve 100% figured it out—I’m still freelancing and trying to determine how to turn mater mea from a passion project into a media company—but I will say that even though I definitely miss the security of bimonthly paychecks and benefits, going full-time was the right decision for me.

You write that Mater Mea’s mission is to provide a more accurate portrayal of the lives of black women in their personal and professional lives. What need did you find there, and how does Mater Mea answer that call?

This is changing, but black women were typically seen in very, no pun intended, black-and-white terms in mainstream media.

There’s the sassy or angry sidekick, the welfare mom, or Michelle Obama—and really, there’s only one Michelle Obama.

That, of course, isn’t the case: The black experience isn’t monolithic, and there is a wide array of black women’s experiences that we aren’t seeing in the media.

On mater mea, there are black women from all walks of life—straight, lesbian, married, single, divorced, boho, corporate suite, etc.—discussing universal experiences in an open and frank way.

While black working mothers are usually pathologized in mainstream media, they’re celebrated on our site.

For black women who are aspiring moms like me or who are on their second kid, it’s nice to see yourself reflected back to you in a positive and affirming way.

Can you give us a little glimpse into a day-in-the-life?

At 6:30 am. . .

It’s a toss up. I’ve either lost the snooze button battle and I’m back in bed, or I’m up and fussing around my apartment.

At 7:45 am. . .

By now, I’m definitely up and working toward inbox zero. I use my inbox as my to-do list; using the Mailbox app, I push out all emails that can be handled the next day or a week later to focus on what has to be done today.

At 10:00 am. . .

If it’s a hair-wash day, I’ve just finished twisting my hair while watching something embarrassing on TV to pass the time. I’ll fix myself breakfast—smoothies with coconut milk have become my thing as of late—and make my first of many cups of tea. For some reason, tea is my Pavlovian signal that it’s time to work. I’ll start writing for one of my clients or editing any of the pieces I have in from mater mea’s team of amazing contributing writers. My boyfriend and I share a long desk in our office, so sometimes we’ll swivel around in our chairs to talk through a pitch or work-related concern—he’s also a writer—or say something ridiculous to each other.

At 1:00 pm. . .

At this point, if I’m not on deadline or have a meeting, I’m feeling like taking a nap. A close friend got me a very thoughtful/always renewing gift subscription to Bon Appetit, so my cooking game is kind of ridiculous now, not to brag. If I’m being incredibly good, I’ll exercise. There’s a gym 20 minutes away that offers a non-intimidating version of Crossfit that I’m mildly obsessed with, or I’ll do a kettlebell routine created for me by a trainer friend. But that’s when I’m being incredibly good… more often than not, it’s naptime.

At 3:00 pm. . .

I’m up and editing, writing, emailing with featured moms and contributing writers, and/or reading articles about managing an online business or long-form articles about race, politics, feminism, or random internet ephemera. I’m a huge fan of This.cm, which highlights the one thing incredibly smart people are reading that day.

At 5:00 pm. . .

Still working...

At 9:00 pm. . .

Just finishing up dinner, and watching something on Netflix. I’ll sometimes get a second wind, and feel like doing more work or answering the emails I pushed back earlier that day. But I’ve recently started getting to bed by 10 or 11 pm.

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve been given?

Writing-wise, it’s read what you write out loud.

You’re better able to catch mistakes or weird syntax that you wouldn’t catch if you were just skimming. I’m really proud of the quality of writing and editing that’s on mater mea, and a big part of that is due to that tip.

Life-wise, my mom always says that you shouldn’t judge the time by someone else’s watch, which basically means you shouldn’t judge your path based on where someone else is in life. It’s easier said than done, especially in the age of social media humblebragging, but I’m trying!

Do you have a mentor or someone you look up to that’s helped to shape you as a woman?

It’s funny—I appreciate my mom so much more now having created mater mea.

As an angsty teen, I took a lot of the sacrifices both she and my dad made for granted. Having spoken to 50+ woman about those same choices, I can now appreciate them within the context of what it’s like to be a woman, a partner, and a mom.

I think I’ve been working toward a fictionalized self-made woman that was informed by the magazines and books I read as a teenager. But now that I’ve gotten older and I started chipping away at that old ideal, I’m finding more and more of my mom in whom I’d like to be. And I’m pretty happy about that.

If there’s one thing you hope women experience when they visit Mater Mea, it’s...

… that they’re not alone.

Whatever you’re experiencing on your professional and/or motherhood journey, I think there is a woman who has shared that experience on our site.

I recently reposted a story about performer Rhonda Ross’ 10-year struggle to conceive, and a woman left such a powerful comment saying that this story is exactly what she needed to see, because she and her husband had been trying for nine years to have kids.

Whatever you’re experiencing on your professional and/or motherhood journey, I think there is a woman who has shared that experience on our site.

Knowing that you’re not alone when you’re feeling your most isolated is an amazing feeling, and I hope readers feel that.
What gets you out of bed in the morning and keeps you inspired and excited about life?

The possibility for an “and then some.”

There’s always the possibility for a little something more than what you’re experiencing right now, whether that be an email that can bring a new opportunity, or a chance encounter that can change your course in a really great way.

I’m in an all right space right now, but I’m excited for an “and then some” to take me somewhere even better.

We’d love to hear—what would you tell other mamas who want to turn their passions into their professions?

It’s possible. This is such an amazing time to be a woman with an idea and the will to execute it. Just do it—the barriers to entry and to reach people who want the exact thing you do are so low now thanks to the Internet!

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We've all been there. You first hear those cries that don't sound like any other cries and immediately know what's happening. It's like our mama hearts know when our little ones need us the most. Having little ones feeling under the weather is hard. They can't tell you exactly how they feel. You can't explain to them that they'll feel better soon, and all there is for everyone to do is to take it easy and stay cuddled inside until you can get them to the doctor.

The issue, by this point, is that my son is old enough to know what's coming when we open the medicine cabinet, so giving him something for his throat ends up being like a wrestling match without the fun and giggles. My son especially likes spitting out anything as a way to protest how he's generally feeling, so we both end up covered in sticky syrup feeling defeated. Because, seriously, who thought that using a syringe or pipette to squirt out gooey liquid down an unwilling toddler's mouth was a good idea? (Probably not a parent.)

That's why when I found out there was an easier and more fun way to make these dreaded sick days better, I was all about it.

Enter: Lolleez.

Lolleez are organic throat soothing pops for kids—and adults!—that are made with organic ingredients that you can pronounce and understand like honey and natural fruit pectin. Plus, they're non-GMO as well as gluten, dairy and nut-free i.e. worry-free for all kinds of kiddos. The pops help soothe sore throats while acting like a treat for when kids are feeling under the weather. I also appreciate that the pops are actually flat and on a stick, as opposed to a lozenge or round ball lollipop. They were also created by a mom, which makes me feel a million times more confident about them since I know she knows exactly how hard sick days with a little one can be.

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When I introduced my son to Lolleez pops, everything changed. Suddenly the battle to get him to take something to feel better wasn't... well, a battle. In the few times he's been sick since, he's been more than happy to pop a Lolleez, and I've been more than grateful that soothing him is now as easy as peeling open a wrapper. And, since they come in watermelon, strawberry and orange mango—strawberry is the favorite in this household—he never gets bored of getting a soothing lolly.

Also, they're easy to find—you can get them at stores like Target, CVS and online so I never worry that I'll be caught without in a pinch. After the sick days have run their course and my son starts feeling better, there's nothing like seeing that glow in his eyes come back and have him greet me with a big smile when I come into his room in the morning, ready for the day.

While our littles not feeling well is inevitable, as a mama, I'll do anything to make my child feel better, and I'm so thankful for products that make it just a little easier for the both of us. So here's to enjoying the snuggles that come with sick days, while also looking forward to the giggles that come after them.

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I tried to numb the stress and emotions of being a new mom with weed and booze. I didn't know how to face it all. I had so much grief, rage and regret stuffed down, so much heaviness, guilt and shame I was lugging around.

I would live my days looking forward to when I could drink or smoke to take the edge off, to finally relax, get rid of the anxiety, find fun in the endless playing with baby toys and get through the fits of crying and sleepless nights.

What I didn't realize until it was almost too late was that all that self-medicating with my substance addictions was actually making my issues worse.

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Even though the tequila or wine or gin would take the edge off at the moment, it led to more depression.

Even though the marijuana in the middle of the day would take the intensity of my anxiety down a few notches, it led to more anxiety because it suppressed my real emotions.

And all of it made me more exhausted than I already was from the sleep-deprived reality of early motherhood. After a few months, I found myself in a deeply engrained cycle of weed, alcohol and coffee to keep it all going which led to severe depression, anxiety and panic attacks.

Eventually, it all broke down.

The panic attacks got too frequent and extreme. My self-loathing soared to unbearable, suicidal levels. The alcohol and marijuana no longer did much to suppress anything. The can of worms was open and either I had to face it, get some help and get sober, or lose my mind or life.

It didn't get better overnight. I stopped and started again a few times before I found my way to true sobriety. It was a process.

I found a great therapist that helped me understand my cycle of suppressing feelings with substances and helped me to look underneath the addiction, anxiety and depression to understand what I was actually feeling. I found anger, rage, grief, trauma, shame, resentment, sadness and so much more. I had to actually look at, allow and feel the feelings in order to get through the need to cover them up with addictions.

I also learned mindfulness meditation, which was one of my biggest saviors. I learned how to be with all the anxiety—the tracking, planning, scheduling, worries, endless lists, to-dos and thought loops that come with being a parent. Almost everything I was trying to do with alcohol and pot, meditation did better and without side effects. Then I started going to recovery meetings and quit for real.

Parenting got so much better after I got sober. Not right away though. At first, I hit a serious period of boredom. Life with a baby without alcohol or marijuana seemed so bland to me. The stark reality of the mundane was hard. But over time I learned to find enjoyment without any substances.

There's no more cracking open a bottle of wine, sipping it to relax while I cook dinner. There's no more stepping away to slyly hit my vape pen, returning with bleary eyes and a goofy smile. There's just me, my daughter, my husband and more of myself—breathing, playing, bathing, laughing, dancing, singing, going to bed, waking up early and doing it all again.

Now that I'm sober, I don't have any panic attacks at all. I am way less anxious in general, and when I do feel anxiety I know how to work with it. Depression is almost non-existent, and even though I still feel tired often, I am not utterly exhausted. It's manageable, and I know how to recharge myself.

I'm a better mom now, too. I am more present, patient and kind. I am able to process my emotions faster. I am in a better mood more often. I have more energy. I enjoy our time together and show my love for her more. I am more responsible and available.

I'm not trying to escape anymore. I'm here.

One of my favorite things to do now as the sun sets and I cook dinner is to crack open an audiobook and savor that sweet time in the kitchen. My husband often bathes my daughter and gets her ready for bed and I have that time to myself, listening to something interesting, enjoying the smells and textures of the food, the rhythm of the chopping and my own breath.

I don't need alcohol or drugs to endure parenthood, to get through it, to cope with it, to escape from it. This is my life, after all, and it will be for a very long time.

Instead of using some external things to change how I feel about it, I let myself actually feel my feelings about it. I talk about it. I write about it. I dance about it. I sing about it. I work on it in therapy. I communicate authentically with my husband and other mothers.

Learning how to truly relax and deal with my emotions instead of faking it with wine or weed was the most important thing I ever did for myself as a human and parent. I no longer have to make myself go numb to make it through the days. I get to give my daughter my full attention, love and a childhood she truly deserves—one with a genuinely present, calm and sober mother.

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The news cycle moves so quickly that the good news stories can speed through your feed quicker than you can see them. Yes, stories like Meghan Markle admitting that she's not okay or the Johnson's baby powder recall are important, but so are the good or funny stories happening to non-royal women every day.

It's important to keep up with the news, but it's also important to smile when we can. Luckily we track the best viral stories for you every week.

Here are the viral stories that made us smile:

Identical twin nurses go viral after they delivered identical twin babies together

Identical twins Tori Howard and Tara Drinkard both work at Piedmont Athens Regional Medical Center in Georgia— Drinkard in the labor and delivery unit, Howard in the neonatal intensive care unit. They hadn't worked together on a delivery, but they knew it would happen eventually. They just probably didn't predict that the first time they'd team up would be to deliver another set of identical twin girls.

Brannan and Rebecca Williams couldn't believe they had another set of identical twins in the room when they welcomed their daughters on September 25.

"We found out 10 minutes before Rebecca was wheeled into the OR for an emergency C-section," Brannan Williams told Today Parents. "I couldn't believe it. What are the chances? It's crazy."

The elder set of twins was just as surprised at this turn of events. "We knew we'd cross paths in the delivery room eventually," Howard writes to Today Parents. "But we never imagined that our first experience would be with twins girls!"

As a mother of twins, I know how overwhelming it can be to welcome two babies on the same day, but Brannan and Rebecca definitely had an advantage thanks to their experience with Tori and Tara. Brannan and Rebecca's daughters, Emma and Addison, were born at 32 weeks and spent three weeks in the NICU, so the parents presumably spent a bit of time with the nurses. They plan to keep in touch as well.

"They have given us so much good advice," the parents tell Today Parents. "The biggest thing they told us is to remember that the girls are individuals and even though they look alike, that doesn't make them the same person."

This viral #boymom is finally a #girlmom after 11 births 

Have you ever noticed how some families seem to produce way more of one sex than the other? Well, you've probably never seen anything quite like this. Alexis Brett, a mama from London, had 10 (yes, 10!) boys in a row. How crazy is that? But the streak was recently broken—Brett just welcomed her first daughter.

According to The Daily Mail, Brett and her husband welcomed their first son when she was 22 years old. Over the next 15 years, the mama gave birth to nine more sons, making them the first known British couple to have 10 sons in a row.

Brett just gave birth to her 11th child on August 2...and to her astonishment, it was a little girl.

"We're over the moon. I'd been expecting to hear we were having another boy but when I found out it was a girl, my face was a picture. I was shocked but delighted. Now she's here with us, it's a fantastic feeling," the mother tells The Daily Mail. "Curiosity did get the better of us [and we decided to learn the baby's sex before the birth]. When the results came in the post, [our son] opened the envelope because I was too nervous. When we realised it was a girl, we were amazed. It sounds silly because it's a 50:50 chance, but we were surprised anyway."

Brett named her daughter Cameron after actress Cameron Diaz. Cameron joins siblings Campbell, 17, Harrison, 16, Corey, 14, Lachlan, 11, Brodie, nine, Brahn, eight, Hunter, six, Mack, five, Blake, three, and Rothagaidh, two.

It appears the couple's first daughter will be their last child.

"No more! I remember saying that last time, but this time I absolutely mean it. I love my family as it is now...We've been asked a lot whether we've had so many children because we were hoping for that elusive girl. But I can honestly answer no. Cameron wasn't planned, but I was happy all the same, and if another boy had been on the way it wouldn't have bothered me," says Brett. "I'm an only child myself and I'd never planned to have a large family, but now that I do, I love it. I always joked I wouldn't have a clue what to do with a girl anyway but that's all changed now, of course, and I have to admit that we're having a lot of fun buying pink things for the first time."

This mama's viral 'ghost story' is too 😆

It's not Halloween yet but mom Maritza Elizabeth is going viral for her own hilarious ghost story.

She posted a spooky photo of her baby monitor on Facebook. It shows one of her kids in their crib and through the black and white of the baby monitor, it clearly looks like there is another baby in their crib with her son. It would be startling to any parent, especially in October.

"So last night I was positive there was a ghost baby in the bed with my son," she captioned her pic, which has now been shared more than 300,000 times.

"I was so freaked out, I barely slept. I even tried creeping in there with a flashlight while my son was sleeping. Well, this morning I go to investigate a bit further. It turns out my husband just forgot to put the mattress protector on when he changed the sheets 😂😂 I could kill him."

We're so glad Maritza solved the mystery of the ghost baby (without waking up her sleeping son).

This mama gave birth during a tornado and her story is going viral 

As a tornado hit Rowlett, Texas a group of women took shelter in a laundry room. As sirens wailed outside, and by candlelight, a mother delivered her baby.

The Bump Birthing Center shared this story to its Facebook page, captioning a photo of the mother and baby: "Baby girl born in our laundry room with the tornado sirens going off, a tornado on the ground half a mile away, and no electricity.....by candle light!! Welcome to the world beauty!"

The chief midwife and owner of The Bump Birthing Center, Kasie McElhaney, told the New York Daily News: "She had just started pushing when the power went out and the sirens went off, and we had to shuffle to the laundry room.

"It's the only room in the center that has no windows, and it's centrally located. So that's where we went. One wall is brick—it's probably not even big enough for a twin-sized bed. But we made it work."

They made it work and now the photographic evidence is making the rounds on the internet, with many commenters suggesting weather-related names for this baby girl. Her parents (who are protecting their own privacy as well as her own) are not releasing their last name or their baby girl's first. But they will say it isn't Stormy.

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It was never my goal to be a mama and a wife. As a teenager, I was completely fine with my decision not to have children. When someone would ask me how many children I wanted, my response would always be none. In my 20's, I traveled the world and focused on building my career. A family of my own was far from my mind. And I was okay with that. Then I hit 30 and something inside me changed.

I'm not sure what exactly changed. Or why it changed. But I started to long for a family of my own.

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Then as if my heart's desire had been answered I met him. We fell in love. And within a few years, I was married to this incredible man. Then we received the best news we could have hoped for. I was pregnant—with a baby boy. The family I had longed for was right here in front of me. I had become this child's mama.

Just like that my whole life's focus changed.

My mind wasn't on my career progression or where in the world I was going to explore next. It was focused on this little human. This little human, who was safely cradled in my arms. This little human who now relied on me to provide him with care, with comfort, with love.

I became defined by my motherhood. And that was okay.

Now I won't lie, as my son grew and we welcomed our second child to our family, there were moments of exhaustion. Moments of frustration. Moments of tears. Moments where I desperately needed some me time.

But here is the truth. Yes, right now I am defined by motherhood. And that's okay. I spent many years longing to be here at this moment. To have my family. To be my children's mama.

I know this is a finite period in my life. So I am choosing to embrace it. I am choosing to find joy in my motherhood journey.

I know my children need me now in a way they won't ever again. And I don't want to miss out on all the beautiful moments right here in front of me.

You see, one day they won't need me to rock them in my arms or lay with them every night till they fall asleep.

One day they won't need me to pick them up and carry them everywhere. In fact, one day they will be too big for me to do that even if I wanted to.

One day they won't need to help them get dressed and put on their shoes.

One day they won't ask me to sing them that song for the 10th time.

One day they won't need me to do all the things for them as they do now.

You see, right now my children are only little. Right now they need me. Right now they choose me.

I am their safe place. I am their comfort. I am honored to be the one that they turn to. I am honored to be the one they call home.

That is why, first and foremost, I am defined by my motherhood. And that is more than okay with me.

This article was previously published here.

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Your to-do list is kind of under control. The kitchen is mostly clean. You just finished that big work project and to celebrate, you scheduled a lunch out with the girls tomorrow while your little one is at school. As you rest your head on the pillow you think to yourself, “Okay! I might actually sorta-kinda have this whole thing under control!"

And then you hear it from down the hallway: cough cough.

Your eyes shoot open. No. It's fine, just a little tickle in her throat. She's fine.

Cough cough cough.

Nope, it's fine. If I lay here and don't move nothing will be...

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“MOOOOOOMMMMMMYYYYYYYYY I don't feeeeeeel goooooooood."

Sigh.

You break out the humidifier, the Tylenol and the snuggles. And then comes the inevitable question—can they go to school tomorrow? It's not an easy question to answer, for sure.

On the one hand, kids are basically walking booger factories at all times—if we kept them home for every sneeze and cough they'd never go to school. On the other hand, we don't want to put our kids in a situation where they could get sicker—or make other kids sick.

When in doubt, you should always give your pediatrician a call for guidance. Most schools have policies on it as well.

But as a general rule of thumb, here's what to know when your child isn't feeling well:

On fevers

The most clear cut of all symptoms are fevers—if they have a fever, they stay home. A fever is any temperature of 100.4 Fahrenheit or greater. A child needs to be fever-free for a full 24-hours before they can return to school.

Note: If your newborn has a fever she needs medical attention right away. It could be an emergency.

On stuffy noses and coughs

A mildly stuffy nose, or an occasional cough isn't enough to warrant a day off from school. But if the mucus is really thick and/or the cough is frequent, loud, or just sounds “gross," it's probably best to keep her home.

Coughs can linger for a long time in children, but if it persists for several days, or she has a fever with it, give your doctor a call. If the cough sounds like a seal barking, and certainly if she is having any trouble breathing, get medical attention right away.

On tummy troubles

Or as my daughter's preschool teacher called it, “intestinal mischief." If your child is vomiting or has diarrhea, they should stay home (and should stay home for 24 hours after the last incident). Make sure everyone at home washes their hands really well, as stomach bugs tend to be very contagious.

Remember to encourage your child to drink lots of fluids. If they aren't drinking, call your doctor right away.

On skin issues

This can be tricky—between marker explosions, dry skin and rashes, it seems like my kids' skin looks different every day. Rashes are almost impossible to diagnose over the phone, so if you are concerned, they'll need to be evaluated by their doctor to help determine the cause (and contagiousness) of the rash.

If you suspect your child has lice, they should stay home as well—and you'll probably have to give the school a call so they can ANONYMOUSLY alert the other parents.

Along the same lines is the dreaded conjunctivitis, or pink eye. Usually your child (or lucky you) will wake up with their eyelids crusted shut, or they'll have a very pink eye with lots of goop (sorry—but we're all moms here, we can handle the eye goop convo right?)

This is highly contagious, so they should for sure stay home from school. Depending on if it's viral or bacterial, you doctor may prescribe medicine that clears it up quickly.

On pain

This one is tough—kids often complain about various boo-boos, especially when it means that they get a Frozen Bandaid out of the deal. If they complain of pain persistently, if the pain prevents them from playing, and of course if you witness a bad injury, keep them home and get medical help right away.

Remember that you know your child best. Ultimately, you get to make the decision. Your pediatrician will be there to guide you, and one day, ONE DAY, you really will get that whole to-do list tackled... we think?

You've got this.

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