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Nha Khanh’s designer on creating a fashion line—and a family

#MotherlyMakers features the entrepreneurial women remaking our world. We chatted with Khanh Nguyen, the Creative Director and Designer of the Nha Khanh label, about her incredible collection—sold at stores like Saks, Rent the Runway and Anthropologie—how she decided to go into the fashion industry despite uncertainty, and how her daughter inspires her at work.



Your designs are all over the world from Neiman Marcus to Kim Kardashian's closet to Vogue. We'd love to hear—how did you get started in the fashion industry?

I grew up in an artistic family as my father was an art teacher and my mother was a great dress designer.

I remember falling deeply in love with designing and making dresses for my dolls at the tender age of 5 while watching my mother designing and running her own bridal salon in Vietnam.

My family immigrated to the states in 1993 and it was my parents dream for me to become a doctor.

To appease my parents wishes I studied biology and got accepted into The University of Texas's School of Pharmacy.

Almost four years into my major I knew this wasn't for me and I made the gut decision to switch to become a Fashion Design major.

I won several awards and scholarships to help pay for my last year of college.

One of the prestigious scholarships I won was the Fashion Group International of Dallas for Top Achievement Award, which afforded me a life-changing experience to further my fashion study in Paris under the teaching of world leading experts from Chanel, Christian Dior, Ann Valerie Hash, Jean Paul Gaultier, and Elie Saab.

While I was in Paris the summer of 2008, my husband,then boyfriend decided to join me.

We visited several cities in Europe, then he surprised me with a engagement proposal in Venice, Italy.

Excited and already inspired by my experience in Europe, I couldn't wait to come back to start designing all my wedding attires.

Not only did I design my own wedding gown, I made all four dresses for myself, 5 bridesmaid dresses and 2 flowergirl dresses.

The last dress I wore at my wedding was a short ivory lace dress with adorable nude tulle petticoat really stole the show.

Every girl at my wedding fell in love with it.

A year later, I made the dress in a black version to attend an event.

People were stopping me left and right to ask about the dress.

I decided to name the dress, Milace (short for Mi(ni) Lace).

Special custom requests for the Milace dress started to roll in.

Then my husband and I decided that it was time to take the business to the next level.

Soon after, we met many of my staff, most who are still with us today.

What was it like when you first decided to start Nha Khanh?

“Uncertain, uplifted, inspired and going above" and beyond are some of the things and feelings I had to dealt with when started out.

Uncertain of what the future would hold, uplifted because I finally had the strength to follow my dreams, inspired by those I surrounded myself with, going above and beyond in everything I do and I still and continue to do that.

Was there a moment that you knew this was what you needed to do?

When I had a gut instinct and changed my major in school. I knew fashion design was something in me and I couldn't let that go to waste.

Can you give us a little glimpse into a day-in-the-life of a renowned designer, owner, and creative director, not to mention 3 yr old mama like yourself?

At 6: 30 am. . .

Wake up. Prepare breakfast for both my daughter and me.

My husband usually leaves for work before 7am, so he'd just grab something quick to munch on on his way out.

But I like to make sure my daughter is fed before I drop her off at school.

Then wake my daughter up.

Get her ready.

At 7:45 am. . .

I'd go get ready while my daughter is having her breakfast. After I'm done getting ready, I take my daughter to school on my way to the studio.

At 10:00 am. . .

every morning, I either have meetings with my staff as a team, individually or I have custom fittings with my clients.

At 1:00 pm. . .

I have lunch with my husband while discussing new plans and upcoming tasks (we work together).

After lunch, I check and answer emails.

I walk around the studio, checking up on everyone.

At this time, questions from my staff are being thrown at me.

If it's something urgent (which always seems to be the case) I'd deal with them right then and there.

At 3:00 pm. . .

troubleshooting and decision making. Finalizing patterns, sewing techniques, and design details.

At 5:00 pm. . .

While everyone is getting ready to go home, I usually stay back to finish as much work as I can until 6:30pm.

At 9:00 pm. . .

This is usually my daughter's bedtime.

I read to her and cuddle her to sleep.

After she falls asleep, I check and answer my emails again.

Do research on new projects.

Then fall asleep around 11pm to midnight.

What's the best piece of advice you've been given?

My mother always tells me, “ Your health is your wealth. Take care of yourself."

Do you have a mentor or someone you look up to that's helped to shape you as a woman and a mother?

Yes, my own mother.

Tell us about Nhavy. How has she changed your career?

My life took a sharp turn since the day I found out I was pregnant.

I've decided, my health, my marriage, and my pregnancy come above all else.

Everything else would fall into place as it should and it did.

I know when I'm healthy, my pregnancy would be easy.

When pregnancy is easy, my daughter would turn out to be healthy, which in turn would make my life easier to juggle between family and work life.

Luckily, my daughter was very healthy and was such a good girl when she was born.

She even slept through the night after 5 weeks.

I was able to breastfeed her for almost a year.

I made sure this was one of my priorities.

My husband was very hands-on with my daughter and that allowed me to get back to work early and smoothly.

Positive attitudes also really help me get through many tough times and attract many great things as well. I've never had the patience that I have now, children really teach you how to be patient and the way you look at life.

Your style?

Polished with aromatic edge.

Being a mother and a successful entrepreneur is no easy feat, and you do it with such grace and style. We love that you bring your daughter to work with you, and create an environment that welcomes other mothers on your team to do the same. What are your secrets for integrating work and family?

Ever since my daughter was born, I was able to have her around at the studio until she turned 18-months.

She got to interact with everyone, familiar faces to strangers.

She grew to love my staff and loves being at the studio any chance she gets. I work in an opened-yet-intimate environment.

I love getting to know each and everyone on my team and having their kids in the office as well.

I want to take care of them like they've been taking care of my business and myself.

Most of my staff are woman with family and kids.

I can definitely relate to their roles as working mothers.

I want my staff to be happy when they come to work, so I often openly share my ups and downs with them as well as lending them an words of advice.

I want to be their leader, not their boss.

I don't mind getting down and dirty when crisis falls upon us.

I also try to keep an open-mind to let them explore their creativities and learn from them as we grow our company.

We love seeing Nhavy pop up in our Instagram feed—she is the most adorable, and best dressed, little girl! What are your tips for styling her and choosing her wardrobe?

On weekdays , I set aside two outfits I want her to wear to school each morning.

She only has 2 options. She can pick whichever outfit she wants.

On weekends, I let her choose whatever her heart desires.

This means she would pull everything and I mean everything that is pink to put on her body from head to toe.

What gets you out of bed in the morning and keeps you inspired and excited about life?

My husband, my daughter and my job.

We'd love to hear—what would you tell other mamas who want to turn their passions into their professions?

Do it wholeheartedly and have a clear plan.

What are your big dreams for Nha Khanh?

To continue to expand my business as a whole start a children's line.

What about for Nhavy?

I hope to raise her in a loving and creative environment, to fully use her God given talents, to know herself and follow her heart.

What do you hope she learns from your career?

Talents are nothing if you don't know how to use them right.

Have patience, a lot of patience.

Nothing good comes easily.

Stop and smell the roses.

Do not take shortcuts, you'll never know what you're missing out. Last but not least, take care of your staff, they are your business...without them, there is no business.

What does it mean to you to be “Motherly"?

Motherly is to be a woman with compassion and passion to take care of others, to nurture young minds while nurturing the inner child in you.


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Unstructured play is play without predetermined rules of the game. There are no organized teams, uniforms, coaches or trainers. It is spontaneous, often made-up on the spot, and changeable as the day goes on. It is the kind of play you see when puppies chase each other around a yard in endless circles or a group of kids play for hours in a fort they created out of old packing boxes.

Unstructured play is fun—no question about it—but research also tells us that it is critically important for the development of children's bodies and brains.

One of the best ways to encourage unstructured play in young children is by providing open-ended toys, or toys that can be used multiple ways. People Toy Company knows all about that. Since 1977, they've created toys and products designed to naturally encourage developmental milestones—but to kids, it all just feels like play.

Here are five reasons why unstructured play is crucial for your children—

1. It changes brain structure in important ways

In a recent interview on NPR's Morning Edition, Sergio Pellis, Ph.D., an expert on the neuroscience of play noted that play actually changes the structure of the developing brain in important ways, strengthening the connections of the neurons (nerve cells) in the prefrontal cortex, the area of the brain considered to be the executive control center responsible for solving problems, making plans and regulating emotions.

Because unstructured play involves trying out different strategies without particular goals or serious consequences, children and other animals get to practice different activities during play and see what happens. When Dr. Pellis compared rats who played as pups with rats that did not, he found that although the play-deprived rats could perform the same actions, the play-experienced rats were able to react to their circumstances in a more flexible, fluid and swift fashion.

Their brains seemed more "plastic" and better able to rewire as they encountered new experiences.

Hod Lipson, a computer scientist at Cornell sums it up by saying the gift of play is that it teaches us how to deal with the unexpected—a critically important skill in today's uncertain world.

2. Play activates the entire neocortex

We now know that gene expression (whether a gene is active or not) is affected by many different things in our lives, including our environment and the activities we participate in. Jaak Panksepp, Ph.D., a Professor at the University of Washington studied play in rats earning him the nickname of the "rat tickler."

He found that even a half hour of play affected the activity of many different genes and activated the outer part of the rats' brains known as the neocortex, the area of the brain used in higher functions such as thinking, language and spatial reasoning. We don't know for sure that this happens in humans, but some researchers believe that it probably does.

3. It teaches children to have positive interaction with others

It used to be thought that animal play was simply practice so that they could become more effective hunters. However, Dr. Panksepp's study of play in rats led him to the conclusion that play served an entirely different function: teaching young animals how to interact with others in positive ways. He believed that play helps build pro-social brains.

4. Children who play are often better students

The social skills acquired through play may help children become better students. Research has found that the best predictor of academic performance in the eighth grade was a child's social skills in the third grade. Dr. Pellis notes that "countries where they actually have more recess tend to have higher academic performance than countries where recess is less."

5. Unstructured play gets kids moving

We all worry that our kids are getting too little physical activity as they spend large chunks of their time glued to their electronic devices with only their thumbs getting any exercise. Unstructured play, whether running around in the yard, climbing trees or playing on commercial play structures in schools or public parks, means moving the whole body around.

Physical activity helps children maintain a healthy weight and combats the development of Type 2 diabetes—a condition all too common in American children—by increasing the body's sensitivity to the hormone insulin.

It is tempting in today's busy world for parents and kids to fill every minute of their day with structured activities—ranging from Spanish classes before school to soccer and basketball practice after and a full range of special classes and camps on the weekends and summer vacation. We don't remember to carve out time for unstructured play, time for kids to get together with absolutely nothing planned and no particular goals in mind except having fun.

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Dana Dewedoff-Carney has a beautiful family. On paper, she's a mom of three. But in her heart, she has five children. She's had two miscarriages, one last year at five weeks, and another this past summer.

"I lost our son in June. I was 14 weeks pregnant, but he had passed away at 12," she tells Motherly, explaining that she and her husband had already named their boy Benjamin.

He never got a chance to live in this world, but he is changing it. His mama is the force behind Project Benjamin, a photo series that is going viral and changing the way people talk about pregnancy and infant loss.


Dewedoff-Carney started Rise for Women, a New Jersey-based organization dedicated to empowering women and connecting them with the resources they need to thrive. Rise for Women was born out of a painful time for Dewedoff-Carney. She was a single mom of three, and she was struggling, although from the outside she looked fine.

After launching Rise for Women Dewedoff-Carney created the hashtag #StruggleDoesNotHaveALook, which took on a whole new meaning this year after she and her now husband lost their babies. She came up with another hashtag, #TheyMatterToo, to remember them, and invited other moms to join in a photo session.

Each mother had her portrait taken with a chalkboard bearing a phase that someone told her after her miscarriage.

In Dewedoff-Carney's case, a doctor who perhaps meant to be kind told her the baby she lost "was the wrong baby." Other women in the photo series were told they could always adopt, or that they should be happy with the children they already have. Dewedoff-Carney says sometimes people don't realize how much their words cut those suffering a loss.

"I know people are not saying these things to be malicious and hurt us, but if they could just be a support and say, 'I am so sorry for your loss, I'm here for you,' that is so helpful," she explains.

Experts agree. Jessica McCormack is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice at The Self Care Path in Burr Ridge, Illinois. She says parents who've suffered a pregnancy loss don't need people to try to offer solutions or minimize their grief, but just to validate it.

"You aren't trying to fix their emotions, you are simply stating, 'I hear you, that was so hard for you, this really sucks right now.' No need to fix, no need to tell someone it will be okay. It's a time to just give a hug and tell them it's okay to feel how they feel. This often creates comfort just by knowing someone is there for you," she tells Motherly, adding that it is totally normal for parents to struggle after a loss.

"It's a completely normal experience to have a bunch of grief, sadness, depression, anxiety, shame, guilt and jealousy of others with healthy successful pregnancies," McCormack explains.


For Dewedoff-Carney, that's exactly what Project Benjamin is all about. She says too often conversations about the feelings one has after a miscarriage or infant death are happening behind closed doors or in private Facebook groups. She hopes her photo series will help people realize they're not alone, and that the woman down the street (or on Instagram) who seems to have it all may be suffering herself.

By having a very public conversation about pregnancy loss, Dewedoff-Carney and her fellow moms are hoping more people will understand what they're going through, and not try to minimize it.

Ashlyn Biedebach is a Registered Nurse and founder of By The Brook Birth Doula. She says "when a woman suffers a loss, at any gestational age, it is truly a loss, not just of a baby, but of hope and an idea of the future."

Biedebach suggests if parents who've suffered a loss encounter loved ones who don't seem to be recognizing their baby, they try to give them some grace, but that doesn't mean you have to pretend it didn't happen.

"Well-meaning family members may intentionally choose to move past painful experiences, even if you are still deep in the grief of the loss of your baby. Bringing up your loss in a gentle way, or having an intentional conversation with those who are moving on can help, but also talking with a counselor, too."

As a therapist, McCormack agrees. "Since it's roughly 1 in 4 women that have a pregnancy that ends in miscarriage, women need support," she tells Motherly, recommending that women who've had a loss talk to their OB-GYN or family physician and ask if there are any support groups in their community.

If your doctor doesn't refer you to a support group you can find a therapist yourself. McCormack suggests women simply search the psychologytoday.com therapist directory by entering their zip code along with the keywords "miscarriage" and "fertility." The therapy doesn't have to be just for mom, either. Sometimes dads need to talk, too.

"I also encourage couples to go to therapy after something like this, as men tend to feel lost and uncertain as to how to process their own feelings while supporting their partner," says McCormack.

Both McCormack and Biedebach agree that talking about this kind of loss, whether in person or over social media, is important. Biedebach says, for some parents, honoring their baby through a social media post is their way of remembering and recognizing their importance. McCormack notes that a social media post can also be a good way to invite a larger quantity of people to support you in your time of need.

"It also reduces the stigma by bringing to light that it is completely normal for women to experience something like this," she explains.

That's Dewedoff-Carney's goal, and while she can't travel the county photographing mothers herself, she's inviting anyone to join the conversation by taking their own photo, sharing their story and using the hashtags #StruggleDoesNotHaveALook and #TheyMatterToo. Since her photos went viral, women have been commenting and sharing their stories publicly, and it's brought Dewedoff-Carney to tears.

"They're naming the children that they lost," she explains. "They're doing that, they're speaking their truth, and they're letting it out."

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In the moments after we give birth, we desperately want to hear our baby cry. In the middle of the night a few months later it's no longer exactly music to our ears, but those cries aren't just telling us that baby needs a night feeding: They're also giving us a hint at what our children may sound like as kindergarteners, and adults.

New research published in the journal Biology Letters suggests the pitch of a 4-month-old's cry predicts the pitch they'll use to ask for more cookies at age five and maybe even later on as adults.

The study saw 2 to 5-month olds recorded while crying. Five years later, the researchers hit record again and chatted with the now speaking children. Their findings, combined with previous work on the subject, suggest it's possible to figure out what a baby's voice will sound like later in life, and that the pitch of our adult voices may be traceable back to the time we spend in utero. Further studies are needed, but scientists are very interested in how factors before birth can impact decades later.

"In utero, you have a lot of different things that can alter and impact your life — not only as a baby, but also at an adult stage," one of the authors of the study, Nicolas Mathevon, told the New York Times.

The New York Times also spoke with Carolyn Hodges, an assistant professor of anthropology at Boston University who was not involved in the study. According to Hodges, while voice pitch may not seem like a big deal, it impacts how we perceive people in very real ways.

Voice pitch is a factor in how attractive we think people are, how trustworthy. But why we find certain pitches more or less appealing isn't known. "There aren't many studies that address these questions, so that makes this research especially intriguing," Hodges said, adding that it "suggests that individual differences in voice pitch may have their origins very, very early in development."

So the pitch of that midnight cry may have been determined months ago, and it may determine part of your child's future, too. There are still so many things we don't know, but as parents we do know one thing: Our babies cries (as much as we don't want to hear them all the time) really are something special.

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The other morning, I took my clothes off before stepping into the shower. In my little bathroom, I stopped to check out my mom-of-two body in the mirror. My breasts drooped. My stomach stretched flat until below my navel. There, protruded my kangaroo pouch where my uterus stretched twice for two healthy babies.

Then, my eyes glanced lower to the scar from my first birth—my C-section. The swooping line had faded. The right side seemed darker, but the left side turned light. The scar almost smirks at me now.

While in the shower, I cleansed my scar gently with a lavender loofah. Although the cesarean occurred over six years ago, I always wash it softly. A sense of sadness washed over me—I don't want my scar to fade. My scar reminds me of determination, redemption, and love.

Yes, it was years ago when the doctor took his utensils and sliced me open, but for some reason, I felt like the scar would always look like it was painted on.

My C-section story mimics one of far too many women. I felt like I was bullied into it. I had only labored for 18 hours and was dilated to a seven. "Trust me," my obstetrician said, "I've delivered hundreds of babies. You're not built to have this baby naturally." True, I'm only five feet tall, but I didn't really buy into the lie he was trying to to get me to believe. "Just give me one more hour," I begged, "I'll progress."

"I have eight other babies to deliver tonight," he said.

He wasn't lying.

"A C-section is a routine surgery," he continued.

After more pleading on his part, I finally gave in. The nurse wheeled me into the OR and I delivered my first baby at 9:33 pm on June 12, 2012. The recovery, the breastfeeding—everything about early motherhood—pushed me inches close to depression.

When I went back to see my obstetrician for my six-week check-up my doctor looked at my incision to make sure I was healing okay. "Wow," he said, applauding himself, "who stitched you up? That is one clean incision." From those arrogant words, I made up my mind: My next birth will be a VBAC.

And almost two years later (and working with a new provider), I gave birth to my daughter. I had her vaginally. My strong-willed daughter decided to thunder into this world five days late. And her birth was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.

From start to finish, her labor lasted 50 hours. It was two days of agony, doubt, and full-blooded grit. After pushing for over two hours, I remember looking up at the white clock. I wanted to give up. At that point, I had labored for 49 hours. There is no way I'll be able to mentally recover from another C-section, I thought. Sorrow filled me. I didn't have any will left within me—I didn't think I could push anymore.

I was wrong.

I thought of the arrogance I encountered with my first obstetrician. He took my will away from me. He took my right to a natural childbirth. He even took some of my joy.

But I also felt like I let him.

So, the second time around, I made the decision to push—harder. In a way, that doctor empowered me to speak up for myself and believe in my determination. After another hour—three hours total of pushing—the time had come. At 3:54 on June 25, 2014, my daughter was born via VBAC. Her ferocious cry woke my spirit. As her black hair laid on my chest, we sobbed together—a determined mother and daughter.

So, now that my scar is starting to fade, I feel sad. This scar represents my own grit. My own tenacity. My own stubbornness. Things I now pass down to my daughter. I was not going to allow someone else tell me how my next baby was going to be born. My joy belongs to me. I took control of it, as much as I could.

I used to feel a little ashamed of my scar. To me, it represented my inability to speak up for myself. It represented my weakness. But now, my scar represents strength. So, now that I notice it is starting to fade, I feel like I want to tattoo it on permanently.

I look forward to the day when I'm changing my clothes in front of my daughter and she asks, "Mom, what's on your belly?" I'll tell her, "This scar is where your brother came from—and where our unified courage was birthed."

I hope this scar stays dark just a few years longer. Because it means that I can tell my daughter about her birth story—one where we defied the odds together—as a team.

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On a typical day, my 18-month-old daughter will ingratiate herself with the kids whose mothers thought to bring brightly-colored shovels and Fisher Price dump trucks to the park. I will inevitably come over and make sure to ask if it's okay that my daughter is playing with their toys. The mother will chirp, “Of course!" She will then turn to her brood. “We're sharing our toys with the baby!"

I will retreat to my post. I will watch vigilantly for signs that my daughter may be about to put a pile of gravel into her mouth or launch a handful of the tiny rocks in the air. I will watch as she explores the playground. I will also watch her take a tumble, the other mother jumping to her rescue before she's even landed.

“Oh, honey. It's okay. Your mama's right here." she'll croon, her eyes searching desperately for the child's mother, for me. My daughter, now hysterical, will be in this woman's tentative arms.

I will walk over and take my red-faced child, who will wrap her legs around my waist and bury her face in my shoulder.

“Thank you so much." I will say.

“Oh, it's no problem. I didn't see exactly what happened, but luckily I was right here."

I will return to my perch. My gaze will be fixed on my child but my mind will be fixated on the scene that has just played out.

In the small act of responding to my daughter's fall, this other mother has undermined me—which likely wasn't what she was intending to do, but still, is exactly how it made me feel. She's assumed that the right action was to go with her instinct, to rescue my daughter. Wrapped up in this assumption is the idea that I would've rescued her myself if I had been paying attention—that I would have prevented the fall in the first place if I cared.

I want to tell this woman that I do care, that my aloof exterior belies an infinite reservoir of caring. I want to defend myself and explain what kind of mother I am. I want to tell her that I am a wonderful mother, too.

I'm not the mother who brings a sippy cup of fresh juice and a Tupperware full of cheese cubes and sliced grapes to the park. Random fruit squeeze pouches from our last plane trip litter the bottom of my diaper bag, but this does not make me a bad mother. Of course it doesn't. And it doesn't make Tupperware-Mom the World's Best Mother. We're equal, but different.

I'm not the mother who rushes in when my daughter falls. I rarely get into a child-sized playground structure with her. This does not make me a bad mother. From a distance, I'm vigilant. Could her head fit through the slats in that fence? If she fell, how far would the drop be? How soft would the landing be? Is that structure designed for a toddler or a bigger kid? If I don't need to be next to her, I observe from afar.

It would be so much easier to be by my daughter's side at all times, holding her hand, spotting her as she climbs her way through the park. Though I ache to protect her from every danger, I force myself to hang back. How will she learn what's safe if I'm always protecting her? How will she know how far she can jump if she never falls short?

I want my daughter to love to play for its own sake. I may stand quietly off to the side, but as she zooms down the slide, her mouth open wide in a jubilant smile, my heart rejoices.

This is the kind of mother I am.

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